Leon Jau

what's your opion about it? i'm from china, after i came to australia to study, and paid some attention to asians in US, i found that the biggest problem is that they can't fit themselves to western society. they are always the least involved ethnic group that only do things in their own social cycle.

oriental and western culture are just different, and it differs too much. guess it's the biggest gap between people on this planet. white, black and latin or other races other than asian have something active in common in their blood. they like to dance, party, shout loud, do fierce sports, do group activity together, have sex, so on, but asia is just an introverted culture that doesn't suit to these things.

so what do you think?

after being here, australia, i came to know about western cultures, especially about romance things. i knew about how good a relationship could be. but i had none and i'm 24, i feel like i'm a weirdo and completely had no life. i'm from china.

and honestly, i like white girls, but i know that's just impossible. culture differs too much. in your culture every man can chat with girls in a relaxed and interesting way, without being awkward or uptight, and you can easily smile at opposite gender, or flirt with, but such sounding-simple things are just way too difficult for us asians, as in your world boys and girls start practicing relationship including sex in early teens, and everyone develops an outgoing personality and lots of knowledges on getting along with opposite sex, but we don't try any until 20+, as we were busy studying earlier, and boyfriend/girlfriend things is forbidden by school and family. we are extremely experience -lacked

now i feel it so tragic to be chinese, and even more tragic when you know the difference between how good things could be and what you have been with. if i didn't go abroad, i probably never get to know these, never get this sad . i even think if i keep thinking so, depress so, i might could commit a suicide - coz there's no value , no price in my life, what am i existing for ? what do you think?

after being here, australia, i came to know about western cultures, especially about romance things. i knew about how good a relationship could be. but i had none and i'm 24, i feel like i'm a weirdo and completely had no life. i'm from china.

and honestly, i like white girls, but i know that's just impossible. culture differs too much. in your culture every man can chat with girls in a relaxed and interesting way, without being awkward or uptight, and you can easily smile at opposite gender, or flirt with, but such sounding-simple things are just way too difficult for us asians, as in your world boys and girls start practicing relationship including sex in early teens, and everyone develops an outgoing personality and lots of knowledges on getting along with opposite sex, but we don't try any until 20+, as we were busy studying earlier, and boyfriend/girlfriend things is forbidden by school and family. we are extremely experience -lacked

now i feel it so tragic to be chinese, and even more tragic when you know the difference between how good things could be and what you have been with. if i didn't go abroad, i probably never get to know these, never get this sad . i even think if i keep thinking so, depress so, i might could commit a suicide - coz there's no value , no price in my life, what am i existing for ? what do you think?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFtvh0WyTkU

just wonder if i'm the only one who can read "sex" from her face. i mean just staring at her face can generate me some infromation and imagination about sex. i feel that she has a very real personality and looks really beautiful. especially when singing the chorus from 0:45 on

recently my value system just changed a lot

i came to realize that there is not a thing called 'fairness' in this world, nor is there someone (e.g. god?) who is gonna guarantee you a fair life

what exists is however, the rule of competing which is full of cruelness

so, the thought of "why did he derserve that good girl but i didn't even ever have one, even i'm not doing anything wrong" is meaningless. it is just how the world is. it is just fact

no one is gonna pity you, if you are over 24 and you didn't ever have sex, the thing is not "not fair", but you being not competing or sociable or brave enough, or you can't cope with your awkwardness. everyone is just independent, and either succeeds or struggles for all his life. no one pities you if you lose. but before i always expect there's someone understands and justifies the unfairness for me, but there's simply none.

by the way i'm so fail. i realized that girls like fun guys. i'm serious and introverted, unable to hold an interesting conversation with girls, unable to talk to them relaxedly, or without awkwardness, but i don't think i'm wrong, but again i have to remember there is nothing called fairness. a good guy doesn't necessarily get good girls, but a fun guy does.

btw i'm from china, so the culture difference counts a lot, but i still feel so fail when i see how early you westerners starts relationship and sex, while i'm 24 and never had a girlfriend, not to mention sex. i especially like your white girls, but i know that's simply impossible

recently my value system just changed a lot

i came to realize that there is not a thing called 'fairness' in this world, nor is there someone (e.g. god?) who is gonna guarantee you a fair life

what exists is however, the rule of competing which is full of cruelness

so, the thought of "why did he derserve that good girl but i didn't even ever have one, even i'm not doing anything wrong" is meaningless. it is just how the world is. it is just fact

no one is gonna pity you, if you are over 24 and you didn't ever have sex, the thing is not "not fair", but you being not competing or sociable or brave enough, or you can't cope with your awkwardness. everyone is just independent, and either succeeds or struggles for all his life. no one pities you if you lose. but before i always expect there's someone who understands and justifies the unfairness for me, or worships my tragic experience, but there's simply none.

by the way i'm so fail. i realized that girls like fun guys. i'm serious and introverted, unable to hold an interesting conversation with girls, unable to talk to them relaxedly, or without awkwardness, but i don't think i'm wrong, but again i have to remember there is nothing called fairness. a good guy doesn't necessarily get good girls, but a fun guy does.

btw i'm from china, so the culture difference counts a lot, but i still feel so fail when i see how early you westerners starts relationship and sex, while i'm 24 and never had a girlfriend, not to mention sex. i especially like your white girls, but i know that's simply impossible

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by the way, i only have a mobile phone , i don't have fix-line telephone

briefly saying, my problem is i completely lost interest on the girls from my homeland.

before i came to australia , i used to think the girls in eastern asia are the best in the world, for i think they are mentally more capable and more careful about relationship or feelings and i used to think western girls only know how to play.. like party and party and dance.. coz that was the stereotype created by our media

but after one year's living in australia i found i was totally wrong. after i went deeply to know about western culture and western society, i started to realize that western girls (especially from UK, Australia, USA, Denmark or Germany) are much more gracious and girls from my country (china) are so vulgar. you are much more mature, careful and understanding about relationship and feeling. you are well bred, you have good wit and civilization . you know how to compromise and cooperate, and tend to be more patient unlike most of ours with bad temper. and mentally you are not lacking at all , just being opposite, you are mentally much richer than our females. you are willing to do what guys like, but our girls never do anything with an aim to please us.

i will be back to china in half a year , after i finished my study. so now the tragic thing is,my feeling towards eastern and western females have totally changed, and it severely interferes my future life, coz i am during the age to find a wife.! how can i get a wife in a country that i think all its females are not even a little attractive? what i used to think as good now has been just opposite. and i cannot even turn on any little interet to any chinese females.. anyone of them in my eyes becomes ugly, immature, unintelligent and vulgar （im sorry to say this meanly but it's my true thought）. what should i do

here comes a comment from an online forum

im not native english speaker, but a student from china. so can you please help me to explian a little.. i completely have no idea what this comment is talking about. thx very much

"I don't know. The times I've been on a US Navy ship pulling into Aussieland the girls came out on boats and dropped their tops among other things....

American girls never did that for us....."

so here what does he mean by 'dropped their tops among other things' ?