ConcernedParents

My husband is supposed to add his daughter to his insurance when it is available which is November 1st. In order to do this, he needs a copy of her birth certificate and social security card and kindly has asked the child's BM for this information as she has it available. They have court ordered joint legal custody and she keeps giving him the run around about her personal information. Telling him that she's calling so and so to see if they really need it, won't provide him with her doctor's name and number, etc. My question is this, is this considered being in contempt of the court order if joint legal custody has been ordered?

My 1 year old step daughter comes to stay with us every Friday through Sunday, and EVERY Friday she comes to us with a bad diaper rash. Of course we do the normal give her a bath, put desitin on it, and diaper changes frequently. Within 24 hours it is virtually gone and by the time she goes home on Sunday we have it cleared up. However by the next Friday, it is occurring all over again. What could be going on at her mother's house that is causing this. I figured that after a year she'd have it figured out especially if we get it cleared up in nearly 24- 36 hours.

I recently married my husband and became the step mother of his daughter. When she was first born, her mother wouldn't let him keep her for longer than one overnight stay and wouldn't let him bathe her either. (Pretty odd in my opinion) Anyhow, I finally did meet my step daughter's mother one day and she actually told me she, "couldn't ask for a better person really." Those are her words and not mine. My husband did pay child support and still does, we do not go out on the weekends as we take her any chance we get, and I treat their daughter with nothing but love, respect, and encouragement. Recently my husband had the chance to keep her for an entire week and we were going on a family vacation but last minute work told him they couldn't release him to go. Therfore, he to me to go ahead and take her to visit the family approximately 4 hours away since there was no established custody and issues had arose that made him want to keep his daughter as often as possible and as long as possible. Now, when her mother found out about this, she literally flipped. I'm not new in the child's life as I have been there since the beginning, changing diapers, sleepless nights, teething, sickness, everything. I tried to keep my distance being that I knew how her mother was, but his daughter actually cries when anyone else holds her until I take her and she stops immediately. My question is this.. There are so many women who have children with men who end up marrying and have a problem with the step mother even if she is as kind as possible to her and her children. Why is it that they still have this issue when you've proven no harm to the children and that you want nothing but the best for them?

Please help me to understand!

Recently my husband filed for custody of his daughter due to some incidents of illegal substances in the child's mother's home both when myself or he picked her up. Once she found out he filed for custody (since there was no established custody) she has denied him visitation and pretty much called us every name in the book. I know I am the step mother and have always had the view of "the child should know they have a mother and only one real mother, and I am here to make sure that when the child is in our home they know they are loved, encourage them, support them, and keep them safe." However, I have been with her father since she was 2 months old and have taken care of her as if she were my own when she's been here. My question is this, not seeing her is definitely taking its toll on me emotionally and I don't know how to cope with this as she is not letting him get her until the court date which is in October. I have seen many step mothers come under criticism for being hurt by this. How on earth is it possible to cope with this while being strong for my husband? I know she's not biologically my child, but I do love her all the same. Please help!