Incipus Lukic

I have a blog which i think a lot of you might find interesting. Its basically mind spew, but There are some fairly interesting subjects covered, thought provoking even. Would like some of you get get involved, add your comments, thoughts and experiences, and maybe together we can put something tangible together on the project. give me your thoughts people, surely were not all so small minded as not to think about these things?

check it out - byte-me-uk.blogspot.com

this is a longish one, so please bear with !

at present i am a temporary leasholder on a pub in a very very lovely cotswold village. I have grown up in pubs and have been working in them sincei was 16.

i am married, with no children and 25 years old.

however i have, in the last few years becoming increasingly bored and...depressed about being stuck in hospitality for the rest of my life, and have always wanted to join the army.

i now have a choice, but i need to make it pretty much by the end of the week!

i can stay at the pub, keep my rent free home, my wife and keep on plodding along in the same old situation, or i can prepare to leave ( i havnt signed a permanent lease yet), move out, get a part time job, and joing the TA for the the half of my time.

I have no interest in doing nothing but feel if i dont make a change soon, my life will amount to nothing.

I have spoken to my wife about this who doesnt work in the pub but does live there ( she has her own retail career)

she thinks im just being selfish and that i should jut keep going, and that f i do give it up, she will leave me.

part of me thinks this is simply because we live in one of the most affluent and pretty villages in the south of england, and that she has a central home there rent free, and doesnt want to leave. she has told me on numerous occaisions she will leave me at some point anyway.

my point is, if this were you, what path would you take? the selfish one, or the selfless one?

would you give up your dream for the change to keep your wife by your side, or give it all up and please yourself?

if i were on my own i would have done this weeks ago, but i refuse to leave other people in the shite for my own gain.

basically, HELP!! haha

What motorcycle / kit should I go for?

Hi, I'm 25 years old and figure it's about time I got my self a motorcycle.

I have ridden geared bikes before o private land, though nothing over 125cc and I don't yet have a licence (I do have a car licence)

I'm looking for something between 500-900 cc "road" style as opposed to a "hog"

Any advice? Also how much including all the leathers , helmet , tests etc can I expect to pay?

I'm aware I will more than likely drop it so I'm looking to o second hand.

Cheers!

Hi, I'm 25 years old and figure it's about time I got my self a motorcycle.

I have ridden geared bikes before o private land, though nothing over 125cc and I don't yet have a licence (I do have a car licence)

I'm looking for something between 500-900 cc "road" style as opposed to a "hog"

Any advice? Also how much including all the leathers , helmet , tests etc can I expect to pay?

I'm aware I will more than likely drop it so I'm looking to o second hand.

Cheers!

Needs some advice or an opinion...

Hi,

I wanted to get this out on here as anything going on a permanent medical record could seriously effect any future career I may want to pursue.

The backstory;

Me and my wife (were both 25) have just moved into a leased pub to try and get it up and running again. We have an investors who is supposed to be silent...

It's now turned out that she has gotten herself another job, leaving me to work over 105 hours a week for roughly £1.36 an hour.

On top of that she has just begun treatment for cervical cancer.

I'm completely run down and exhausted, and not able to give her any attention and find myself snapping at her a lot, whic to be fair she does I me also.

It's gotten to the point where I am seriously considering giving the pub up as I still on a temp lease because it is killing our marriage and my sanity. However as she has told me if I do that she will lose all respect for me and thin of me as a failure.

THE WORRY;

The real worry however is that I have began seeing and hearing things and having some extremely violent and macabre dreams and thoughts in which I see te pub burning down with everyone I know and love trapped inside. The thing which ... I know isn't right is that I feel nothing but calm during the whole thing. This has been a recurring dream every other night or so.

I'm basically imprisoned in a place which is draining all life from me and I'm beginning to thin that in order to save anything drastic happening, it would be better to ... Not be around anymore.

I don't even have the money to up sticks and leave.

I guess this isn't too normal a thing but I really don't know what to do about it.

Here's my details;

I have YEARS of experience running nightclubs and bars, as well as a spell in the parachute regiment in the british army. Its probably completely pointless in saying but I did work as a model for a while in London.

I'm 23 years old, no degrees or any official qualifications besides a personal liquor licence,food safety anf 5 GCES's.

I'm thinking of moving over to the USA on a permanent basis, working maybe in a bar or restaurant to start with explore your beautiful country and maybe eventually join your army!

Please if someone could give me some specific details to my situation, and the steps I need to take it would be great.

I'm white,british, no religion, no ties to any country apart from my family in the UK.

Please no links!

Cheers!

As many of us do, I have a crazy ex.

To cut a long story short she has a child, which she's claiming is mine, but refuses a dna test.

Its been a number of years since her and I split up. And since then I have met someone else, we are engaged to be married next year.

Since this new became.. Public. The ex has reared up again, this time she has taken to harrassing my finacee, who runs a shop in town.

Not an hour ago she ran into the shop, shouted DIE at my finacee, and ran out again.

This sort of thing happens maybe once or twice a month.

As I'm getting married and saving for a deposit on a house I do not have the money to take her to court etc, and to be honest me wasting my savings on this sort of thing is exactly what the ex is after.

So I'm not sure what I can do about it.

My fiancee doesn't want to take legal action, as she thinks in a worst case scenario and she accepts a test, and it turns out to be mine, she thinks my ex can get hold of any money we have in a joint account for csa!

Any help is appreciated!! :)

As many of us do, I have a crazy ex.

To cut a long story short she has a child, which she's claiming is mine, but refuses a dna test.

Its been a number of years since her and I split up. And since then I have met someone else, we are engaged to be married next year.

Since this new became.. Public. The ex has reared up again, this time she has taken to harrassing my finacee, who runs a shop in town.

Not an hour ago she ran into the shop, shouted DIE at my finacee, and ran out again.

This sort of thing happens maybe once or twice a month.

As I'm getting married and saving for a deposit on a house I do not have the money to take her to court etc, and to be honest me wasting my savings on this sort of thing is exactly what the ex is after.

So I'm not sure what I can do about it.

My fiancee doesn't want to take legal action, as she thinks in a worst case scenario and she accepts a test, and it turns out to be mine, she thinks my ex can get hold of any money we have in a joint account for csa!

Any help is appreciated!! :)

I lent this friend of mine 1500 pounds so she could buy a car.

The deal was she pay me back 100 pounds per month for twenty months. A total of 2 grand.

Two years later there's is still 1800 left to pay, no evidence of a car, she's been evicted from her home for not paying rent and I'm hearing rumours of drug addiction. Which is a huge surprise for me.

Before recently it was a verbal agreement, but to cover my own back I arranged a written payment plan which she signed, and has not adhered to.

I wasn't surprised about that, but by signing the hand written letter she has officially acknowledged the debt, so as far as I have been told its a payable debt according to uk law.

I have not added any extra "charges" onto the debt as I'm not that sort of person, and probably won't see it anyway.

My plan was to consult with the CAB, and possibly sue her for the remaining monies, through court.

I have given her warning of my intentions and plenty of time to sort it, as I know if I do/can do that she will end up with extra interest and debt.

If anyone knows what they are talking about, and I emphasise that point, please do lend me your advise.

here goes, can anyone work out what it means?

bit of a strange , and long winded one, please read and see what u think it means.

it starts off with me and my girlfriend running through an underground vault to pick up some unknown object, running past all sorts of strange mutated monsters.

When we get out, me, her and two other people jump into a car and drive towards shelter, an old hostel house one of them knows about. when we get there (its an old empty house, still furnished)late at night, the two random companions go to sleep in one room, but my girlfriend refuses to sleep as she says there is a ghost i nthe house and "the tapestry is going through the floor" i go downstairs, pick up a picture which was white with some strange symbols on the, and put it on the bedside table. this seems to calm her and we go to sleep.

NEXT PART

we wake up and my girlfriend says she has to go to work.

when she has left igo downstairs to the kitchen area with the other two people ( i dont recognise them at all)

after a couple of minutes two sponges start to move by them selves and start cleaning the kitchen, the two random people run in fear, but i decide to pick up another sponge and help clean. after a while the sponges drop and the ghost of a very old woman appears.

she mentions a book she wrote that her sister stole the credit for when she died.

I ask her all sorts of questions - here they are along with the womans answers;

Q"what happens when you die"

A "like waking up from a dream"

Q"how ......CANNOT REMEMBER WHAT I ASKED..."

A"twelve hundred"

Q are you in limbo?"

A"no this is the next stage"

Q"so theres no heaven or hell?"

A...silence - she just gives me a strange look and starts to cry tears of blood!

LAST PART NOW, NOT MUCH MORE TO READ! :)

I go outside the back door - which the ghost was stood infront of and she follows me out, i sit on a garden wall for a while with her, then my younger brother appears and tells me to get off his wall.

I go to a grassy area where there are alot of other people i dont recognise (at this point im aware no one else can see the ghostly woman)

all of a sudden she starts to swing me around by my head with her unnatural strength, not in a aggressive way, altho i remember ithurting my ear. after being flipped around a bit she puts me down, i look over at the other people and only a few are looking at me strangely.. i then wake up.

ok just a quick question.

for the past few years i have been hearing and seeing things.

sometime i hear a child voice mumbling somthing i dont understand, which happnes alot, or sometimes its an adult.

less frequently i will see a face, a really blurry one like when i stare at seomthing for too long, its completely expressionless though.

is it my imagination or more?

im not depressed or anything, i have a good life living with my girlfriend, a secure job and car etc.

although my family does have a history of mental issues, its usually manic depression, which i do not have.

any ideas would help ?

its slightly confusing and does leave me confused and a little scared sometimes

hi,

me and the ex had bee ntgether for a very short 8 months when she decided to cheat and leave me. (she has already randomly left me twice before)

We used to get on really well so we are still good friends and go out together etc.

recently though she has told me she has feeling for me again and wants to try again, we were taking it slowly when she told me suddenly she is pregnant!

apparently 8 weeks gone according to her doc.

At first i told her I did not want a child yet as i have a whole life plan i wanted to do first (inca trail/skydiving/travelling etc) But also told her to go with her instincts, its her body and i wud be there for her not matter what. she isnt sure if she wants to get back together now as she wierdly has some thing about wanting to be a single mum and i knew about this for around 4-5 months, i did think she was joking.. (looks like shes getting her own way ;-))

there are a few things im worried about;

- financial situation - im 23, shes 18 and combined we are a bit of debt, im working two jobs and just about getting by

- her regretting the decision later in life, shes young and doesnt really know what she wants (her excuses for randomly leaving and coming back constantly) she may be missing out on life and leglect the baby

- the fact that even though we are very close and friendly, and most likely going to work it out, she has two sides to her, her normal side which is fine, but she randomly comes out with thigns like;

"im naming the baby, ur having nothing to do with that", Its not taking your surname, its going to be mine", when we slit up again, im having custody because the woman has more power when it comes to kids", and the final gem " if you really really dont want it, ill abort.......but no matter what you say im having this baby!"

-obviously its going to keep us in debt, (selfish i know, but)- i wont be able to travel etc, as i wont want to miss its upbringing.

- the baby will be born to an already broken home

to be honest this is more of a vent, i just need to know what it looks like from the outside, because im very confused :-/

Is there any rights i have as the father to say anything in any of this? or is it really as she says and i just have to take what she dishes out and accept it.?

i have to say im pretty stupid because i know she has wanted to be a mum for a long time and after her little cheating thing she had her implant taken out and told me she couldnt go on the pill or anything for a few months as her hormones needed to setle, when i suggested condoms she flat out refused saying we would sleep together unless i didnt use them (damn im stupid haha)

ok thats it... help is much appreciated, im crapping meself :-)