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I don't feel like I am close to breaking up with my boyfriend, but things have sort of been rough lately. Like, we'll have good times and then it'll just seem dull. I can't tell if it's just me, or if it's both of us, or what? Like, school has been draining me a lot recently so maybe that's why I feel numb to things. Sorry, I'm not being very clear. Here's the story: we've been dating for a year, and over time I feel like we 1) don't have AS much fun together. 2) aren't AS into each other 3) don't laugh AS much as we used to and 4) We seem to challenge each other more and we disagree on almost everything. It seems like we have contests about things a lot, if that makes sense. My sister just got a boyfriend and they're SO happy with each other and right now it feels like my boyfriend and I are like the older couple who is struggling, even though we're only like 17. We don't have a bad relationship but I don't always leave him feeling very happy! I just want to know Y'ALL's experiences about when you broke up with someone, how did you feel, what was the situation, etc! thanks! :)

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I'm seventeen, and so Is my boyfriend, and I've been dating him for almost a year. Meanwhile, my sister is 21 and she started dating this guy who is also 21 not even a week ago. Well, I come to find out that he's already planning on having a "talk" with my boyfriend about how we shouldn't be dating. he thinks that as a teenager, you should have a "variety of experiences". And he thinks that because he was not a good kid in high school that every high school guy is like that. The thing is, I HATE those high school guys that are tools and don't care about important things. I would never date one, and my boyfriend is the nicest, most sincere guy. We always hang out with each other's families and we're happy just being together. It really bothered me that this guy who just met me is already insisting on changing my life, you know? I would appreciate it if what he were doing were a good thing for me, but I have a really good head on my shoulders and so does my boyfriend. I just need your opinions on the matter: do you back me up in thinking that it's not his place to talk to my boyfriend? Or do you agree with him? thanks guys!

I'm seventeen, and so Is my boyfriend, and I've been dating him for almost a year. Meanwhile, my sister is 21 and she started dating this guy who is also 21 not even a week ago. Well, I come to find out that he's already planning on having a "talk" with my boyfriend about how we shouldn't be dating. he thinks that as a teenager, you should have a "variety of experiences". And he thinks that because he was not a good kid in high school that every high school guy is like that. The thing is, I HATE those high school guys that are tools and don't care about important things. I would never date one, and my boyfriend is the nicest, most sincere guy. We always hang out with each other's families and we're happy just being together. It really bothered me that this guy who just met me is already insisting on changing my life, you know? I would appreciate it if what he were doing were a good thing for me, but I have a really good head on my shoulders and so does my boyfriend. I just need your opinions on the matter: do you back me up in thinking that it's not his place to talk to my boyfriend? Or do you agree with him? thanks guys!

My boyfriend of almost 7 months has a history of favoring this girl he used to like, he'd choose her over me sometimes, and she's not even nice to him. She just uses him for advice and likes him on the side of liking other people. Basically, there's just a dark history between them, and my boyfriend knows full well about how i feel about him and her, right? like, i've talked to him a whole bunch about it and the subject feels so... old.

But yet another situation has arised with her, and I don't know what to do! So this youth group from his church went up to his cabin last weekend, and she is in this youth group (i'm not, duh), but his dad and his aunt are leaders, and everyone in the group basically knows that him and I are dating. Yet, while they were up there, she was apparantly "messing with his head", he said, and being "really touchy and clingy". She wanted to ride with him on snowmobiles a lot, and would throw a fit if she wasn't on his snowmobile. My boyfriend said "nothing happened"... but he also said that his aunt thought that something was going on between the two of them. So later, his mom and his aunt were talking to him about it and probably saying like, "what are you doing with her, you have a girlfriend!" and such, which is good of them to do. So, my boyfriend also has a little history of being a bit of a fibber, so I don't know what to believe about what exactly "happened" up there, but I know that it was big enough that his aunt mentioned it to him, you know? that says something to me!

My boyfriend should know better than to let this girl "mess with his head" or be "touchy" with him or whatever, especially because of the fact that I'm predisposed to being suspicious about anything that goes on between the two of them. ALSO, he went on a "walk" with that girl's friend in the dark and "chatted"... like, what?! Who goes on late night walks with other girls like that? I just want to know if I'm alone in thinking that he's been out of line, or if you agree?

and in the past, this girl has been mad at him too (while we've been dating) and talked to his brother about him leading her on, which his brother said isn't cool and stuff, and my boyfriend was upset at his brother for saying those things.

My boyfriend also seems to think that i'm just going to forgive him about this this time, he doesn't seem too concerned, what should I do? It's not just this one scenario, it's like this huge buildup of things with her that's been going on for months and months and I'm done with it!

My boyfriend of almost 7 months has a history of favoring this girl he used to like, he'd choose her over me sometimes, and she's not even nice to him. She just uses him for advice and likes him on the side of liking other people. Basically, there's just a dark history between them, and my boyfriend knows full well about how i feel about him and her, right? like, i've talked to him a whole bunch about it and the subject feels so... old.

But yet another situation has arised with her, and I don't know what to do! So this youth group from his church went up to his cabin last weekend, and she is in this youth group (i'm not, duh), but his dad and his aunt are leaders, and everyone in the group basically knows that him and I are dating. Yet, while they were up there, she was apparantly "messing with his head", he said, and being "really touchy and clingy". She wanted to ride with him on snowmobiles a lot, and would throw a fit if she wasn't on his snowmobile. My boyfriend said "nothing happened"... but he also said that his aunt thought that something was going on between the two of them. So later, his mom and his aunt were talking to him about it and probably saying like, "what are you doing with her, you have a girlfriend!" and such, which is good of them to do. So, my boyfriend also has a little history of being a bit of a fibber, so I don't know what to believe about what exactly "happened" up there, but I know that it was big enough that his aunt mentioned it to him, you know? that says something to me!

My boyfriend should know better than to let this girl "mess with his head" or be "touchy" with him or whatever, especially because of the fact that I'm predisposed to being suspicious about anything that goes on between the two of them. ALSO, he went on a "walk" with that girl's friend in the dark and "chatted"... like, what?! Who goes on late night walks with other girls like that? I just want to know if I'm alone in thinking that he's been out of line, or if you agree?

and in the past, this girl has been mad at him too (while we've been dating) and talked to his brother about him leading her on, which his brother said isn't cool and stuff, and my boyfriend was upset at his brother for saying those things.

My boyfriend also seems to think that i'm just going to forgive him about this this time, he doesn't seem too concerned, what should I do? It's not just this one scenario, it's like this huge buildup of things with her that's been going on for months and months and I'm done with it!

My boyfriend of almost 7 months has a history of favoring this girl he used to like, he'd choose her over me sometimes, and she's not even nice to him. She just uses him for advice and likes him on the side of liking other people. Basically, there's just a dark history between them, and my boyfriend knows full well about how i feel about him and her, right? like, i've talked to him a whole bunch about it and the subject feels so... old.

But yet another situation has arised with her, and I don't know what to do! So this youth group from his church went up to his cabin last weekend, and she is in this youth group (i'm not, duh), but his dad and his aunt are leaders, and everyone in the group basically knows that him and I are dating. Yet, while they were up there, she was apparantly "messing with his head", he said, and being "really touchy and clingy". She wanted to ride with him on snowmobiles a lot, and would throw a fit if she wasn't on his snowmobile. My boyfriend said "nothing happened"... but he also said that his aunt thought that something was going on between the two of them. So later, his mom and his aunt were talking to him about it and probably saying like, "what are you doing with her, you have a girlfriend!" and such, which is good of them to do. So, my boyfriend also has a little history of being a bit of a fibber, so I don't know what to believe about what exactly "happened" up there, but I know that it was big enough that his aunt mentioned it to him, you know? that says something to me!

My boyfriend should know better than to let this girl "mess with his head" or be "touchy" with him or whatever, especially because of the fact that I'm predisposed to being suspicious about anything that goes on between the two of them. ALSO, he went on a "walk" with that girl's friend in the dark and "chatted"... like, what?! Who goes on late night walks with other girls like that? I just want to know if I'm alone in thinking that he's been out of line, or if you agree?

and in the past, this girl has been mad at him too (while we've been dating) and talked to his brother about him leading her on, which his brother said isn't cool and stuff, and my boyfriend was upset at his brother for saying those things.

My boyfriend also seems to think that i'm just going to forgive him about this this time, he doesn't seem too concerned, what should I do?

My boyfriend of almost 7 months has a history of favoring this girl he used to like, he'd choose her over me sometimes, and she's not even nice to him. She just uses him for advice and likes him on the side of liking other people. Basically, there's just a dark history between them, and my boyfriend knows full well about how i feel about him and her, right? like, i've talked to him a whole bunch about it and the subject feels so... old.

But yet another situation has arised with her, and I don't know what to do! So this youth group from his church went up to his cabin last weekend, and she is in this youth group (i'm not, duh), but his dad and his aunt are leaders, and everyone in the group basically knows that him and I are dating. Yet, while they were up there, she was apparantly "messing with his head", he said, and being "really touchy and clingy". She wanted to ride with him on snowmobiles a lot, and would throw a fit if she wasn't on his snowmobile. My boyfriend said "nothing happened"... but he also said that his aunt thought that something was going on between the two of them. So later, his mom and his aunt were talking to him about it and probably saying like, "what are you doing with her, you have a girlfriend!" and such, which is good of them to do. So, my boyfriend also has a little history of being a bit of a fibber, so I don't know what to believe about what exactly "happened" up there, but I know that it was big enough that his aunt mentioned it to him, you know? that says something to me!

My boyfriend should know better than to let this girl "mess with his head" or be "touchy" with him or whatever, especially because of the fact that I'm predisposed to being suspicious about anything that goes on between the two of them. ALSO, he went on a "walk" with that girl's friend in the dark and "chatted"... like, what?! Who goes on late night walks with other girls like that? I just want to know if I'm alone in thinking that he's been out of line, or if you agree?

My family can't really afford for my dental care, but I don't want it to get worse! I have a lot of cavities in my molars and I don't know what to do, should I try to ask them to take me to the dentist or should I let it go? I know that I should take care of it as quickly as possible but I don't want to stress out my parents.

And what about girls he used to like?

And what would you do if he chose hanging out with them over hanging out with you?

We are both very chill about the other hanging out with other people, but im leaving for a trip in two days and will be gone for two weeks and when im on the way home he will leave for his two week trip so basically we wont see each other for a month. Anyway he is hanging out with this one friend he has who he used to like, and because hes with her he doesnt think we'll be able to hang out today. Am i asking too much or am i justified in being upset? I only have two days left with him and after that he can hang out with her all he wants for TWO WHOLE WEEKS. Opinions please?

I've started to take guitar lessons from this really cute guy who's 2 years older than I am. He has a girlfriend, darn it! But the first song he chose was "hey stephen" by taylor swift and his NAME is stephen. Then I had to sing it to him... weird? Yes or no? And he said he was impressed and he told his brother I did something "cute". Opinions?

I have two best friends. One I've been friends with for my whole life, Isabel, and one that just moved in last summer, hans. I became friends with hans before isabel did, and we became super close. When I first got to know him, I noticed his personality before anything else. He's got a brilliant one, and his sense of humor fits in exactly with mine and Isabel's! he was simply a perfect match for me, friendship-wise. It was only after I knew his personality well that I really noticed his looks: he's very good looking. But that wasn't where I fell for him. When Isabel got to know hans, she noticed his looks first. She instantly started liking him, and she's grown to like his personality as well.

Here's the situation:

Hans likes me. He really likes me. And he's "confessed his love for me" to Isabel, as she put it. I'm his best friend, we get along exceedingly well, and we literally are a perfect match!

Isabel likes Hans. I suspected it after the first few comments about how hot his arms were, but she only recently confessed HER love for him to me. He has no idea she likes him.

I like Hans. Well, no. I love Hans. I loved him first in a friendly manner, and my affections are increasing. I DO NOT want to do anything about it. I am not willing to forsake our friendship for an attempt at a relationship. I know our relationship would be the best I've ever had, but I'm not willing to risk it. If anything happens between us romantically, it will be far in the future, because I would honestly love to marry Hans, and dating him before then might just take away the possibility of marrying him. So, instead, I want to wait it out, stay friends, grow closer to one another, and maybe one day take a trip down the road of romance.

Isabel knows how I feel about Hans, and I'm fine with her liking him, and having a relationship with him if he wants to! I have nothing against that, because... my love for him.... it's like it's there, but it's bottled up and the date where it can be released is far in the future. So... mostly, i just want opinions on the matter. I don't know why I'm asking the question.... but I am! So... yeah! :) Thank you!!!! :)

I want clean songs, so please no swearing if possible.

Anything with good flow, I'm really open to anything but my favorite kinds of music are like John Mayer style and Taylor swift, and such and such and such. THANK YOU MUCHNESS!!!

My boyfriend started dating me after it didn't work out with this one girl, right? I think he broke it off, so I was glad he was rid of her. He fell for me, I fell for him, and then slowly he starts getting distant, and stops talking to me altogether. Later I find out he's with his ex. WHAT?! So, what?! Did he ever even like me? I'm frustrated. thanks for helping! I haven't talked to him for weeks, but it's not like it matters!

my boyfriend is really stressed out right now, and basically he just wants to take a break, have a life for a little bit, because he's so busy. I promised him we'd have a day where we just chill out, get away from our worries, breathe for just a minute and be together. I really wanted to go on a hike, have a picnic up in the mountains on this great view of the valley, and overlook the city and forget about the world. But: it's winter. And I live in a cold (er, it's not THAT cold) climate and so there's snow and cold-ness in the mountains. What can we do and where can we go to get the same effect, but not have to be so cold?

If this were the first time I'd said it, or the second, or the third, or even the fourth time, I wouldn't be worried. I'd think to myself, "no big deal, he's not sure he loves me back, that's totally fine". But in our relationship, HE was the one that ever said it first. he has said it so many times I can't even count. I finally started saying it back, and last night he seemed a little strange when we were talking. I knew he was upset about losing a basketball game, but I tried cheering him up and it seemed to work! Finally I said "goodnight! I love you!" and all he said was "goodnight!". It's the first time he hasn't said I love you when we say goodnight in as long as I can remember. Is there something wrong? Or is it just a fluke/mistake/once in a lifetime thing, and he'll be back to normal? I kind of feel squashed by such a simple little thing, and it's frustrating me. Help?

SO my friend likes this guy but she's a little shy, not THAT shy, just a little shy. She talks to him and flirts with him a lot in her classes, and I could swear he likes her too but he's shy as well. Dang! Also he hangs out with this one girl a lot and so we're afraid they might like each other (but she goes to a different school so we don't know). Anywhoo! We have this evil plan to hang out with him. (let's name everyone in the situation here: Milly is my friend, the guy she likes is Colby, I'm Addie and my boyfriend is Hal). So our plan was to get hal (who is friends with colby) to ask colby to hang out and milly would come, so that discreetly, we could all hang out together and colby wouldn't realize how on-purpose it was, yet he could have some quality face time with milly to realize he loved her! So as we were discussing it, Hal said that he thought it would be better to have Milly invite colby herself, which would be more beneficial, but also it would ruin our discreetness. SO here's the ultimate question: should Milly invite colby to hang out (we're going miniature golfing)? Or should Hal?

My boyfriend wants us to have nicknames for each other and I seriously can't come up with anything. His name is Joseph and I already call him Joe... any ideas?! Anything will help!

This guy and I like each other, but I'm not allowed to date for another few months so we're not even bf/gf. The past few days, he's taken up saying "i love you" to me. I don't really have a problem with it, although I do think it's too soon, and saying it over text is kind of lame, but I'm kind of worried about what he's thinking. I haven't said it back yet, because honestly I don't feel it. He's liked me for a long time so maybe he truly does love me, but I don't love him and so I don't want to say something I don't feel. I think that that would be worse than not saying it at all: lying about your feelings, I mean. I'll tell him why I haven't said it yet if he ever asks, but I don't think he will. So what are your opinions?