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Me and my GF have been dating for a couple years and I love her dearly, but she doesn't know I'm poly. That means that I can't just be in one sexual relationship with one person. So I use tinder and go to parties and nail other chicks all the time. No condom. 

It's not cheating because I'm poly and it's just me being who I am but I sometimes wonder how my GF would react. I would tell her but I've heard her say bigoted things about my friends who are poly like "I can't believe Jake is screwing around with girls on tinder when he's in a relationship". Jake is my best friend and is also in the closet because his GF has said similar bigoted things about other closeted poly guys in our frat. Some people have told me I'm still cheating because I'm not telling her that I'm poly but they don't understand  how hard it is for poly guys like me and most of my fraternity brothers to deal with bigoted reactions to being who we are.

My gf caught me cheating once and it happened like 2 months ago. As far as she knows, no other cheating has occurred. She hasn't caught me one other time. I don't get how she can take instance and then not trust me it seems unfair.

We're in a frat guy and we got a group of promiscuous sorority chicks ( uneducated white trash who never make us use condoms) who we use for plowing. They're discreet and don't tell our gfs about our banging. Well recently some of us guys have been noticing they are getting loser down there. And furthermore, we've seen a number of guys from a rival frat sneaking out of the apartment complex where most of these sloots live and out of their sorority house. Turns out they've been banging our chicks! 

We need this to stop. But it keeps happening and we don't know what to do about it .

She went through my  phone on a "hunch". That's not legitimate probable cause. Anything she found must be thrown out and she can't use it to break up with me. This is just the constitution but i guess she thinks this is communist Russia or something.

Fox is a conservative leaning channel but it is more reality based than the crap on CNN/MSNBC which is just mindless npc anti trump droning.

So I screwed up and got caught cheating on her a few months ago. She stayed with me but doesn't seem to trust me. Since then, she hasn't caught me cheating again. And, as far as she knows, I have been a faithful man ever since she caught me several months ago. Yet, she still doesn't seem to trust me .

So me and my gf are dealing an infidelity. I don't wanna get into it too deep but one of us cheated. Not gonna say who. The point is we gotta move on.

I think we can just agree that her sister is hard to resist especially when she says we don't have to use a condom and then forgive each other. But my gf seems to think we can't make it. She is being selfish. She's not fighting for us at all like i thought she would .

A condom indicates a preplanned, premeditated infidelity. The fact that I didn't use one it can written off an innocent mistake or misunderstanding.

I'll be upfront and say that I did mess up and cheated on her. Me and this other girl went on a weekend trip and basically, well, yeah. It was a stupid mistake I learned my lesson. I told her my GF was going to a "Good Boyfriend" convention to pick up an award for "Most Faithful". I had a few of my fraternity brothers help print flyers and a made up award and stuff to sell this whole thing. So it seemed like all was good

But ever since I got back she is acting  shady af. She constantly asking about the convention and why she can't find it online anywhere. I keep trying to run it. But I wish she'd just trust me. I'm never going to cheat again  I learned my lesson. It was a stupid mistake. I don't know for sure that she thinks i cheated but she is acting like it.

She looked through my phone because of something her best friend told her about me and another girl. But according to the constitution she can't use any of the stuff she found against me to yell at me or breakup. A rumor isn't probable cause. And she didn't have a warrant