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I got attached to someone who couldn’t and didn’t want to stick around. We didn’t get very close but it’s a couple months later after they went away and it’s not that I can’t get over him it’s like I just can’t find myself interested in anyone else. I guess it all takes time. I just kind of honestly don’t want to try to be in another relationship again. I just don’t ever want to settle for anything I don’t feel is right but I wonder if maybe I just don’t know what’s good for me.

I just don’t want anyone else..

I broke things off with (idk if you would say boyfriend cause when we talked about it being exclusive it seamed touchey and we were long distance) a guy I was talking to exclusively. We were kind of close and even with a whopping 6 hour time difference we still managed to talk. I broke things off because I felt like he really wasn’t treating me right or valuing me.. but of course you don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone. He seamed to have turned around but I refused to let him back in...

I guess I just wonder if I’m actually ever going to meet someone who doesn’t get tired of me or will have my best interest at heart..

They weren’t very very close but she really liked him and she doesn’t have a good support system.

Can’t tell what this guys intentions are with me. We met at a party and we went on a date the next day and we stayed up all night watching movies and since then we spent every evening together after work making dinner for together watching movies. Didn’t always have sex so I assumed that wasn’t all he wanted.

We went home to see our families for the holidays and the texting kind of got dry. I really like him but the other day we were going to see each other but he said he felt sick and the next day he didn’t text me and then the next day in the evening I just got a Snapchat which led to a conversation. So we talked and I said goodnight and left it at that. I’m not sure if I should really try and let go or if I should try to start up another conversation. I just don’t like to feel like I don’t know what his intentions are with me. I don’t like to play games either to try and win anyone over. But I do like him. It’s just hard to know whether to give it my all or to not make a fool of myself.

We went from spending every night together to not talking. I guess it’s just kind of hard for me because I moved here like two months ago and I’m kind of far from my family and I haven’t made any friends. I’m just gonna try to go to church.

Idk how I really feel about this guy but what should I do if he tries to talk to me again ?

I’ve been trying to work on myself but it’s hard not to be attached to people or want to pursue a relationship. I think I’m just used to that and I’ve always wanted the same thing.

I’ve always been looking for serious, long term monogamous relationships. I strive to build meaningful connections with the people I’m seeing and I can’t help it. When I’m interested in someone I’m only investing in them and they have my full attention.

I’m developing feelings for a guy I’m seeing (nothing serious between us) I think is a little different than the types I normally end up with which is good, and I know there’s no such thing as a perfect guy but how do I know?

How am I supposed to know if a guy is worth the long term effort or the investment? Am I not taking things slow enough or am I just not learning how to guard my heart properly.. I think I’ve given too many chances to undeserving guys but I don’t want to be the kind of woman who lets someone pass her by. I see the good in everyone but I ignore the red flags for a guy who’s kind of cute

I try to avoid washing my hair very often. I notice that when I wash it and when it’s done drying I don’t see allot of breakage, but as time goes on I can see exponentially more breakage but once I wash it again I can’t tell as much and it looks like I have no breakage

Is it breaking off every time I wash it or can I just not see the breakage until it’s been dry for a while ??

Or do you prefer a woman to not dirty talk at all?

I have this huge crush on a guy at my work. I smile every time I look at him and I can’t help it, but I wonder if I should back off since I’m younger. Maybe he’d prefer a woman with more life experience? Personally it doesn’t bother me that he’s older but idk. Am I not thinking about all this the right way. I would just love to get to know him, but I wouldn’t know the first thing about older guys. I don’t really feel attracted to younger guys. If this is wrong then how will I ever get his eyes out of my head?

I guess every branch has their own policies but in the Air Force say an E-3 A1C has a thing for an E-4 SrAmn and then that SrAmn makes E-5 SSgt making him now an NCO. These two are both in the same squadron but they’re in different flights. So they don’t directly work with each other and the E-5 wouldn’t be in direct supervision over the E-3 airman.

Are these two in the wrong if they we’re to enter a relationship? Different AFSCs? I don’t think the NCO is in a position that he can do any special favors for that airman but does this just make it wrong considering it now becomes a junior enlisted/NCO relationship?

How I used to understand it was that as long as the NCO isn’t responsible for the airman in that way of being a supervisor that this would be okay, but the airman still has some time before joining that NCO enlisted tier.

Is this okay or does this relationship need to stop

I left home to join the Air Force and before I left I had entered this long distance relationship with a guy who had gone to my high school. We connected over Facebook and he kind of swooped in as soon as I broke up with an abusive boyfriend so I was vulnerable at the time. It’s been a year since that happened and here I am now.

I finished all my training so far and I’m here at my first base to start even more training. I started to have a crush on a coworker and he and I hadn’t really been connected and I felt as though he just wasn’t investing a lot of effort into our relationship and with the stress of the distance and with him being in the army(this was one of the reasons we kind of connected at first with me planning on joining the service) stationed overseas the only way we could’ve been together was marriage. Started to notice some red flags and I took my crush as a sign that I needed to move on and work on myself.

Now I’m kind of struggling to know how to move forward from there.. I’m pretty lonely here

Maybe I have some sort of mental complex hindering me from really connecting with people but it seams like I always have this pain in my chest with that feeling of emptynsss. Like something huge really important is missing

It’s gettig to be very hard on me being without him. I even think I’m starting to have this crush on this guy I work with. Part of what is making this so hard I think is that I just moved here and am trying to start this new job.. I don’t know very many people and don’t really have any friends. I’m so lonely. I don’t want anyone else though. I just want to be patient and hopefully we can be reunited next year.. I’m so alone I almost want to go to therapy but I don’t want to be judged by co-workers

It’s taking forever to dry and when it’s wet the texture feels almost kind of mushy

I think I have self esteem issues and idk how to begin to work through those. It’s kind of hard to diagnose it as a problem

I graduated high school in may 2017 and worked a minimum wage job under my moms roof for a while cause I didn’t know what I wanted to do at all and I got tired of feeling like a burden almost.. so 8 months ago I left so I could train to be able to do my job and I wasn’t able to see my family hardly at all while I was training. I Just finished my training earlier this month and now I’ve moved 5 and a half hours away and I share a little apartment with 3 others. I don’t know anyone in this town and I’m a young girl and I don’t feel safe to really go anywhere by myself. I’m very new to being on my own and everyone here kind of keeps to themselves and doesn’t venture out often and for that reason I’m not sure that I’ll make very many friends. This job is hard too. I don’t know how to adjust to this cause it feels like I’m just all alone.