Uggh

the guy I've been with for a while has always had a status of single on Facebook since we've been together (serious 25+ cohabiting partners) it wasn't a concern of mines until I noticed how he told a few ppl at our job (guys) to keep people from trying to talk to me because he felt disrespected yet I was very open with the fact I was involved just not disclosing with him. Then I noticed that on his Facebook he's still friends with his ex and there are still pictures (tons) of them together when I mentioned her name he told me she still texts him as well but he sees nothing wrong with it. This was someone he was on again off again with because of her leaving him for other guys and he'd obviously just take her back. Then. The fact hatbwe are not friends on social media but he adds females that he meets when he's out like at the gym ( the female that works there he added on instagram and even liked a few of her pictures. I used to get invited to the gym but now he just goes and I'm kind of on the end of things. He feels my behavior is insecure bit I feel that this is sketchy. He tells me he doesn't put in a relationship on Facebook but why was it ok with his ex? I feel he wants to cut me off from the possibility of other guys talking to me but keeps himself out there because 'no one wants him.'

My husband and I have been together for 5 years now. We have two children together and a house. His mother lived with us for 3 years after her divorce before moving out and buying her own house. Wanting to 'upgrade' she went and found a big house. And with the house being big it cost a lot. I was injured at work recently and then my mother died shortly after which caused me to be out for a period of time, requiring him to have to support our household until my Workers-Comp kicked in. When it came time for the baby to get diapers, he was broke, but the numbers weren't adding up from his paychecks. Soon, I found out (on my own) that since she's left (2010) she'd been asking him for money every month ($300-$500) and he freely gives it to her he make ($1800-2300 a month and the mortgage is $1000). He lied when I asked until I confronted him about it and finally he admitted to loaning her money, the only thing is, he never gets it back when she says he will and he's always broke she dodges his texts and calls. I feel unless we are ahead in bills by a few months and this is a one time emergency, he doesn't need to be giving anyone money. She's always been bad with money and she knew what she was getting into purchasing the house, she needs to move or find a second job. I'm using money from my emergency savings to manage, buy things for the kids and groceries for the house because he's broke from helping her. He became upset with me about it but I feel you should never give anyone your last dollar. I feel she is still manipulating him and he still allows it. My mother has left money for me, and I planned to allow him access once it is available, but seeing how naive he is with his mother, I'm having second thoughts. Am I being to hard on him about this? Its one thing if he was open about it but the fact that he tried to hide it

My bf and I have been together on and off for about 5 years now. In our time apart we never dated other ppl. We chatted but that was it. Since I've known him, he's had an issue with my male friends. The girl he dated before me a few months or so, was very young and cheated on him and got pregnant. I also got pregnant after we'd been together for awhile. His mother didn't like the idea of us so she threw at him that my child was not his. Long story short, he is his son, but it was almost a year before he believed it. Friends of the opposite sex have become a major issue. He stopped trusting me over it. I've never cheated, never done anything hung around guys, I just innocently chat online (their old school friends some of them just like me). I don't reciprocate any feelings towards them and they know Im involved. Any of them that get too pushy I stop talking to. But he went so far to join a dating site and talk to females.His excuse was it was a plan b if I cheated. I'm hurt and I'm on the fence of what to do. My one male friend was there for me when my mom died two months ago. I felt crappy blowing him off. He has regular female friends, I have no issue with it, but it should be fair. He says he doesn't trust me and is not in love with me, but he loves me and doesn't want me to leave. With all the stress of losing my mom timing couldn't be worse for this. I love someone who seems to enjoy intentionally hurting me. Would you leave?

my bf 50 year old newly divorced friend... and his American Eskimo moved in. My bf has a chihuahua who I treat like my own, so I'm cool with pets in the house regardless of size. I love his dog up to one fact, he's not house trained. The carpet in our house is more yellow and brown than white. He pees everywhere on everything. Its so bad my bf locks him in the laundry room all day. I'm embarrassed to have anyone over because the house looks terrible.

Now his friend up and left but left His dog. I love her but I am NOT a fan of her shedding. I find dog hair everywhere, in the kitchen on the stove, in the bed, on my pillows, on the sofas, I even found dog hair on our infants mouth (its white) on numerous occasions. My bf says Im over exaggerating and I'm not gonna die and gets mad so I know her leaving will backfire. Neither of the dogs like kids, they just lay around as our 2 year old tries to play with them and the Eskimo has been aggressive towards him so we have to keep the baby gate up. I don't know how to approach the situation. I see no point in having pets that have to stay caged and are unfriendly. I love animals but not ones that are unfriendly and a burden.

I honestly do care for the dogs, I purchase all their food, I buy them toys, bones, I bathe them (otherwise they'd smell and never get cleaned) groom them, whatever they need, I do it and they love me as well. But I'm a mom to two boys and I work. I'd like some down time from cleaning all the time.

I'm 26, I moved out of my moms when I was 19, never turned back. I worked my way up to a supervisor at my current job while attending college. In the 8 years i birthed and raised two kids wit my husband, aged 6 and 2.

But, When my family gets upset with me they throw my kids in my face. I've never asked my family to financially support or care go my kids if anything it's the other way around. But they use it as a way to attack me. My mom died a month ago, and I've been really stressed my dad verbally attacked me and spoke down on my raising I my kids. I'm tired. I don't want to do this same 'dance' with him every year.

I don't know how to deal with this. He asked me to work for him to help him out. I work for free just helping him with his business but I feel this will be a conflict of interest because he will bring outside issues to work. How would you handle this? Sorry if its long.

I left a plate by my bf's tv this morning after I'd eaten and forgotten about it. He came home mad because I texted him about being gone too long in my car. He flopped in the bed and then got up and moved the plate to my night stand. I told him, 'you could've just thrown it away', and his response was I'm not cleaning up after you, you're nasty as hell.' I injured my leg a few weeks ago, and I don't feel like walking up and down the stairs every few minutes (I got up and fed the kids, let his dogs out and then I fixed myself something to eat. total of about 4 trips up/down the stairs). I clean up every day after the kids and dogs and Im honestly supposed to be just resting. I don't think having a plate on the dresser was nasty? I got cursed out behind it and him yelling at me about cleaning out my car, but he's the only one whose been driving it. I'm confused here.

My boyfriend allowed his older divorced guy friend to move in. When I decided to move in with him, he told his friend to get out. The friend temporarily left but when he did he left two things; his bedroom suite and his dog. For five months we never saw him. I let his dog out three times a day, I walked her, cleaned and brushed her, bought her dog food and fed her, and he didnt even as a bit of show his face or tell my bf or me thank you.

Now since he has gotten tired of staying with his gf he has come back to stay with us. He was here for awhile then he started disappearing. His dog would go out to pee and roam in other peoples yard and come back filthy. He would not bathe her (shes white and her back would be black and poop would be stuck to her behind). I told my bf he was older than the both of us put together, I've been buying dog food and caring for this dog for 5 months, he needs to take care of his dog.

My bf called and told him, he said he would buy some on his way home. He never showed. Then he came the following day while my bf was sleep, grabbed some clothes and left, and no he didnt feed the dog. I finally went to the store and bought some dog food the next night, so no the dog didnt eat for 3 days(Im not supposed to drive because of my injury and my bf works long hours) because she was coughing up white foam and I fed his dog. Since he doesn't brush and care for his dog regularly, she sheds really bad, and I found out she lays on my sofa (because my sofa is full of her white hair). I put her outside on the balcony because I'm the one who cleans the house and Im disabled right now from an injury, caring for her and cleaning up her hair is just too much extra work when I have a baby already to care for. His friend came over today like he was mad, but I don't think I was wrong. My bf told me he was going to ask him to take his dog with him when he disappears for days at a time. Would you have done the same?

my bf doesnt care for our children;

he hasnt seen them in 3 weeks but we live together;

there has been no heat in the house for 3 months;

he owns pets that urinate and booboo in the carpet;

he doesnt return home for days at a time;

He has a drinking problem that surfaces when he becomes angry;

when he gets angry he breaks things:

he's smashed holes through walls with bats and his fist, broken furniture by picking it up and throwing it smashing it with a bat;

He's swung a bat at me while I was holding our son. ;

He's had a no contact order from me in the past but of course he broke it but I never reinforced it.

I do everything for the kids bathe feed clothe, he doesn't buy diapers for Our baby or anything.

He starts arguments with me every time I'm home and he moved his older guy friend I'm which made me uncomfortable so I'm not really there.

I have no real problem with him having visitation but I want it supervised outside of his house. What are the chances of this. And yes I plan on getting a lawyer. Thank you.

Repost because I put it in the wrong category

If your mom had a dislike for your gf and openly showed it cursing and arguing then your gf who you have kids by needed a place to stay but your mom who doesn't like her n it is living with you said no.b How would you deal with this. The gf grew to dislike the mother only after poor treatment of herself and her kids. Your mother refused to allow them to live in a house you owned. Opinions your mom never cared fir the kids or offered to. How would you react if you were the gf? How would you chose if you were the son of the mother/father of the kids/ man to the gf? Would you expect your gf to act like this is a minor issue? Or is this something worth not bothering with your mother? Would you as the mother of the son/grandmother put yourself over your child's happiness/well being of your grandchildren?

My sister met a guy online who was in the air forces about 1 1/2 years ago. They talked a little and then decided to meet up, when they met she found out he had a daughter and he was married, but planning to get a divorce. She continued to talk to him while he was deployed to Afghanistan for 9 months. when he returned they got engaged, yes while he was still married.

My father planned a trip for our family. Me, my two children, my mom and my sister, for whatever reason Im not sure because I dont get involved, my sisters fiancee invited himself. So I had nowhere to sit. My father was so upset everytime we stopped for gas and my sisters fiancee left the van my father began to complain about his presence. He decided to ask to drive some of the way, my dad was hesitant but agreed. He sped the entire time, weaving through lanes, my father was so mad he told him to pull over, yelling and telling him how ignorant he was. It turned into a all out scream fest that my mom broke up. I stayed out as usual. After this he slyly moved in with my mom when his divorce was finalized and somehow dropped out of the air force. While in town, I went to stay with my mom (I was unaware he was living there). The entire time he nagged me about little things, telling me what to do and what my kids to do, and come to find out from my mom, no one but her is paying for anything, even food. She spoke of how bad she wanted him to leave, but as usual I just stayed out of it, made it through my visit and left.

The wedding is now approaching and my sister wants me to come on a small trip to meet his family ( for the second time) besides my son having conjunctivitis, I really dont want to be stuck in a van with him driving me and my kids around. Part of me wants to tell my sister 'you're marrying a man who quit his job has nowhere to stay, has a child he doesn't bother to see or care for, and is along with you sleeping on your moms couch. Is this really the future you want.'

I'm not married, my childrens father and I held off on th idea to not make it seem like we were trying to out due them even though we've been together for 7 years, with a beautiful home and family.I want whats best for my sister but I think she wants it so bad, she'll accept anything even though on more than one occasion, she's asked my mom about calling it off. What should I do?

I'm moving out of my sons fathers house. He tried basically to make me lose my job by not coming home to watch the kids on purpose no go for me. I did the GA child support calculator worksheet and it said based on my $1200/mo income and his $3400 and that I pay for everything for our infant the worksheet said he has to pay somewhere around $900. He seems to think he will get some kind of adjustment because he owns a house. Is $900 a month reasonable? im asking for him, ive never filed in the two years and taken care of our child on my pt (30 hrs) salary while in nursing school. I live below my means and can barely survive, but he seems to think I'm trying to stiff him. I paid a lot of money out of my income while we stayed together to care for the baby him myself and the house and Im in school. He paid just the mortgage. His other $2100 he blew on himself.

I've been at my current job now for a year and a half. It's not all that bad but then again I'm a 30 hour associate and at times during the year I only get about 15 hours a week. I want to purchase a home soon within the next month or so but I want to up my income by getting another job possibly full time and in the daytime so I can save money on sitters and be home at night with my kids. Would this be bad for me to switch when I'm looking Into purchasing a home soon.

I want to be approved for more and find something with less needed work. Right now I'm in the low $50k I want to get up to $75 or $80k. Is this a safe plan or what? I meet the credit and dti I just don't have enough income for what I want.

I received a ticket after moving to south GA, (away from the county where my car was registered) for suspended registration. I had no idea. I have auto draft EFT for my auto insurance every month I just check my account to make sure it is withdrawn. I registered my tag in Jan 2012 and paid my taxes that I'd missed the year before because my car wasn't working and neither was I so i had no ability to pay the taxes on it. September came, pulled over and ticketed, I contacted the insurance company they say 'yea u were insured' so what the hell, oh your birth date was wrong and then I found out ( through y own research) they had doubled up on one of my numbers in my vin. I went to court and showed this to the judge. He said no "your guilty because the year before when you weren't driving it you didn't have it insured." I wasn't pulled over the year before I was pulled over in 2012 and I was ticketed for something that was not my fault, I had no idea of. Now 8 years of safe driving no tickets down the drain. Can/should I fight this. This judge has actually just been sued for blatantly fining people, even when they weren't at fault. I wouldn't pay $100 a month for insurance to not pay $20 one time a year that's dumb. I live in GA I am considering appealing it and wondering if its worth the time. I want to keep my record clean.

I had an original court date set in the first week of november 2012, for a ticket (suspended registration- my vin number is incorrect on my insurance policy but I was unaware because the notice of suspended registration was still being mailed to my address from about 4 years ago) I went to court and received a court date which was the first week of december. During this same time my son became ill and was kept home from school -doctors orders. I notified the clerk of it with the legit documentation.

My date was changed to the first week of January. I was all revved up and prepared for court. I keep track of my court date, check things here and there periodically as I have never gotten a ticket since I began driving and I'm 26 (8 years). The court date was pushed back another month. I checked it twice and called for confirmation. The date was surely changed to February.

At the beginning of February unfortunately my car was burglarized, and all of my financial information (debit cards, drivers license, etc.) was stolen. I ordered a replacement february 2nd and thought by now I would've received it by now but have not. I am now without money and I now live 40+ miles from the court house where the event took place. Do I have any options with this. I really have no resources and no one I know does as its the beginning of the month and their bills is due. I know it was my fault for putting all my money in one place (stupid me) and the bank is out of state so no counter drafts but I'm seriously without right now I don't need the extra crap. I've been without food, gas for work etc for almost 2 weeks. Will the clerk be lenient since they did stretch out the date a second time? I live in GA.

Ive lived with my boyfriend in the past and decided to move out when he decided to on more than one occasion move people (his relatives and friends in the house without even talking to me) MY name wasn't on anything so what could I do besides leave. He came to me, now a year later and asked me to move back in. I did. I have furniture, he does not, my furniture is not enough to fill his house so we went and looked at furniture to purchase. I am ok with this but I wanted him to sign an agreement with me saying that it he moved someone else in the house without speaking to me first, he would give me half on the furniture so I could leave (because Im not interested in a group living situation-IT DOESN'T WORK). He became upset and said, that is being controlling and he should not have to sign an agreement. I don't see what the big deal is, if you say you're not going to move anyone in, whats the problem with putting it on paper? Why would I try to build a home with you just for you to go and undermine me by making decisions without me. And no we are not young we have two children and are in our late 20's. Because of this being such a big issue for him to sign a piece of paper, I am considering getting my own house.

I've work at my job now a little over a year and recently they hired a new general manager. Now all the rules have been changed.. Attendance rules production rules,everything. I've pretty much made it by but my son is ill and sometimes I have to call out at last minutes notice (within 24 hours of my next shift) but because I work night shift my supervisor always receive 8 hours notice. The rule went from being able to call out 3 times every 3 months in one calendar year to being able to call out 3 times in one year. And my production went from 100/hr 150/hr and now to 300/hr. I'm at wits end with all the changes and have already missed production for the month of January due to a larger range in my job description (I complete more than one different job under the same description now). I was wondering IF I were fired for this, would I receive UI until I can find another job. I've done everything to stay at this job for the sake of my kids while I finish school but the new policies have caused a large amount of people to be fired recently.

I contacted my landlord one day letting him know I would be late paying my rent this month because my job shorted my check $150 by error(the first time in six month since I've been there ever being late) and he said ok. No problem. 3 days later I was served with a eviction. Yes, I noticed the 3 day notice was skipped right over but that's another story. He lied. I said, fine, I had already told him I was moving out next month so if this is a retaliation for me wanting to leave I'll just leave.

Since the day that eviction was filed (and I've filed my answer) he has been a nuisance. Calling texting emailing me all day long. I have emailed, call, mailed, and texted him asking if he would cease and desist with all the texts threatening to throw my stuff out. He even lied and told me he'd won the case, when in fact the judge issued a continuance.

One day he even text me the same threatening text 17 times. Im so sick of it. I have kept a copy of everything but what can I do next. First when I asked him to stop he said ok, now hes saying, 'as long as Im your landlord I can do whatever I want to."

I'm trying to remain manner-able, but I'm losing my cool with this guy. I could understand if I was behind two months but two days and he jumped the gun.

I live in GA.

I have court and I'm not guilty (it was a error in my insurance companies system) but I've moved since and it's about a 30 mile drive there. I live in ga., I'm a single mom with a older vehicle (15 yrs) I know NOTHING about fixing vehicles and I have no relatives where I live who can help me or loan me their car. the belt snapped and my car is smoking from under the good very badly when I start it. I cannot get to the shop and I don't have the extra funds to fix it. Is it possible i can have my court date reset. i will have the money by the end of the week. because its first thing tomorrow morning I have no time to get it fixed before court.

My landlord is telling me that if I move out before the police come that an eviction is not on my record or something of the sort.

I have never been evicted, he pretty much has lied to me the entire time, and he illegally evicted me I have learned as he did not do the proper procedure of the Notice to quit etc. We made a payment plan and a day later he filed an eviction in court.

Im just choosing to leave because the place is run down and my neighbors are nasty its not worth the money. He has texted me like 15 times in one day the same message threatening the police are gonna come and throw my stuff out I better leave quick kinda stuff. I know the 7 day law so Im not worried about that.

But I was willing to up and leave asap, but is he lying to me about the eviction on my record or once the court judgement is in favor of him is it already on my record. If so I'm taking my time to move as it will cost me more to hire a mover over a days time when I have people who can help me this weekend.

i moved out of my bfs house a year ago with my two kids when he decided to let his mom (who shows signs of being very self centered to the extremity of making you miserable as you would want to not live there). I got my own place and we've tried to make it work but I'm just not satisfied with how things are. A year later his mom hAS still not gotten her life together. Shes moving out shes moving out is what i keep hearing, but he doesn't realize that I don't believe the story anymore. Our youngest is going on two. 2 years hes pretty much missed because coming by on the weekend is nothing. I mean he's tired from working all week, so he wants to sleep when he comes and then he basically only comes one day because he doesnt come til late on saturday and leaves early for work on Sunday. I care for the kids solely he tells me his friend doesn't make enough to afford rent and his mother doesn't pay anything but the phone bill and tv. So his money goes to paying for his house. I work part time and my hours sometimes are short, but I have to go without to support the kids because I'm doing it on my own and he doesn't see why I get pissed about things. You can't help me because you're too busy worried about ppl older than the both of us. I'm all for helping people and I've always told him this, but not when it hurts me. He ddoesn'tsee it and then if I say something its like 'ok im trying, but I don't think he realizes its been a year. I'm tired I just don't see a end to this. His mother lived with us in his house while I was preggo and the entire time we sat at home every weekend because he had no money because he was paying all the bills. I love him but he's killing me with this situation. I've never made him choose but I've been evicted twice this year because I can't afford all the bills on my own I'm struggling and he's not ABLE to do anything to help. I have had receiveg dislike for his mom from when we lived together while I was pregnant because she is so self centered she would put herself before anyone including helpless children. I'm just tired of it. I've known him 4 years, but this is just becoming too much. I'm tired of struggling and going without for me and my kids. No I don't receive govt asst. I get paid great hourly wages I just dont make the hours. When I say it I think that he sees it as Im saying it .because I dont like his mother but its the principle of our kids are gonna get older and wonder why is dad in none of these pictures and why did I go to all these different schools, etc.