Shaun P

After 4 years of ups and downs with my 1st love, I finally decided to let her go as of today. She has shown me signs of moving on by dating another guy, moving in with him, sleeping in the same bed with him, trying to make a relationship work with him, and every so often tells me what he does wrong that is going on between them. Recently, she tried to get me back into supporting her financially since we saved up on money so well together when we were living together and loving each other. She still doesn't understand why it is so personal to me (Well, maybe now she does) whenever we do any kind of money exchanges between each other. I appreciate her help into wanting to pay me back but is it worth it? My main problems that have been recently coming up have been dreams of her and me talking together, being around each other, and even kissing each other. So, what should I do? Should I fight to get her back, or should I finally do what I have done just now and move on? Please help :(

Ok, my fiancé has been giving me the short answers lately and says, "We are growing apart. Oh well, I seen it coming." This has been going on for the last 2 days since our disagreement, and I need some help understanding this. SHORT STORY: (I asked her: Does she wanna see or hear her mama cry every time her little sisters don't act right? She thought it was an ignorant questions and didn't want to talk to me for 1 day. Lately, it has been all short answers.) She got mad at me for what I said and now, she acts as if she doesn't have anything to say to me or nothing is on her mind. We have been together for nearly 5 years. A few things are on my mind and I could really use some good feedback on this. Anyone out there who can help me understand things on this, because I am confused without a doubt and I keep seeing us not talking any more if this continues despite how much I love her.

1. Can this relationship last and be fixed?

2. How much longer should I try to be with her?

3. Should I move on to someone else and keep her as a friend?

4. Should I just remove her from my life?

Ok, not too long ago, my fiancé was mad at me for asking a dumb question, but I only asked her it because it seems like ever since she moved back to her home state, she has had nothing but a lot of moments of her family getting on her nerves. Anyway, the issue she had was with her younger sisters and how they made their mom cry. She said they don't listen, and I told her to make them mind you and her mother. She said to me that she can't since they are only her sister. My stupid question (Which felt now stupid to me) was: Do you wanna see or hear your mom cry every time this happens? Now my issue behind this is if things inside your family house hold isn't looking good, why not make a choice and change it? Sure, not tonight or within the next days, but make a change to how things are going for you and your family. I could really use a lot of advice on this so please, add on as much as you can about this situation. P.S. She is done talking to me for tonight so what can I do in the near future about this?

Ok, my GF and I are in a relationship. She went back home to her home state in VA. While she was in TX, she had a good job, her own place, her own car, and she had me to keep her satisfied whenever she needed it. When it came to problems, I always had a stupid habit of not saying much when I screwed up or I didn't know what to say to it. So, a lot of times she felt unloved even though I showed her differently. She said I was not romantic enough, I didn't shout out or let everyone know how much in love I was with her, and how at times I misunderstood her wants and needs as minor things.

What I am trying to figure out is this: Can we still make this relationship work now that she has gone back to VA where she barely has a job and a few other problems?

From arging over petty stuff to serious conflict, as a man, I wanna know how to re-shape myself and be better for my woman and/or girlfriend.