Why is my seemingly heterosexual boyfriend hiding the fact he constantly watches shemale porn?

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-I've been an openly monogameous bisexual woman my whole life. -we are in a committed 3 year relationship.
-he acts like a homophobe, not extremely, but enough to make you assume he's not into dudes at all.
-I found out the same way any woman finds out, super sleuthing. I don't hide anything sexual on my behalf, I've always believed its best to be open and honest about preversion or sexuality in order to be in a equally benefiting relationship. I'd be accepting of this fantasy or fetish if he told me. -he's overly into being the dominant and more into anal than any other partner I've had. I've ruled out that he wants anything in his *** (plus I've tried and it's never gone well) he definitely is a topper not a bottomer. 
-he won't go down on me. I haven't pushed it, but now with this info, it's more of a red flag I thought I'd mention. 
-his browser history for porn is STRICTLY shemales.. but he does look at women that he knows in real life and beats off to their pictures on fb (I won't get into how I know that)
-At first my initial thoughts were that he is gay. Which now I know is an overreaction to a sexual preference I had no idea about until I started researching. Mostly I've found that he's probably not gay, more likely bisexual, which drives me more insane to think he pretty much is the same preference as me all along but led me to believe he wasnt? I don't know... I'm just confused trying to figure this out. 
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Anonamaste · Answer

What bothers me the most obviously is that I don't have a ****, and naturally as a female I'm instantly jealous and feel inferior to someone I can't compete with, which is the same way I feel when my man looks at any woman better looking or that I can't compete with. The feeling of not knowing if I'm adequate enough for him sexually bothers me intensely since I've planned my future with this man... I know what it's like to waset time and don't want to again. However, I want to be supportive and would even play in to his sexual fantasies if only I was trusted. 
Anyways, I'm venting (sorry).. but I just need to know WHY shemale porn? Does he like dicks? Or does he like the taboo? Or perhaps anal? Maybe even some kind of psychological a-sexualness? 
The answer to this question is important to me to know what my next step is with this... and whether the preference is something I can get down with too. Am I enough?

jcastro · Answer

Probably he does not admit he's bisexual, even to himself; the denial surfaces in the form of homophoby.

Or, he has a fetish for shemales, independent of his sexual orientation (weird, but possible).

Anonymous · Answer

She-males usually 100% identify as females so its not considered gay really bi-sexual at most. If he was gay he wouldn't be in a relationship with him.

You need to talk to him and say I went through your browser history if you want to suck girl-c*ck tell him you can wear a strap-on. If being that he loves your butt say for everytime he wants to have anal you get to f**k him with your girl-c*ck

Anonymous · Answer

Not gay. Likes women, but has a d!ck fetish. You could call it bisexual. Rejects identifying that way. Huge huge huge number of men like this.

Anonymous · Answer

Here's a crazy idea for you. Why don't you ask him?

Fire Princess Artemis · Answer

He could be gay.

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Why is my seemingly heterosexual boyfriend hiding the fact he constantly watches shemale porn?

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