Carson

It's not important that you know any backstory, and please don't tell me to just get over it - this is a serious question.

Facts:

I'm in love with a woman, I know it with absolute certainty.

I also know this woman is straight (I am a gay woman), so therefore a relationship is not a possibility. She also has a family, and even if a relationship were a possibility I could never cause her such pain of ruining that bliss.

I have not told her, and do not plan to.

We were once very close, years ago when I was younger, in high school, but now only see each other when we run into each other randomly in the city.

So - I'm after any advice on how people deal with this sort of love.

I've been sitting on it for over a year; I know exactly what it is, with certainty. I just find the future extremely bleak because I know that, realistically, the chance of finding someone who I can love as much, and who could love me back the same, is very low (there simply aren't enough gay women out there to ensure a matchup!) And whilst I love feeling so much for one person, it's the most painful thing I've ever been through and I've decided it's time I asked others how they live with this.

Ideas or thoughts?

Thanks x

It's not important that you know any backstory, and please don't tell me to just get over it - this is a serious question.

Facts:

I'm in love with a woman, I know it with absolute certainty.

I also know this woman is straight (I am a gay woman), so therefore a relationship is not a possibility. She also has a family, and even if a relationship were a possibility I could never cause her such pain of ruining that bliss.

I have not told her, and do not plan to.

We were once very close, years ago when I was younger, in high school, but now only see each other when we run into each other randomly in the city.

So - I'm after any advice on how people deal with this sort of love.

I've been sitting on it for over a year; I know exactly what it is, with certainty. I just find the future extremely bleak because I know that, realistically, the chance of finding someone who I can love as much, and who could love me back the same, is very low (there simply aren't enough gay women out there to ensure a matchup!) And whilst I love feeling so much for one person, it's the most painful thing I've ever been through and I've decided it's time I asked others how they live with this.

Ideas or thoughts?

Thanks x

Yes, I visit Cube Nightclub - but they're usually all masculine/alternative lesbians anyway. Where are the feminine/mainstream lesbians?

:)

This is a serious question.

The only lesbians I can spot are the ones we can all spot from a mile away, and I'm talking the stereotypical masculine/alternative lesbians.

Problem - I'm only into feminine girls.

So how do I tell? If she dresses the same, acts the same, looks the same as any other girl?

(btw, this is hypothetical, I haven't actually got my eye on someone)

Thanks

I'm just interested in your stories :)

So you know who's asking:

A current 3rd year uni student - very much in love with a previous teacher from high school, and am very certain it's not a 'crush'.

Cheers in advance for your responses!