Brandon

Well, the other day me and my friend went out on a date. It went really well so I decided that I should ask her out. She said yes, but on the condition that we would take things slowly. The next day forever, she sent me this long, well worded message saying that she was thinking about it all day, and decided that she wasn't really ready for a relationship right now. She told me it wasn't what I did, and that she really did have fun hanging out with me and likes me a lot and that she loves talking with me, but that she feels she just isn't ready for a relationship.

Now, I know this is kind of a cop out response, but this girl is a really quiet person. She really doesn't talk much with anyone, not even some of her close friends, and has never had a boyfriend before. So I believe her when she says it is just because she doesn't feel comfortable with a relationship.

Is there anything I can do? and is it wrong for me to try and wait until she is ready? I really like this girl and I have no problem waiting for her, since its her, not really a relationship, that I want, and I don't want to force her into anything that she isn't ready for, because she deserves a lot better then that.

After hanging out two of my friends on Friday. I decided to talk to one of them to try to figure out my feelings towards the other. She said that I had to stop telling her that I really want her to be happy and that I'm obsessed over her.

After hearing that I'm starting to worry if I'm really being obsessed over this girl or not. I know I think of her often, but I don't let that stop me from doing other things. I like to talk to her, but I know I don't have to talk to her to know she cares about me. I talk about her to my friends, but Istill talk to them about a lot of other things to. I like to see and hang out with her, but I don't want to spend every single minute with her.

Am I really as obsessed as my other friend says I am? or am I just worrying to much about this?

This girl I've developed strong feelings for just got into a relationship yesterday. I was being honest and told her that I liked her, but I didn't tell her just how strong my feelings are for her. I feel kind of sick about it all, but the girl is still a friend of mine, so I feel like even though it hurts, I should still be the friend she deserves and continue to talk and care about her. She said she really likes the real me and is glad that we met; plus she said that she does have some feelings for me.

I don't really know what I should do. I'm worried that her bf will end up hurting her, and I feel that I probably care more about her then he does. Something tells me I should follow my heart and fully confess, but the other part of me says I should just stay her friend and be their for her. What should I do? And what can I do to help ease the pain of it all?

I met this girl around 2 weeks ago and I've grown really fond of her. We talk through Facebook and through text several times a week, so I've kind of gotten used to talking to her. I've been thinking about calling her as a surpise, but I'm not really sure if I should or not. I really like her, but I'm a little nervous when I talk to people in person or through phone sometimes.

So, should I just be a man and call her? And will it maybe help make her like me even more?

During this Event I was helping out at, I was paired up with this one girl as my partner and so we spent most of the day working with each other. We didn't talk a lot besides at lunch really, but I would occasionally whisper a joke ever know and then to help her have more fun. She laughed at most of my jokes, even the really stupid ones, and always looked and smiled at me as I did so.

I'm not sure why, but I kind of want to talk to her again, but I have no idea if she really even wants to and that I was just seeing things that weren't really there. Any advice?

This girl I likes open house is tomorrow, and I really would like to give a note wishing her good luck in college and telling her how I feel.

"First of all, I apologize and advice if I write something stupid or hurtful. I’m going to be honest here, typing this up wasn’t exactly easy for me to do, and I was pretty nervous thinking about what should stay in or get cut out. I’ve probably went through several different ways to go with it and things that I should add, but I still hate the finished product of it. I even wrote some of this down, but decided that typing it would make the whole thing easier for you to read and understand, my hand writing sucks :P.

I hope that you had a great time with your open house. I hope that all your friends and family we’re able to show up and treated you right, and that everyone gave you enough money to help you put a dent into your tuition fees for college. I know you deserved a lot more money than what I put in, and I feel kind of bad that I didn’t give you more. Oh, and I hope that you enjoyed the food; the whole thing would a big letdown if the food wasn’t up to your standards!

I also understand if you’re stressed about everything. You’re moving away from a home that I��m assuming you lived in most of your life, and people that you’ve grown close to and fond of…..won’t be there for you like they are now. I really respect you for it in a way. It’s actually a pretty courageous thing to do, and I believe that you won’t have much issue’s adapting, and to be perfectly honest, I know that you’ll manage a lot better with it then I probably will. You need to remember, however, that no matter how bad things might get, or how uncomfortable things might be, you’ll still have friends and family that care about you, and will do anything they can to make things better.

I don’t mean to beat a dead horse, so I’m sorry for saying this again, but I’m really happy that you decided to hang out with me last Friday. It was really nice being able to see and talk to you again, and while I know I really didn’t say as much as I should have, I found the things you had to say we’re really interesting, and I feel like I got to know you a lot better than usual.

I guess this part is kind of personal, so I hope you feel insulted by anything I’m about to say; I know we haven’t really been friends for very long (about a month and a half, but hey, who’s counting) but I’ve enjoyed every second of it. I know you might say otherwise, and you might not agree with me, but you really are a very great friend, and I’m pretty disappointed that I wasn’t able to meet you sooner. You’re really fun to talk to, and you always seem to have a mostly positive attitude with the ability to spin humor onto things when we talk. I feel like you listen to the things I have to say and actually bother to remember them, and I know that if I ever need someone to talk to, you’ll be there to listen."

So, what do you guys think? What should I add/ remove? I'd really like to insert how pretty I think she is, but I'm not sure where to put it. Any help would be appreciated

I invited one of my friends to come over to my house the other day so I could get to know her better. I had planned on us going out to eat somewhere and to watch movies after that, but we ended up just talking to each other the whole time. When she went and left, she smiled and seemed really happy when I told her we should do this again sometime, and I started thinking of more things we could do later.

She hasn't really spoken to me since then, She would rather not reply back to me, or send messages back to me in such a way that shows she would rather I left her alone. Did I do something wrong to upset her? I'm afraid I wasn't interesting enough for her, or that I said something to hurt her feelings, or didn't say much to her at all. HAve I done something bad, or am I just over thinking things?

It turns out that I might have Aspergers, and Its possible that I actually was already diagnosed with it. Besides for a few cases every now and then, I hardly ever am able to figure out just what a person's emotions are when I'm talking to them. It feels like everyone around me wheres a mask, making me unable to see through physical signs.

I have started asking my friends to tell my there emotions to compensate, and ask them odd questions like if THey don't want to talk, or if they are annoyed or mad at me. My friends don't always take these questions well, and usually make them even more mad if they were. Is it odd and bad of me for asking and wanting to know what they're feeling? A lot of my friends don't know I have Aspergers, should I tell them? One of the reason's I had it because of abuse; I already get made fun of for being a geek, and I don't want the extra crap.

For most of this week, I was with my FFA group in the Annual State Convention. I have one really good friend in the group, but I unfortunately wasn't being a good friend to her. I was being distant the whole time, giving her the allusion I didn't want to talk to her, and I kept on being disrespectful to her and accusing her of not being a friend or not wanting to talk to me.

I blamed her about this, but now I realize that it was all my fault. Even though she might say its fine, I need to apologize to her. I feel like I should call her and apologize, it shows that I truely an sorry, and would be a lot more personal and believable. What do you guys think I should do? Will she forgive me?

Is it wrong that it bothers me when people don't text me right away? I know people are busy, and I know they don't have to talk to me if they don't want to, but I still get mad and upset a little bit when it takes hours for someone to reply/message me back? I really care about all the people that do this to me, and for some reason it feels like they don't care about me back.

IS this something to be upset about? Or am I just being childish?

I haven't been sleeping right, I have felt my days becoming less and less happy as time goes by, and I've been wondering just what I am living for. Should I go find some help with this? or would it be best to wait it out?

I don't really even know why, so figuring out what is causing it would help to.

While I've never really been an extremely happy person, I can't say I've ever really been that depressed in my life by anything. Things have gotten worse for me though, since my gf of a year and 6 months broke up with me on the 27th last month through a text message while I was on a trip with some of my classmates. She now won't speak with me, and when she does its about how she wants to get back together or that everything is my fault and she's hurt, even though it was her idea to break up with me and I was always the nice one in the relationship.

I've never really been a talkative person, so I don't have many friends, and most of the one's I still have I barely talk to and see anymore, or don't really care about me or my Issues. I do have a friend who I enjoy talking to and spending time with, who is willing to share here feelings with me and trusts me enough to help her out, but I feel bad telling her most of mine. I guess I'm afraid telling her these things will make her re4sent me or think I'm only using her to fix my feelings, and I'd hate myself if I ever made her upset.

I feel lonely, even though I know people care about me, and I don't know why theirs a big emptiness within me. Anything that can help me feel better, or understand why I'm like this, Is really appreciated.

I haven't been friends with this girl for a long time (only for about 3 weeks or so), and I'm usually a guy who has a hard time getting close to people in fear that I'll end up getting really hurt (Its happened multiple times).

Well, I was invited to her Basketball game by her because she said she really wanted to see me, and when I told her I couldn't make it she sounded upset that I couldn't be there. Well, I was able to find a ride so I was able to make it, and she said she was really happy to see me.

When she left the gym, (she was sad because her team lost and it was an important game) she thanked me for coming but had to leave without talking to me because she was with her bf (Her bf seems like a jerk, he hurts her a lot it seems). After talking through texts, she said she knew I really wanted to hug her and she wanted me to, but the only reason we couldn't was because her bf was there.

I sometimes stay up at night with her when she's upset, and she seems like she trusts me with her issues. She helped me feel better about my ex, and even asked for her number so she could yell at her and try to get her to apologize.

She said she hates Scary movies, but not long after that she said she thinks she would love watching Scary Movies with me.

I'm happy she's my friend, and will do anything to keep her happy, but is she hinting that she might like me more then just as a simple friend?

I've recently became friend's with this girl that I've known for a while now. I didn't expect much from the friendship at first; I just thought it would be another case where I like a person a whole lot more then they like me where we will talk for a couple weeks and then never speak again.

However, I asked her if she would like to go work at a farmer's market with me (We'd both get paid for it) and she seemed interested and told me she'd let me know if she can go sometime.

She also had a basketball game earlier in the week, and she asked me to go and told me she really wanted me to be there to watch her play, and seemed dissapointed when I told her I wasn't able to get a ride (it was a home game for her and she goes to a different school then I do). I was able to get a ride though, so I was able to make it and watch her play. After talking to her later, she said she was a little surprised that I was actually there. She told me it wasn't because she thought that I didn't want to go; but it was about her not getting her hopes up about being able to see me.

The group we're in (we met each other through the group) is going on a ski-trip this month. I joked to her about breaking both of my legs while on the bunny slope. She wasn't happy about the joke, and seemed upset at the thought of that happening, so I took it back and promised that I wouldn't get hurt, and this seemed to have made her happy.

I'm begging to think my initial thoughts we're wrong. is it possible that she likes me the same way? or perhaps even more then I like her?

I've been friends with this girl for only about 3 week's or so, but we've known each other for longer then that.

Since Valentine's Day was coming up, I am thinking about slipping a V-Day Card into her locker the day before. Would this be ok? or is it to soon and she'll think its weird?

I'm also planning on writing something inside of it. something like

"Hello, I thought that you deserve a little extra on Valentines Day. I hope you enjoy this card and I hope that you enjoy this day a great deal and that people treat you like the goddess you are :p.

Your friend, Brandon"

Would that be an acceptable letter? Should I even put my name on it? And is there anything that I should change/edit about it?

This girl that I think I might have feelings for exchanged numbers with me. I like talking to her and she seems to like texting/talking to me too. However, I'm not sure how often I should text her. Would texting her every day be ok? Or would it make her think that I'm super clingy and weird?

I have started to crush on this girl that recently became my friend. While she has started a few conversations with me through texts, I'm usually the one that sends the first message. However, she is the one that starts our conversation's in person. No matter how we talk, she seems to enjoy it and smiles and laughs at some of the things I say.

Should I be worried that she doesn't like to text me? Or that she just like it when I text her first?

I have a crush on one of my friends who has recently broking up with her bf. the guy left her because he was unhappy, so he left her for some other girl.

My friend still has strong feelings for him and believes he will come back and love her and treat her right, but I don't think the guy is worth it. Am I doing the right thing by telling her its time to move on and that she can do better?