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I was taking one 8 mg Suboxone a day to help with opiate withdrawal. I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant and stopped taking them, but now, three days later, I have never felt such depression and lack of motivation to do anything--even shower. My fiance went to rehab as soon as we found out to get off of opiates, and so I am left to deal with this on my own. How can I shake out of a chemical depression like this?

I have no clue what's going on. We were so excited with the news, and ever since then I have been depressed with almost no upside at all. I have no specific concerns about the baby or being a mother, but I can't stand the thought of work or really leaving the house in general. I have even thought about dying and it was a relief in my mind, the thought of not being alive anymore. The only thing that's changed is that when I found out about the pregnancy four days ago I stopped smoking and started using a nicotine patch instead. I've heard of post-partum depression, but is there such a thing as first trimester depression?

My boyfriend proposed a month ago after asking me to move in with him for months while I refused. I love him, and so after he proposed I moved in. As a result, my parents told me that they would support my choice but that was it, I can't move back in with them again (my fiance is aware of how they feel). After I moved in it was like he slowly became a completely different person. He's short tempered, expects me to never make mistakes and leaves me at home most night to do whatever he wants to do even though when we were dating we did everything together. I just don't understand it. It's like he knows I'm somewhat trapped and need to live here now, and he has become someone I don't like or recognize.

I am graduating college in May and have very limited financial resources of my own (about $1200), though fortunately I have very few debts, no credit card debt and my car is paid off. I don't see how I can afford to move out but I'm really worried about this situation, and he's still really pushing for the wedding ASAP. Any advice?

I am a 25 year old alcoholic. I fell off the wagon a week ago and have been drinking fairly steadily since. I woke up this morning and couldn't believe the pain. My heart is going crazy, I'm completely nauseated, and I feel very weak. I cannot go to detox at a hospital--my fiance would be furious (he doesn't believe that my hangovers are that bad and I don't blame him.) Is there anything I can do to get my body under control at home? My hands and feet keep losing circulation, too. Please, don't tell me just to stop drinking and deal with it...I understand what that means, but it doesn't change how frightened I am about how sick I feel.

P.S. As a sidenote, I've lost about 10 pounds in the past couple of weeks. It was not on purpose. I am about 5'9" and now I weigh about 120.

I've quit eating all meat and dairy for the past week. Today I ate a little bag of potato chips and then read on the back of it that there is lactose in it. I'm frustrated because I'm trying my best to avoid these foods and still screwing up! So many food items pack dairy into them and it's hard to tell sometimes. Any advice?

I'm worried about the baby. I've been drinking alcohol, on occasion pretty heavily, in the past several weeks. Has this happened to anyone else?

Sometimes I feel like all I do is drink. It has escalated from barhopping with friends to drinking straight vodka most of the day with V8 fruit juice so that I manage to get some nutrition. It's to the point where I had to move back into my college's dorm as a 24 year old grad student because my parents couldn't stand it. The worst part is somehow I've managed to still do very well with school and generally speaking manage my relationships with other people, and everyone is always cutting me slack, I think because I've become a manipulative flirt who uses her looks to her advantage (although I never go to bars; I mainly drink alone or with others but from my own stash.) Everyone says AA is the key, but I've gone to AA and I know other people have my same adddiction, but it is not enough; I've always had terrible anxiety and some depression, and without the booze, I feel really terrified about life at this point. I think I need more than just AA. Has anyone else been there?

My boyfriend felt it was absolutely the wrong time and therefore the right decision and I went along. Now I'm drinking too much, yelling at him for every little thing and I have trouble studying for my lectures. I'm ruining my relationship and my health and I don't know what to do. I don't have lots of money for therapy.

I'm a 24 year old female who drank way too much in college and am just now quitting. It's been a week and I'm thrilled that I've had no withdrawal symptoms, but I wanted to know the best diet/skin care approach to help repair my body from the damage I may have done to it. Any suggestions? I appreciate any input!

Christina

Pretty straightforward! Does anyone know?

I cut down from my high calorie diet to about 1500 calories for a few days, yeasterday I had probably 1000, and today I've had maybe 250 (it's 5:20 PM here.) I have a TONE of energy--so much it's making me giddy and manic, like I can't sit still or focus. What could this be? I am 23, female, 5'9" and around 135 lbs.

The line I remember is "this stress is taking a toll on me" I think, and something about sleeping with the enemy? It's a newer pop song and a girl sings it...

This is awful to admit, but I have probably had 3 or more drinks a day for at least 6 days a week for a year or more. I want to quit drinking entirely, but I'm worried about the damage I could have already done to my 23 year old body! Does anyone know how much damage I could have caused?

Can anyone translate the word lesbian into Russian?

What does everyone think about the full acquittal for the Duke lacrosse players? Does anyone here feel that the accuser was telling the truth, or does the fact that her story changed so many times ruin her credibility entirely?

Awhile back, I started getting a magazine but had never ordered it so I ignored it (I was only 19 or so.) I got bills in the mail and even notices from collection agencies but my stupid self didn't think I could take a hit to my credit if I had never even ordered the service I was being charged for. Anyway, my credit report classifies this magazine subscription as "Seriously past due date / assigned to attorney, collection agency, or credit grantor's internal collection department," but it's been well over 2 years, all the mailings have ceased and the account status says "closed," like the other credit cards I've paid off.

However, I think my credit is still suffering because of this. What should I do?

My friend has an ex-boyfriend and his car is in her name, not for his car payments but the title is in her name and she needs to get it out of her name because he won't find another person to put the vehicle in someone else's name. What rights does she have to get the vehicle out of her name? He is really hesitating about this. Help!

If Bounce and other such gay bars is my only connection to the gay community in Cleveland or Akron, I'm sad about that! Any suggestions?

I am a lesbian and also a Christian. I have not experienced hatred or discrimination so much in my particular denomination of Christianity, but it hasn't been accepted, either. Can Christianity and homosexuality coexist? Just looking for opinions, here.

My tolerance to alcohol is out of control. I am a 5'9" 135 lb female and the other night, I drank a half litre of vodka with VERY minimal side effects. I didn't even realize how much I had consumed because the shot glass I was using held more than one shot, which I wasn't thinking about, and I didn't feel drunk so I didn't think to stop. I realized that not only do I never get hangovers, but that it takes me an altogether silly amount of booze to feel the effects. Is this genetic? My family doesn't seem to be as resistant as I am. Is it diet-related? I wasn't like this in college!