just_me

Me and my ex gf have been split for a while, actually since last yr, but decided to try to work it out up until feb of this yr. immediately after us splitting she found a new person to date. during that time she was still seeing me but after a while it became too much and I decided to tell her a final goodbye. no more than a month later she allowed her new gf to text me because she'd heard i'd been bad mouthing her. biggest mistake is to text someones ex. that turned into so much drama. again we stopped talkin after that. a month later after seeing me dj she decided to contact me to see how I was doing. lately we've been hanging, and she is currently hiding it from her girl. she says she doesn't want a relationship with me and loves her new gf but only answer she can give me when I ask why she wants to be around me, is that I bring her comfort and I understand her better than anyone else. she wants to be friends but wants it kept under wraps. I don't condone that at all and I know i'm worth more than that. im just lost because I do love this girl but she is going about it all wrong due to her still being in a relationship and still seeing me. she also cries to me and tells me she misses me and our family but claims she will never be with me..

Im going crazy thinking of my ex. I had to take off work for almost a week after seeing her. I ended up passing out due to not eating and dehydration. I text her and she immediately responded then called. She came by and brought me food and stayed a little while then left, which was more heartbreaking. She is talking to someone else now and thats why it's been so hard. She gave me a couple of hugs before leaving which were long hugs. I'm just messed up and dont know how to get out of this funk. Since getting out of hospital i have no energy to do anything but lay here, replaying our conversation and analyzing her text. Is there anyone out there that can help. I miss her so much, but cant bring myself to ask for another chance when i know it's not what she wants. I'm greatful for her coming to me and i felt no heartbreak the whole time she was here and all thru the nite, but it started again when i woke up this morning. we text a little this morning and she asked if i were ok and then told me she would tex me a little later becuz she was at work but has yet to. I'm so drained from my health and dreaming and thinkin about her constantly. There is not a min that doesnt go by that she is not present in my thoughts.

If you've ever cheated on someone, why did you ignore them when you broke their heart? Even if they still reached out to you to talk to you, why did you ignore them? I'm trying to figure this out because i was cheated on, and at first i got multiple text denying it. Now i'm being completely ignore when i try to text them.

We broke almost a yr ago. Starting seeing eaching again and fell in love all over. We never made the title but were committed to each other only. We wanted to make sure the problems that led to our failure we're solved before becoming gfs again. However she started going thru her going out phase. I'm older than her and already experienced that. However there were two gurl, who were gay twins she was constantly out with. She would never let me meet them. SHe made excuses. Anyways 2 weeks ago she started saying how she doesnt think she wants to be around them anymore becuz they dont really want anything in life and how they seem slow to her. She also made fun of them for their job occupation(hotel cleaners). Even after that she goes to an award ceremony for one of them. I told her i lost respect for her, for dogging and clowning someone but being in their face. Anyhoo, last week she began to act really strange and wouldnt answer my calls or text. She said she wanted a break. I told her no were done for good because there will be no more breaks. Told her either we work it out or leave one another alone. So i felt compelled to tell one of the twins on fb that i was sorry that she thought my partner was her friend. All in all by me telling her all of this, she was honest and told me that my partner had been messing around with her sister. My ex denied and said i was starting drama because she wanted a break. Also told the twins that i was just talking **** becuz i was mad. However the details they provided me with were hard to deny. All she did was just keep denying it and saying they were lying on her because they was 100 percent committed to me. Now we aren't speaking. She seems to have no remorse nor care. SHe responded to me a day later after i told her goodbye thru text. I gave her a chance to meet me face to face since she swears it was a lie. SHe told me she would see me and tell me, she never did. I told her i'm just sad that i could never believe anything she has ever told me and that of all ppl would betray me like she did. I did text her to say i apologize for saying i hated her and that i didnt care what happened to her. She didnt respond. Now here i am stuck because not only was she a lover but my best friend. My bday is coming up and that's the only person that i was around on that day which is extra hard. It seems as though i wont hear from her again, and she cheated.

i've been fine for the past couple of weeks but had a set back last nite. i had an overwhelming feeling of sadness and i figured it had to do with my ex. i sent her a msg asking her if she were alright. however she didnt respond. today she told me she was bothered and upset and was thinking of me. said she didnt get the msg or she wouldve responded. she admitted that she is still hurt over me. it's just crazy how connected i still am to her. does this ever happen to anyone else? i told her what i was thinkin of and she said she had thought the same thing and that it was crazy.

my ex admitted to me after sleeping with me that she was sleepin with someone else. she told me she came over to prove that she didnt have feelings and her plan was just to leave afterwards. she ended up admitting about the other person. she also tried to blame me for everything. she told me i had broken her down and how she drinks a lot now and smokes and has fail two test in college. she then asked me how did i know that it wasnt more than just sex with the other girl? she was all over the place. i just dont get why she wanted to sleep with me when she has her. she claimed that she is over me. but then went on to say that everything reminds her of me and she dreams about me and thinks about me a lot.

my ex and i broke up in may and two weeks after she was already seeing someone new, only i didnt know it. we met a few times and the park and text almost everyday(mainly me texting first). We ended up sleeping together, and after it was done she admitted that she had been sleeping with someone else. it broke me down because she had plenty of time to tell me, but didnt. she said she was going to tell the new person but i dont think she did. a few days later on fb i sent the gurl a mesg stating: i wish i had known she was f#*kin u while f&#kin me. i don't like putting my mouth where someone else has been, not cool. the gurl blocked me. later i got a text from my ex telling me she would appreciate if i didnt send mesgs like that to her "clients"(she makes flyers) i didnt respond. she suspended my phone. I then sent the gurl another mesg giving her all the details of how my ex had initiated all the sexual flirting and told her that if she continues to sleep with her after that then oh well. i told her all that mess is hers now. however now my ex is acting like i did something wrong and like i disrespected her. i sent her a mesg asking if i cud pay my half of the bill until i got my own plan and she basically told me that if i hadnt mesg the gurl i would have my fone. not sure why shes upset because she completely did me wrong..however even after all of that i'm still thinkin about her. i guess i'm over analyzing whether i messed up what they had, or if the gurl is ok with still seeing her. i just can't think of why she would be mad if the gurl continued seeing her..any thoughts?

it's been three months since our break up. i'm still crushed. we were in a 10 yr relationship. he started seeing someone new, who he now spends all his time with. it hurts like crazy. what's even crazier is that after the break up, he didn't contact me or my kids for a month and a half. during this time he met this new girl. well when we finally did begin talking again, he blamed me for not seein our kids, saying that i told him i needed my space. my heart was broken all over again when i learned of this new relationship especially since he was texting me and telling me things about how he has to deal with the pain of never being able to replace me. anyhow he told me this girl wasn't nothing more than a friend although they slept together. we were trying to be friends but i got too emotional according to him.we ended up messing around before all the emotions came into play, and he said he was going tell her the truth but he never did and now i look like the emotional crazy ex. anyhow within 2 days he got "serious" about her. he had her pic on his phone(which i had to see b/c he kept playing with his phone). he started staying over there everynite. he doesn't call the kids hardly or come to get them. he says i'm keeping them away not her, b/c i told him that he is choosing some woman over his kids and that no woman should ever know that she is top priority over a man's kids. anyhow i'm just down and out. like today he called me and said he couldn't come get the kids because he didn't have any gas, so i went on my lunch to take them to him. i rode back by where he lives and he was not there, meaning he was over the girl's house. i don't know what to do. i want to shut him out completely but can't because of our kids. can anyone please help me. i feel like i'm having a nervous breakdown. he claims to be going to the military, so he can become a better man, but i don't believe it.

my kids father found someone new after we broke up. he claimed every single time it wasnt serious, but kept seeing the person. i started to realize all his time was being spent with her, but he tells me he misses us(family). now he stays with her every single night, and he won't come get the kids, or call and check up on them, nothing! he wants to say that i'm upset just becuz he doesnt want me, yeah it hurts that he moved on too fast, but now he is hurting my kids. i don't understand how a man can choose a woman he's only known for 2 months or anyone for that matter over his two beautiful children. and i don't see how any woman can think that he is a good man and want to be with him when he doesnt work or take care of his kids. it's frustrating. he told me that it will never be the same, but i just needed to reassure them that daddy loves them and to make it as easy as possible on him and stop making him look like the bad guy. i just need some advice. he obviously doesn't care anymore and i don't know what i need do to keep this negativity out of my life. he has already told my daughter that i'm the reason they dont see him. he is blaming everything on me, so he won't feel so bad. someone out there help me please!!

my ex and i broke up after 10 yrs. he started seeing one a month after. me and my kids didnt see him for a month and a half. 2 weeks ago he came back into our lives. he came over and we did something we shouldn't have. before he saw me we were texting and he was telling me how he was trying to get over me, and how he was in pain because he knew he couldn't replace me. now he is seeing this girl, and when he has my kids he rushes them home to go spend time with this new girl. i also found that when my kids are there he leaves to go places when it is their time with them. he kept saying this girl wasnt that serious but now i'm starting to see all his attention being devoted to being with her. my daughter has expressed how she feels and it isn't good. he thinks i'm lying when i say that she's sad and mad because of what he is doing. he is now threatening me legally. i don't want to be this evil person towards him. he thinks that it's all about him seeing someone else and it's not. yea he came and played with my emotions but now he is hurting my kids and i don't know what to do. any suggestions out there?

my ex says he is trying his best to move on, but at the same time telling me that he is hurt b/c he hurt me and left me at a hard time. if he is so hurt why is he seeing someone new, and why won't he come back. we have kids together and he seems to think about only what's best for him. has anyone else had to deal with an ex who has moved into something else too fast?

we were together 10 yrs. there were time when we were off but we always came back together. we broke up 2 months ago and after a month of us breakin up he met someone. he told me this the other night. he thought i knew since someone had seen them together. anyhow he's tellin me that he regrets leaving and that no one he meets can replace me and how he is going out and doing things to get over me. but in another breath is tellin me we can't be together. we ended up sleepn together but didnt finish. he told the other girl what happend and supposedly she doesnt want to see him any longer. he said he would stop seein anyone for now but eventually i would have to move on. i feel like after a month of not talking to me or his kids he just wanted to see where my head was at and now that he knows he's ok. i can't eat, i can't sleep. it's been 2 days since i ate. i need help. everytime i sleep i picture them together. it's drivin me nuts!! i need advice from ppl who have been through this.

just wanted to know why people say they want to find themselves but jump right into another relationship or start messing with others after just getting out of a long term relationship? if you claim to be wanting to get to know yourself or wanting to start learning to love yourself, because you say you can't love anyone until you truly love yourself, then why even bother with the opposite sex until this process is complete?

i just want to know what to do to counter what my ex is doing. i know you guys do the typical, going out, playing like everything is fine when you break up, but i want to know what hurts the most when you break up with you girl. what really drives you nuts?

my ex is a very good dad when we are together, however whenever we break up he stays away from the kids for weeks at a time, and blames it on me. he says he just doesn't want to deal with me. however this time there has been no drama, and he hasn't seen them for a month. nor has he even attempted to give me a dime. what do you guys think?

basically me and him broke up like 2 months ago. we have kids. he was getting them after school everyday for me. then he started sending them out with his mom, and not even saying bye to the kids sometimes. he asked my daughter where she was gonna go when school let out for summer, but she replied she didnt know he said he would ask me, he never did. after school was out i let my lil cousin watch both kids because i got tired of having to go over his families house and having to deal with that. it was rough getting off work then having to see him or his family. and i told my daughter not to tell him where she would be going because he should be a man and ask me. however he wrote me a note on myspace telling me how it was real nice how im keepin it a secret where she is going and that she told him that i told her not to tell him. however every since then he hasn't called for them or asked for them on the weekend. i didnt try to keep them from him, i just want him to realize we have kids

i've been with my ex on and off for 9yrs but i don't seem to be moving on. one day i'm fine, the next i'm not. every single night that i go to bed, i'm deeply sad that he is no longer here with me. i also get very upset, because he said he had my back no matter what because i have his children, but now we no longer talk. i'm raising the kids all by myself and taking care of everything while he is off doing whatever. i'm already a slim person, and now it's getting worse. i eat but i stress too much and cannot gain weight. all i do is work and come home with the kids. some days i just really don't want to be bothered and i feel like i'm suffering while he is enjoying his single life. i don't want to date like certain ppl suggest, but at the same time i don't want to stay depressed. i would feel a lot better if i knew he at least felt a drop of what i'm feeling but i know i will never know that. as far as the kids, they miss him, and want to be with him but he doesn't call.

my ex took me out of his top friends on myspace but still has my pics up, why would he do that?

i've been in and out of a relationship for a very long time now. you would think it would get easier but it still hurts everytime we break up. i know one person can't answer for all men, but i just want a general idea of how you guys deal with it when you break up with a girl. not matter who called it off. do you cry when you are by yourself or what.?