Anonamaste

If I mention anal or offer it, his **** gets harder than for anything else... and it seems like he rather have anal than vaginal... like at all times.. which shouldnt, but does, make me feel inadequate or insecure... and it's not like I do anal with him because it's better... I don't mind it, but I definitely don't prefer it. Why doesn't he care if I get off? (Maybe a stupid question)

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I know there is alot of reasons.

BDSM, the taboo, anal, cross dressing, etc... I don't want to hear "he's gay" or "wants it in the ***".. neither are true in THIS case, I've ruled that out. I just want to know if I can still be with this man and make him sexually satisfied without having a ****..

I'm looking for all opinions and perspectives to gain more understanding.

Thanks for any input.

Quick details:

-I've been an openly monogameous bisexual woman my whole life. -we are in a committed 3 year relationship.

-he acts like a homophobe, not extremely, but enough to make you assume he's not into dudes at all.

-I found out the same way any woman finds out, super sleuthing. I don't hide anything sexual on my behalf, I've always believed its best to be open and honest about preversion or sexuality in order to be in a equally benefiting relationship. I'd be accepting of this fantasy or fetish if he told me. -he's overly into being the dominant and more into anal than any other partner I've had. I've ruled out that he wants anything in his *** (plus I've tried and it's never gone well) he definitely is a topper not a bottomer.

-he won't go down on me. I haven't pushed it, but now with this info, it's more of a red flag I thought I'd mention.

-his browser history for porn is STRICTLY shemales.. but he does look at women that he knows in real life and beats off to their pictures on fb (I won't get into how I know that)

-At first my initial thoughts were that he is gay. Which now I know is an overreaction to a sexual preference I had no idea about until I started researching. Mostly I've found that he's probably not gay, more likely bisexual, which drives me more insane to think he pretty much is the same preference as me all along but led me to believe he wasnt? I don't know... I'm just confused trying to figure this out.

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