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So I have been dating a guy for 3 years he proposed to me last year and all along we have talked about our future and the possibility of having a baby (he has 2 teenage kids already)

In the past few month he has made some questionable financial decisions and we fell behind on rent as well as bills I started talking to him since august of this year about it as I was extremely stressed about it I hate paying bills late, when the rent was due this month he stated that he forgot to make his car insurance payment and that he cannot pay his part of the rent.

As a result last tuesday I spoke with him in regards to our responsibilities and how to fix our situation and i said if things are not going to improve we need to reevaluate our relationship. After that he proceeded to tell me that we needed to break up as it was too stressful, I talked to him about facing problems together if things get tough but that we needed to start planning for the future together. Then we took a few days apart (we live together tho) and on sunday we sat down and he told me that he had been lying to me from the beggining to make me happy, he said that he never wanted to have a baby with me, that he never wanted more children...but he knew I did so he had been lying to me to make me happy. for 3 years? he lied for 3 years.

As a result from all of this we have decided to end our relationship and I am moving out of our apartment this sunday I already have a place to go.

Last night I was supposed to start packing but after getting home I was overwhelmed and could not pack and ate in bed and cried a lot played my PS3 until I fell asleep.

I have good friends but do not want to burden them by constantly talking about my heart ache and dissapointment, I need advice on how to get through this I only have 4 more days there but it breaks my heart everytime i get home or look at him. I still love him he is just not the person i need in my life.

I need someone who wants the same things as me just as much as me.

Please help I am going crazy!

Hi I have been in a relationship with someone for 3 years our relationship started really intense and we could not keep our hands off each other with time things started coolind down and we started arguing, he received some money for a settlement case something in the vein of $150,000 which I told him I though we should save the money and use it through our lives because you never know what might happen, we got into a lot of arguments about this and ended up breaking up right before he got his money as I knew he was going to waste it away, he received this money in June of last year by September of that year he had $3,000 left during that period tho he proposed to me and I accepted and decided to give it a go we moved in together now a year after all of this we are behind on our rent I cannot buy shaving razors I am borrowing money form the petty cash at work to buy food, he keeps telling me that everything will be ok and turn around. On Monday I had to go to court with him he got caught speeding on a school zone and got community service and fee's. He works close to 18 hours a day and he never has any money I am not a golddigger but our financial situation is stressing me so much that I am crying all the way to work while I drive. I want to commit myself to a mental institution. It is driving me insane beacuse I do care for him but our sex life is non existant and our financial situation is beyond deplorable I need some advice should I walk away for good or wait it out until things get better...