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My brother and cousin are 17 and 18. I am 20. I never remember my aunt loving me. Ever since I was a young boy (like 8 years) old I remember her screaming at me, etc for no reason.

She only speaks to me when she needs something. She calls my 17 year old brother and my 18 year old cousin prince and princess, while she treats me like dirt and talks to me in an unpleasant way. For example one time she gave them money in front of me while ignoring me. She talks to them like if they are 4 year olds while always expected me to be a 'MAN' even though I was a young boy.

What is the reason for this? It makes me really upset. I have talked to my parents about this but they always tell me don't care about what she says.

My uncle used to touch me and my brother. I am 19 and my brother is 17 (BUT looks way younger). My uncle will be visiting my country next September and he will be staying with us. Lately he is chatting with my brother often. How can I stop him? He is also phoning at home very often, mostly to talk to my brother.

Also I don't want him to visit. I am really afraid to speak out because of the following reasons:

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows each other

m)etc

Due to the fact that he is visiting next September I am planning to speak out... but I can't find the courage. What can I do?

My uncle used to touch me and my brother. I am 19 and my brother is 17 (BUT looks way younger). My uncle will be visiting my country next September and he will be staying with us. Lately he is chatting with my brother often. How can I stop him? He is also phoning at home very often, mostly to talk to my brother.

Also I don't want him to visit. I am really afraid to speak out because of the following reasons:

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows each other

m)etc

Due to the fact that he is visiting next September I am planning to speak out... but I can't find the courage. What can I do?

My uncle used to touch me and my brother. I am 19 and my brother is 17 (BUT looks way younger). My uncle will be visiting my country next September and he will be staying with us. Lately he is chatting with my brother often. How can I stop him? He is also phoning at home very often, mostly to talk to my brother.

Also I don't want him to visit. I am really afraid to speak out because of the following reasons:

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows each other

m)etc

Due to the fact that he is visiting next September I am planning to speak out... but I can't find the courage. What can I do?

My uncle used to touch me and my brother. I am 19 and my brother is 17 (BUT looks way younger). My uncle will be visiting my country next September and he will be staying with us. Lately he is chatting with my brother often. How can I stop him? I think my brother doesn't know what our uncle did is wrong.

Is it LEGAL if I send him a message/e-mail telling him to leave my brother alone and threat him to phone the police? Also I don't want him to visit. I am really afraid to speak out because of the following reasons:

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows eachother

m)etc

My uncle used to sexually abuse me and my brother when we were younger. I am 19, my brother is 17. He phones every week to talk to my brother about football.

He will be visiting next September and will be staying with us. I do not want him because I fear that he can sexually abuse my brother again.

I do not know when it started on me because I remember even getting some sort of erections when I was 5.

How do I get the courage to speak out? I KNOW HE IS SICK and I want to protect my brother.

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows eachother

m)etc

I feel lost! What should I do? I don't want my brother and myself to recount the story in the court since it's another HUGE trauma for us.

I can't afford to let so much time pass. He will soon be visiting. Also he is phoning at home once or twice a week and also wants to see my brother on Skype.

My brother doesn't seem to hate him. I don't know whether he knows what he did to us is wrong. What should I do? I feel my mind exploding :(

My uncle used to sexually abuse me and my brother when we were younger. I am 19, my brother is 17. He phones every week to talk to my brother about football.

He will be visiting next September and will be staying with us. I do not want him because I fear that he can sexually abuse my brother again.

I do not know when it started on me because I remember even getting some sort of erections when I was 5.

How do I get the courage to speak out? I KNOW HE IS SICK and I want to protect my brother.

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows eachother

m)etc

I feel lost! What should I do? I don't want my brother and myself to recount the story in the court since it's another HUGE trauma for us.

I can't afford to let so much time pass. He will soon be visiting. Also he is phoning at home once or twice a week and also wants to see my brother on Skype.

My brother doesn't seem to hate him. I don't know whether he knows what he did to us is wrong. What should I do? I feel my mind exploding :(

My uncle used to sexually abuse me and my brother when we were younger. I am 19, my brother is 17. He phones every week to talk to my brother about football.

He will be visiting next September and will be staying with us. I do not want him because I fear that he can sexually abuse my brother again.

I do not know when it started on me because I remember even getting some sort of erections when I was 5.

How do I get the courage to speak out? I KNOW HE IS SICK and I want to protect my brother.

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) I live in a small village of around 2,000 people where everyone knows eachother

m)etc

I feel lost! What should I do? I don't want my brother and myself to recount the story in the court since it's another HUGE trauma for us.

My uncle used to sexually abuse me and my brother when we were younger. I am 19, my brother is 17. He phones every week to talk to my brother about football.

He will be visiting next September and will be staying with us. I do not want him because I fear that he can sexually abuse my brother again.

I do not know when it started on me because I remember even getting some sort of erections when I was 5.

How do I get the courage to speak out? I KNOW HE IS SICK and I want to protect my brother.

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) etc

I am 19 and my brother is 17.

My uncle used to touch us when we were younger. He will visit my country again this September and I am afraid that he can touch my brother again.

He phones once/twice a week to talk to my brother about football (nothing sexually).

I am REALLY afraid to speak out.

a) I don't want my family to be sad

b) I don't want to give a 'shock' to my mum and my family

c) I don't want people to get to know

d) I am afraid of going to court

e) I am afraid of having to recount the experience to the police

f) I just don't want to remember it

g) I will think about it more if I speak about it

h) I have feelings of guilt, shame and fear

i) I think I am gay (not out) so don't want to be judged negatively

j) I don't want people to blame me for not having spoken out EARLIER

k) My parents are separated and I don't want my dad to get to know... it's not anyone's fault except my uncle fault

l) etc

What should I do?

My ******* uncle used to touch my brother and me when we were younger.

We are now 17 and 19. He phones once of twice a week to talk with my brother (nothing sexually though). It seems that my brother 'loves' talking with him and has not yet developed that anger that I developed towards him.

He will be visiting my country again and will be staying with us for 3 weeks in September. I am sure that he will MANIPULATE my brother again and touch him again like he used to do to me.

I HAVE ABSOLUTELLLYYYYY NO COURAGE TO REPORT IT, NOT EVEN TO A RELATIVE LET ALONE THE POLICE. What can I do to make him pay apart from reporting? What if he abuses my brother again? How can I stop him ? I HATEEEEEEEEEE HIMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!!

My uncle used to abuse me and my brother (I don't even remember when it started on me). He used to touch our private parts.

Now I am 19 and my brother is 17.

I am afriad that he can abuse my brother again when he visits next September. What can I do to stop him APART FROM SPEAKING OUT.

I do not want to cause undue trouble to my family (esp my mother), I do not want to go through the court trauma, and even the trauma of speaking about it. I do not want everyone to know that I have been abused and being judged as 'the abused' etc. :(

I just don't want him to touch my brother again.

What can I do? Please help! :( I am really angry and terrified.

I am 19. My brother is 17. When we were younger, one of my uncles used to sexually touching us. We never told anyone else. Next September he will be visiting my country again and I am afraid that he sexually abuses my brother again.

I am afraid to report it because I do not want to cause undue trouble to my family, everyone in the society will know we were abused and I don't want to remember it. What can I do? I am REALLY REALLY AFRAID TO speak about it. It feels like if the world is exploding for me.

I am 19 years old. My uncle used to touch me and my brother. My brother is 17. He is visiting our country next September and I am afraid he could abuse my brother again. I am afraid to speak out and do not want to cause undue trouble to my mum, etc. Also I am 'shy about the abuse'.

What can I do? Can I get in trouble for NOT speaking about the sexual abuse?

Also, how can I prevent him from possibly abusing my brother?

My uncle used to touch me when I was young. He also touched my brother.

Chances are that he will be visiting my country next September and he will stay at our house. I am 19 and my brother is 17. I am traumatised and am afraid and ashamed of reporting / speaking about sexual abuse my uncle did to us.

Can I get in trouble for not reporting the sexual abuse? Also, how can I stop him from abusing my brother apart from speaking? I am really ashamed and afraid to speak and don't want to my brother and I to pass through the court (another big trauma) etc. :(

Me and my brother were sexually abused by an uncle when we were younger. I am 19 and my brother is 17. Chances are that my uncle will visit our country next September and he will stay at our home. How do I find courage to speak up of sexual abuse? I don't want him to abuse my brother again. I have no courage to report, or even speak about it to anyone. If I speak with someone do we NEED to press charges and report it formally or can we just prevent my uncle from staying with and and end of story? I don't want to go through the trauma of going to court etc.

I am gay. I never trusted any guy ... but some days ago I started to meet some gays in my area just to get to know them and had my first kiss. Is it wrong or can I get in trouble?

My uncle used to touch me when I was younger, so I was traumatised (until I was 12) but I never reported him.

Having been sexually abused when I was young by an uncle (I don't remember when it started - however I remember starting to feel sexual stimulation when I was 5-6 years old (I'm male). I think it's because the sexual abuse had already started.

My uncle used to take me in his bed and touch me. He also touched m brother but WE NEVER told anyone. I DON'T WANT TO GO TO ANOTHER TRAUMA I.E. POLICE/COURT, but I just want to prevent my uncle from continuing abusing my brother if he visits from abroad next September and stays with us.

I have a close aunt who I am sure will understand me. Can I speak to her? What do you think she will do? I DON'T WANT TO LET HIM ABUSE MY BROTHER AGAIN!!!

I am 19, my brother is 17. Also, I am gay and never did anything with anyone, except kissing (this year when I'm 19)

Also, my uncle phones every week to talk to my brother about football...

My uncle is the worst person on earth. He spends all his money on alcohol, betting on football, buying all expensive technology stuff and has no money saved.

I can't even remember when he started to sexually abusing me but I remember I started masturbating very very early.

When I was year 1 (around 5-6 years) I remember I used to 'touch my private' parts and having some sort of sexual stimulation. I think that's because the abuse had already started.

Then year after year, when he visits from abroad he used to touch me. Last 2 times he visited he also touched my brother. We never told anyone else.

I am 19. Last Summer my mother and I visited his country and stayed some days with him and his brother. I was 24/7 days a week with my mum and now I am big so I wansn't afraid of him as long as I'm not alone with him.

My brother is 17. He phones every Saturday morning to talk with him about football. Chances are that he will be visiting next September and am afraid that he can touch my brother again. Although he is 17 he looks younger.

Also, I am gay so I don't want to report and get blamed by the police or something. Also, I never did anything with anyone. The only thing I did was kissing (THIS YEAR WHEN I'M 19). Also, I don't want to make my mum and family unhappy. Also I am afraid that some of my relatives get angry for me because I did not report the sexual abuse.

What shall I do apart from speaking out?

I am 19. My brother is 17. We were both sexually abused by this same uncle when we were younger.

I have no evidence whatsoever to present. He used to touch us while in bed near him. Thank God he lives abroad so we don't see him that often.

Probability is that my uncle will be visiting from abroad this summer and he stays at our house. He phones every Saturday morning at our house and has GREAT interest in my 17 year old brother which whom they talk about football (my brother is a 'football addict') EVERY WEEK. He rarely speaks to his mother but most of the time only to my brother (he is 17, but looks younger). He already said that he will buy him a particular football t-shirt from abroad.

This t-shirt thing brought back memories to me about MY childhood abuse. When I was 8 he bought be a Juventus football t-shirt but I had to take off my clothes in front of him before he bought it. SOO MANY BAD MEMORIES.

I (we) did not report because we live in a small village where everyone will get to know, the court trauma, etc. :(