Twinkletoes

My brother who we rarely see is coming into town during Thanksgiving. I asked if he would like to come for dinner and he gladly accepted. I asked my nephew but he said he wasn't sure of his plans.

3 weeks later my brother messages me that my niece feels it's better that my brother has dinner with her family and my nephew and that my brother should come for dessert around 4pm.

Totally hurt. I have been always second best in the family.

I am not sure if I responded correctly. This is what I said "It would be better if we were invited too... smile emoticon LOL!!! Guess she wasn't thinking that...(wink-wink) ...But honestly, I was thinking of having dinner around 4-5 so coming at that time wouldn't be good for you especially if you're having dinner at our niece's house. Not sure what time we'll have dessert..all depends on how our tummies feel..maybe 7-8ish. I'll just leave it up to you where you want to have dinner with... It's what you prefer!!!!!"

My husband said I should have told him right out how hurt I am...and all... Now I don't want my brother over..

Am I overreacting? What should I do?

I am going to try to make this long story as short as possible. I've been married for over 36 years and have 2 grown children. My husband and I have been together since high school. He was my first real love. I built everything around him. We have a lovely home, lovely children and for the most part happy together. He's sweet, caring, and a good provider.

Ten years ago, my husband had surgery for a prostate tumor. Since then he's had problems with erections. Our sex life was wonderful, till the surgery. He tried Viagra and that did not work. My husband became more and more unaffectionate. Sex is virtually nonexistent. He will not try pleasuring me. It feels more like I'm living with a roommate than a lover/spouse. There is no passion or romance. Anytime he kisses me its just a peck, no cuddling, no holding hands. I don't like going on vacation with him because that is the only time he approaches me. Not sure why, when he can do that anytime at home. I spoke to him on this matter several times, he just gives me excuses and we end up in a fight.

Anyway, I have never thought about any other man, until now. I met this wonderful man from another country, on the internet and ended up cheating on my husband.

It was innocent at first. We started chatting, send pictures and talking on the phone. Just so you know, there's a lot of sex talk that goes on in text messages. We seem to have such a connection, and so much in common. We feel we are soul mates. That we were meant for each other.

He's sweet, kind, handsome, quick witted, fun, exciting, has a high sex drive and open to many things - all the things that that I love about him. He compliments me all the time which makes me feel good. He makes me feel loved and wanted. My husband doesn't do that anymore. He is an amazing lover and friend and I just keep telling myself "one more time and then I will end this" but it never does. To make matters worse I love them both but in different ways.

Ok, the unthinkable happened, one thing led to another and we met. We had a sexual encounter. Since that night, it's become even more physical and intimate.

We chat daily on line. We try to arrange other meetings just to be together. I know I shouldn't have had an affair with this man, being I'm married and all. On one hand I feel bad and on the other I enjoy every minute of it. I feel awful cheating on my husband, but I can't seem to say no to this guy who will give me everything I need.

He says he has fallen in love with me and wants me a life together, even marry me. He is willing to give up his marriage of 20 years just to be with me. I can easily see myself living with this guy. I know he is a perfect partner for me, but do not have the first clue about how to handle the situation. I am scared of the consequences. One part of me has this strong desire to leave my husband to start a new life with this man, and the other part tells me I should just stick it out and live my life as it is. I am confused and don't know where to turn. Do I stay or do I go?