Ashley

Back story:

My boyfriend and I have known each other for years. About 5 years, we've been friends, but not best friends. We went out immaturely throughout our early high school years and then we stopped during the summer before our junior year. Now its a few years later, We're in college and we recently just got back together seriously. Obviously the relationship is better because we took a break and we're both older and more mature and honestly its been fantastic, i truly love him and i'm confident that he means it when he tells me that he loves me as well.

Problem:

I've recently discovered (through having phone sex for the first time since we've gotten back together -which obviously means we've never slept together-) that he is very turned on at the thought of me having sex with other men. Particularly his best friend and his younger brother who is the same age as me.

I'm not aroused by this at all and it will certainly never happen for real.

I'm always honest with him, and i told him how i felt about it, but he says that i will get used to it. He seriously is considering doing the whole Swingers thing, which i have nothing against, its just not what im into. So of course he pictures himself having sex with another woman. Which is something i'm definitely not down for.

Usually I'm pretty understanding, but this is something i feel i'm struggling with. And i see this being a big problem if there is no solution soon.

Any Advice?

My boyfriend will get drunk and call me or come to my house and tell me "Oh My God I love you so much! I Love You So f*ckin much! you don't even know!" And he will kiss me saying I've missed you. He's all over the place falling and mumbling and I simply want to know if he is being sincere. When he's not drunk he never really tells me he loves me. Every once in a while he will, if I say it first. Some people say that you speak your true feelings when you're drunk. But I don't know if this is like that.

-ash

He wants me to wear clothes that attract negative attention from the opposite sex. (or positive attention, depending on your opinion) Example: Tops that are very low cut, booty-shorts and skirts that are extremely short. When I tell him that I'm not comfortable in those clothes, he gets upset as if he were a child being rejected of his ice cream or something. He'll get really distant. It seems to be a huge deal to him. Don't get me wrong. I'll wear the occasional low cut shirt and short skirt, but I'm not a doll. Don't tell me what to wear. I've known him for 6 years, dated him on and off for 3. He's never had such strange behavior. Perhaps it was his previous girlfriend that was so lenient? We have great times together and I want our relationship to surpass this one obstacle. What should I do?