Sheri Brown

I moved into this house well aware that there were some problems needing addressed. Then I learned that more needed to be done that there was time. The house was shown to me “ready to move in”. Filthy stove, no refrigerator, garage door mechanism broken(anyone can lift the door open), no toilet seat, no water heater(no water), no heat(holes in flu) many more issues. I paid the security deposit, first month rent, and put all utilities in my name.

The landlord said that they were having appliances delivered but when they were delivered they were dropped off in front of the house. My daughters and myself moved the new stove in the house just to find out that it did not work. The refrigerator was taped shut and when I took the tape off it was molded all inside. Someone came and cleaned up an old stove and removed the other stove and refrigerator. The landlord said that they would find me another but never did.

Next they said that they were having someone come in the home to service the water heater. Currently there are 2 non working water h eaters in my basement and I have been stealing water from my job for 2 weeks now. My daughters and I have been throwing water down the toilet to flush and warming water n coffee makers to wash up in the sink.

Can I get out of my lease and can I get my security deposit back?

My 17 year old moved out soon after her birthday. She got kicked out of the house she was staying because she could not follow the rules. When she got kicked out somehow there was a decision made where she is now living with her biological father. From Missouri to Kansas she was no longer reporting at work and unenrolled from school.

The biological bought her a new phone and changed her number. I have not spoken with her directly for two weeks. He contacts me through Facebook asking for her social security card. Also says that he already has a copy of her birth certificate.

I told her that if for any reason she is not where she told me she would be that I would come get her. It is just suspicious that he is not contacting me directly, I do not have his number. I do not know where he lives and now I do not have her number.

According to her social media she is enrolled in a school in Kansas. Since I do not know the address to where she is, can I go get her from school?

My daughter is boy crazy. Nothing unusual about that. Problem is she does not follow the rules. She lies to me about most everything. She had a boyfriend. Asked me if she could date someone no longer in school. I said yes. He is a year older. Told her I need to meet this boy. She never introduced him. I checked her phone and she is telling this boy my work schedule, when I leave the house, asking him to come over, and talking about sucking his dcik.

Now she has been labeled in school. Its circulating that she sleeps around. she is 17 and thinking about moving out. I asked her where she would she go. She says she has a friend who has a house and renting out rooms. Mom is not dumb. I told her that I know that this friend is an adult. I asked her and the friend is a Male. I asked her if more than one Male lives there and she said yes. I asked her if any females live there and she doesn't know.

I asked her how many Male friends she has and she said 5-7. I told her that's too many. She said they listen to her and are supportive. she is so naive she is setting herself out to be victimized.

My dad and my sister tell me to leave her alone. They constantly remind me what I was doing when I was 17. But this is my child and unlike me is not an only child but the oldest of 3. A part of me is angry and wants to tear her up but the other tells me to grant her wish and put her out

About a month ago I asked a question about my 16 year old and her not being responsible at home. She half @ss does her chores, she is picks fights with her younger sisters, and she values her questionable peers.

There are times when I look at her and there is so much love and potential. Other times I'm just frustrated and confused. She will do the dishes but leave the kitchen a wretched mess. I have no idea what she does while I'm at work. I come home in the morning after a 12hour shift and find the house the same as i left it. Her room..the laundry.

So I was advised to let her get a job. That an employer would not be as compassionate and emotionally invested. I was told that she doesn't learn the way I teach. I did the same with all my kids but she is just different. She values peers over family.

She has an opportunity to earn weekly allowance. But when she wants to go to homecoming she asks me about a dress. She wants to go to a Bastille concert but thinks that I'm gonna pay for it AND LET HER GO UNSUPERVISED.

It's let her get a job and work for what She wants or to let her keep doing what she's (not)doing and not getting what she wants.

I have a 16 year old who can't seem to keep up with her responsibilities. Or maybe it's more like I can't seem to keep up with enforcing them. In our home each one of us has responsibilities in contributing to the household. My 16 year old is responsible for the kitchen.

Each night after dinner and each afternoon when she gets home from school. The after dinner dishes is self explanatory. But for after school I like to have a clean kitchen when I cook and the kids typically have something to snack on after dinner and breakfast dished need to be clean.

For the past four days I have been reminding her of her responsibilities. We also have a REAL CLEAN day, Saturday when we clean out old food from the refrigerator and such. She didn't do that either. Even gave her Sunday to get it done.

Each time I find her in her room on her phone. "Take her phone away" I did that. One week and she is back to the same behavior.

I moved in here in mid December. Income controlled with a waiting list also houses men, women, and children who have no income as well as pays an utility allowance. I moved in with my 3 children in a 3 bedroom apartment. These buildings are 3 floors 4 units per floor in a key secured building.

All sounds nice huh? Nope. There is a laundry room in the building..doesn t work. The young kids storm and play in the halls all day into the late evenings. Windows are broken to gain access to the building. That or the locks are compromised so the exterior doors don t lock at all. The building smells like weed about twice a day. It s1:30 am and the smell is creeping under my kitchen door I cant sleep with a headache.

I have complained to the leasing office, Wrote letters, avd sent emails. Once I dropped off a complaint to the office and as she read it she told me that she would send my complaint to corporate. But they say they have security on the property. I call security. There is no answer after 7 rings and I have to leave a message and wait an hour or two for them to call me back.

One of my daughters even told me that one of the residents threatened to get her gun. Said that her and another little boy knocked on her door looking for his sister. When she answered the door my daughter said she mumbled under her breath about" it s just y all. Thought I was gonna have to get my gun". All of these things I have reported in the past 3 months. What are my options?

I just moved here a couple months ago so I really don't know anyone. But I see kids ALL THE TIME.

I live on the bottom floor of a secured 3 story building.

Kids are in the second floor in the hallways playing. In the first level in the hallways playing. Outside unsupervised.

Last night I open my door to bicycles, rollerblades, and toys. 10 o'clock at night and about 8 children in the hallways riding, screaming, and playing. I tell them to go home.

8 this morning I return from dropping my children to school..two little girls are riding bikes in the hallway. 10 am I head to the buildings laundry room to find these same two little girls eating sandwiches and applesauce on the floor in the same hallway.

The only evidence of an adult is the yelling and the stink of weed.

I've already sent a letter to the leasing office.

My teenager does not sleep at night. She is a sophomore in high school and needs her rest at night to focus in school so I got her over the counter melatonin. But she says that her body is tired at night but her brain won't let her sleep.

This became a problem a couple years ago but I found that she was sneaking her phone to bed. Now the phone goes in my room at bed time. The melatonin has been working for her for about the last year but as of a couple weeks ago she has been laying in bed awake.

All this week when I get home from work around 4pm she is wrapped in her blanket over her head sleeping. I have to wake her up and get her motivated to do homework.

My husband and I have been separated since July 2017. We have decided to file separately. He thinks we should file one child ave split the return one the third child. I guess I should have mentioned there are three children, two of them his and the third from a previous relationship.

My problem is I work consistently throughout the year. He is in construction and has inconsistent proof off income.

He wants to put money into his business and I want to put money into buying a home.

Mind you, his business is self supporting. He claims himself as his only employee and pays others cash out of pocket. Also meaning that he will not be filling as an employee not as a business.

If one did something against the rules consistently for the past four months and just got caught and the other did a couple things against the rules four months ago and just got caught is the consequences the same? My 15 year old got her devises taken away for bad grades but been using her sister laptop and my office computer when I am at work. She has a history of defiance with the rules pertaining personal devises and internet safety.

The other I found a questionable picture of herself in her room with no panties on but it looks like the picture was taken and not taken herself. My heart dropped. Who took this effin picture and why is my daughter without underwear? Then I found a video on her phone that she recorded of herself rapping to an explicit song and I can tell from the background that she is at an afterschool event hiding in a room it looks like in a corner.

I say take Everyone I talk to says take devises away but one already has her devise taken. I say the one with the devise gets no devise and the other gets hard labor. Occupy her hands, body, and mind with house chores. One wanted to go to a concert. No concert(her dad is pissed says that I am picking on her). The other has plans to go to Dave and Busters with her friend. Not gonna happen(her dad says that I should just cancel both their cell phones permanently).

He thinks that this behavior comes from me choosing to be a single mom and that they need a father in their lives. But they still have a father.

My husband and I are separated. I work nights and he is on and off with work. But traditionally is available for the kids after school while I am at work. But they do not listen to him. He yells and threatens and still, they do not listen to him. When I get home from work and he meets me outside I get reports that Reina is sleeping in the living room or, the girls are still up they wouldn't go to bed.

So today he ask me how do I get them to listen. I tell him I set expectations and definite consequences for non compliance. He asked what consequences and I told him that about all he could really enforce was to tell them to go to their rooms. He for real said to me..can't I just tell them the next time dad goes somewhere they can't go with. I told him that they don't know when the next time will be and neither do you, it won't work. They will just overwhelm you and wait you out.

Some say time out. Taking the child away from the activity so they have time to reflect on the behavior vs. tenacity, what the child really learn is how to wait you out so they can go back to doing what they want to do.

Some say talking. Teaches a child to put thoughts into words resulting in understanding vs.There are no real consequences to any actions, all they have to do is pretend to listen then go back to doing what they want to do.

taking what they love most away. If they want it back, correct the behavior vs. Tolerance. They will learn to make due for the time being until it is given back.

Spankings. If you don't want to get hit don't do anything bad vs. Hitting teaches hitting.

wouldn't any one of these work better for one family over the other. Why completely rule out one because of the possible long term damaging effects. Kids who are hit learn to hit. But kids already know how to lit. We know that from the "mine" phase. Kids who are "talked"to are spoiled. We see that in homes where the child controls the parent because they learned at an early age hot to use their words to manipulate. Kids who have had thinks taken from them have no impulse control and have a propensity for theft. Kids raised in time out learn how to wait and recognize the glitch in the matrix. They have time to think alright. Learn how to be alone and quiet....

My husband and I are recently separated. Nothing court ordered or even filed as of yet. So we divided to split child responsibilities based on our work schedules. He is off the weekends. But with football he hasn't been choosing child/family friendly activities. He has taken to his friends house. Where there is football and beer. But justified it with the fact that there is also a pool and the people have children the same age as our kids.

He has taken the m bowling where the kids have said that they bowled while he watched the tv behind the lanes and drank beer.

He says that he is staying in and ask if they can stay the night. But at the last minute he wins concert tickets and leaves them home alone. Wedging the door closed with a block and a car battery. But asks the neighbor across the street to watch his house. Not letting anyone know that he won't be back til midnight.

So I tell him no more. Not unsupervised. That made him mad. Verbally attacked me in front of the kids and told them that I was keeping them from him. Then he starts picking our daughter up and not taking her home. Took her with him to his friends house. So I started taking the girls to my job with me. Now he is really mad that he can't just stop by the house and say "Let's go girls".

Now here is the kicker. Superbowl Sunday. He wants the girls to go with him even after I said no. but he talks like he is taking one child to get supplies for a school project

Been here a couple of years already. The lease was for 12 months but we continued to pay the original agreed upon rent and the landlord accepted the rent each month. The landlord has been paid rent 6 times late or partially(still late). In the original rental agreement states a $50 late fee that he never imposed.

Now that there are issues between the landlord and my husband the landlord is(now)imposing all of the associated late fees.

Landlord agreed to some constructional additions to the house. He agreed on a reduction in the monthly rent($50) and shared cost in the county permit costs. But landlord also wanted other things done. Husband painted house and paved drive way and landlord refuses to pay.

So now we have a cockroach infestation. Turns out they hitch hike from various places(grocery stores, construction sites, restaurants). So we called exterminator for an inspection. Turns out there is also a rodent infestation in the attic as well as termites. Repairs need to be done to the exterior of the house before extermination. Landlord says that he is not responsible,. Lease says that renters responsible for pest control. But we are now month to month and we have been trapping rats since we got there but they were never in the house to our knowledge. They were in the shed.

With the rats in the attic we cannot run the heat. Fills the house with rat piss smell. Makes me sick. I have asthma.

Offered to split the cost. Landlord still says no.

My husband and I are having issues with our 14 year old daughter. She likes boy, as do most 14 year old girls. But she has had some shaky moments in decision making in the past regarding boys. One boy she liked a couple years ago text her "I'm gonna fcuk you so hard you're gonna beg me for more". I shut that out real quick. Contacted the school9they had a class together) and the parent.

She had her first kiss last month(age appropriate). But this kid is raised by a sexually promiscuous single mother. So I set some strict rules to dating my daughter. They both like each other. No open mouth kisses. No hands other than her waist. and no unsupervised encounters.

My husbands first thought was birth control. Why? Because he is 16 and 16 year olds are already sexually active and this kid is driving already. I say that if we permit for her what is age appropriate under supervision then she gets this milestone out of the way. That this makes her stronger at making good healthy decisions as opposed to us assuming that a boy just wants to have sex with her.

My husband says that all teen boys want to have sex. That it is the only thing that they think of. He asked me today to schedule the appointment or they couldn't see each other anymore.

I think that putting her on the pill is telling her that we are predicting and permitting sex.

If you had a teen daughter in High school who like boys, chat rooms, and being on the internet talking to strangers looking for a boyfriend all of a sudden doesn t come home from school and no one knows where she is for two hours before she calls someone then tells some story about how she missed the bus and waited to call someone because she wasn t the only one who missed the bus so she waited with a friend to see if she could get a ride but when the friends ride arrived she couldn t get a ride so she used the friends phone to call dad but she didn t call dad first because she thought dad was at work when dad has been home all last week with a broken hand and will be all this week too.? What would you do?

What is the difference between depression and bi polar depression? My husband hordes but our house is functional, not like you see on TV. He will bring things home from construction job sites just because it is free and we don't even need it. He brought home a feather duster and he said that now I can dust without having to move things now.

Our front yard is congested with garbage cans, tables, and extension cords. He brings work home with him so he can work all night off site. We have deep (not walk in) closets and the dogs bed used to be in his closet. It doesn't fit anymore because of all the clutter in his closet, piles of clothes that he has laundered but not put away. He says that he doesn't have time to do it. He is in bed shortly after dinner playing Candy Crush falling asleep sometimes with his Ipad still in his lap usually around 9pm and is up for work the next morning at 5:30.

I stay up with the kids and try to get to sleep by 11pm and my work day starts at 2am and he calls me lazy.

But with all of this, he is full of energy. It is not like you see in the commercials. He is not sad n bed watching Dr. Phil all day crying into a bath robe. He is in Go mode all day long. The body and the mouth do not stop. Our daughter could ask what he is doing and in stead of telling her he will want to demonstrate to her. He will drink with the neighbors playing cards just to fit in and he doesn't even drink. Next thing I know he is sick vomiting in the bed.

My husband cooked dinner one night last week and it was not as appealing as when I cook. One child dumped her plate right n the garbage when he wasn't looking. Another only ate the meat, and my teenager says that the only reason why she is eating is because she doesn't get to eat at school.

I used to make school lunches but with one in high school and another in middle school I think that they are old enough to assume the responsibility of preparing their own lunches.

She says that she thinks abut making lunch the night before bed but she forgets and she runs out of time in the mornings spending too much time on breakfast.

I say that she needs to manage her time better. Hubby says that I need to go back to making lunches because it is important for her to have something healthy to eat mid day at school. My middle schooler likes school lunch and chooses to budget her allowance buying school lunches.

My high schooler says that standing in a lunch line interferes with her social time and she doesn't like salad,pizza, burgers, and chicken fingers every day.

Three daughters in different schools. One in high school one in middle school and one in elementary(5thgrade). My middle schooler and my high schooler want to wear wear make up to school. One is a leader and the other is a follower.

They all like devices. One likes Netflix. The other two like youtube. My 5th grader watches Liv and Maddie ALL THE TIME. My middle schooler likes nail art videos. My high schooler uses the internet as opposed the the app to avoid the parental blocks I put on the apps.

So I tell them that they cannot use the internet options on their devises until the can respect internet safety. Two of the three are doing that. But hubby says that it is not fair that the can do what the oldest should be already allowed to do.

I tool the high schoolers make up bag away because she is DECORATING her face for school. But the middle schooler wears her make up modestly. Not she just sneaks make up. I told her that I would teach her how to wear make up if she wants to wear it to school. Also told her that not wearing make up is more beautiful and healthier for the skin.

Grade expectations are the same for all three but enforced differently. The high schooler gets F s but she brings them up, ALL THE TIME. The 5th grader is habitually shy of the honor roll. She does enough just to get by. My middle school is actively working on scholorships but conveniently forgets when playing hard is more important than working hard.

My daughter has difficulty keeping a cell phone. We got her first cell phone age 10, she is 14 now. She has been through five phones and working on her sixth. Actually the sixth phone belongs to her younger sister is considering giving her her old phone. My 11 year old is really responsible and earns what she wants. All I ask for in our home is for A B grades, keep rooms clean, and good behavior.

My 14 year old has a lap[top from school that she has also decided to use for personal use. So now we keep the device in my room and I put it on the kitchen table at 8 so she can do her homework. This past weekend she snuck and got the laptop out of my room while I was out. When I got home I found that she had the laptop AND her sisters old phone. She was on the internet looking for someone to chat with and taking selfies of herself in bed.

So I asked her why she keeps breaking the rules and she says that If she is already in trouble it can't get any worse.

Any suggestions? I used to embarrass my kids as punishment. But I hear thats bad for kids. Used to make them run sprints in the street. For some reason all punishment is becoming bad for kids.