Anne

My 26 year old step daughter is living at home. She is generally polite and well-behaved. However...

She has completed her masters degree in education and is looking for a job. She does not look particularly hard. She refuses to substitute teach. She has constant excuses preventing her from looking. She does not apply for jobs that I find for her. She means to, she is about to, she forgot -- there are always reasons why things don't get done.

She does not clean around the house. She cooks about once a week, but leaves the kitchen a mess. She does her own laundry, but that's about it. She is supposed to pay some nominal rent -- $200/month -- but she has not paid in full and on time for two months in a row. For that $200/month, we provide food, housing, utilities, wi-fi, Netflix, cable.

She works two part time jobs. I essentially forced her to take the second part time job by making her pay rent. Unless pushed, she will coast along doing as little as possible. I am tired of pushing, but I don't want her living here indefinitely. My thought was that she would be unhappy with two minimum wage, part time jobs and so would work toward getting a full time job. That doesn't seem to be happening.

Her mother is happy to have her out of her house, which I understand. There's nothing that builds resentment so fast as watching an adult trying to have an extended adolescence. Her father wants her to find a full time job before she moves out because he's worried that if she signs a lease, she won't be able to get out of it if/when she moves for a full time job.

This situation started 1 1/2 years ago for an expected 3-6 months. At this point, I don't see it ending soon.

Do I suck it up and deal? Do I give her a deadline to move?

Not just with reading and writing, but with dealing with the emotional issues as well, like school anxiety and embarassment over being dyslexic. What things did you do well? What advice do you have for parents of recently diagnosed dyslexic kids?