Zqt One

Twins have grown out of their baby capsules & just found that they have expired. Carseats are still in good nick & haven't been in any accidents but it just seems a waste to just throw them out & environmentally unfriendly I would think & I've got two of them. Realise I cant pass it on to anyone else to use but are these things recyclable? Can they be stripped for parts or whatever? What does everyone else do with their seats besides filling up the landfill?

Family split & I'm left with the kids which I have no complaints there, but he decided to move down the road with his new family & ignore his own kids. Kids spent the year watching him drive past them on their way to school & dropping his step children off without any acknowledgment. Visitations, kids would wait to be picked up & he'd show up once a month if they're lucky. It's been almost 2 months since his last visit, the older kids ran into him on Monday & he said he'd see them xmas ... that day came & went & he didn't show? Told the kids not to worry about it ... now our friends & family turn up saying he turned up @ their house xmas eve visiting them? Why does he do that to the kids? When will he stop causing so much pain?

We have 5 kids together .....

5 kids together, the last 2 are twins .. he takes off before they were born says it's all too hard & he's depressed & ... blah blah blah, so worked right up until I gave birth ... have struggled with all 5, but have managed ... almost 2 yrs later he turns up, wants to see the kids. I'm happy for the older kids because they've missed him so & had thought that he'd finally start helping me out financially. Turns out he quit his last job because child support caught up with him & he's still trying to avoid paying. Said that if we came to a mutual agreement about payment that doesn't involve the agencies we'd be able to work something out & he wants me to ring & cancel any arrears he has with child support. Wants a clean slate. So far I have not received a cent, but that's nothing new, I've been forced to cancel the agreement & go back to govt agencies to collect for me, which hasn't gone down well. Apparently I'm selfish ... says things haven't been easy for him, he's in a relationship with somebody who has her own kids so has another family to support & that I should be thankful that he still wants to see our kids? He tells my 14yr old that his girlfriend is just a mate, but they can't visit his place, he'll pick them up & they'll spend the day together but they're not allowed over to his place. He'll turn up sometimes with her kids & make them sit in the car outside while he's visiting, keeps them quite seperate, he's moved since, but my daughter's school bus use to pass his house everyday, have spoken to him about this, but he just nuts off saying that I'm conspiring against him, my older children are heart broken & still love their dad, so still want to see him. As for our twins ... he doesn't want anything to do with them, he hasn't bonded with them ... doesn't want to start? He just does my head in everytime he does visit ... & that's a bit of a stretch ... never consistant, he'll just show up whenever. Bottom line ... he wants access, but doesn't want to pay? Access to only 3 ... but we have 5 kids together & access is when he can make time which we are suppose to be thankful for? Do I bite the bullet & just accept these arrangements for the kids sake or tell him to f@#$% off & carry on without him like we have been doing?