Confused

I recently started eating healthier and working out. I lost weight in the beginning but now I seem to be gaining muscle and only losing enough fat to even it out. I was doing crunches and my stomach got harder but there is still a flabby layer of fat over the muscle! How do I make it go away? Should I do more aerobic exercises or stick with crunches? Could you suggest some specific exercises?

I love my ex-boyfriend. When answering this question please keep this in mind. I don't want to sever our ties, but I'm afraid I'm going to have to. We broke up recently but unhappily. Neither of us did anything wrong, we just had a difference of opinion about an important subject. Our biggest problem is probably my lack of trust and his issues with being honest (which are obviously related). He is scared to be honest with me about some things because he thinks I will get mad (which is probably true), but I think he also likes to have secrets from me to keep things interesting. I have an incredibly hard time learning to trust him now because he has lied so much in the past and does occasionally even now. People say that a relationship is built on trust. If this is true, then ours is lacking the foundation. We have no trust - both of us are jealous, nosey, and most of all stuborn. I want to trust him, but how do I get over his lies and get him to be honest with me?

What do you do when your best friend, the person who knew you better than anyone else, abandons you? What do you do when the person you thought that loved you more than anything else in the world and who you thought cared about you decides that drugs are more important? What do you do when the only person in the world who you really loved leaves you and you don't have anyone else? What do you do when you have to see this person again and again and you can't help but cry at the thought of how much they hurt you? How can you make the pain stop?

How often do you fight with your significant other? How do you resolve fights? How can two people not fight so much? How often do you have small fights and how often do you have large fights? How do you not let fighting get you down?

I broke up with my boyfriend today. We had been dating for over a year. It was just getting so stressful and I felt that the costs of being in a relationship were outweighing the benefits. We just seem to fight so much. We're both so stubborn and selfish. But I love him so much. I have been planning on spending the rest of my life with him, but I was so tired of fighting. I feel empty. I don't know what to do. I haven't cried, I haven't even gotten sad. I just keep trying to figure out if I'm doing the right thing. I love him so much and I have never cared for someone else's well-being so much before. I guess my question goes out to all you people in relationships: does it have to be this hard? Is it always like this, or is there something wrong in my relationship? Did I do the right thing by ending it? Or, should get back together with him (which is what my heart is telling me to do)?

My monitor recently stopped working. I have a Dell flat panel screen, and the power button flashes on as a large horizontal band moves up the screen. They come on at the same time and it seems as though it is trying to come on but failing. It happens regularly every second or so. Should I bother to take it to be fixed? Is there is something I can do myself? What's wrong with it?

Someone who answered one of my questions seems really insightful and I'd really like to be friends with him. However, I can't e-mail him or message him. I don't want to date or stalk him, but just be friends. I'm kind of lonely and I just want someone to talk to. What do I do?

So, my boyfriend smokes marijuana and I don't approve of it. He has lied many times and told me he would quit, but he obviously doesn't want to. He told me yesterday that he was going to smoke whether I liked it or not and that he would do whatever he wants. I accepted it and we didn't fight (which is unusual for us). However, now I don't know what to do. We have been dating for more than a year and have been planning on spending the rest of our lives together. The problem is that I really don't see myself spending the rest of my life with someone who smokes. Well, we're supposed to move in together next fall. We are signing the lease soon. I want to live with him and have our relationship last as long as it can. But, if I tell him that I don't plan on marrying him anymore, he will be terribly upset and probably won't speak to me again. Do you think it would be unfair to live with him and not tell? I really love him and want to be with him for as long as I can.

My boyfriend recently got really stressed out about things. I wanted to be supportive, but he just kept lashing out at me. Today, I had a terrible day. He wasn't able to be supportive of me because I got really moody. This type of thing happens often. Does anyone else in a relationship have this problem? Should I be worried?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We always fight about the same thing: marijuana. I don't smoke and I am adamently opposed to doing recreational drugs. I don't believe in putting foreign substances into your body to change the way you feel. My boyfriend tends to get depressed quite easily and uses marijuana to deal with his feelings. He is addicted to it now.

He has promised me multiple times that he would quit and has repeatedly lied. I just found out that he has lied again. I don't know what to do! I love him more than anything, but I can't see myself married to someone who does drugs and lies to me. I'm tired of having to wonder every night that he goes out with friends if he is going to smoke. On our wedding day, I don't want to wonder whether he smoked at his bachelor's party. I'm fed up, but I really can't imagine my life without him. Please help!