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To keep this short:

- I liked a girl, asked her out, got rejected, lost her as a friend (and she was the best friend I ever had.)

- All my other "friends" don't care about me, make jokes about me if the get the chance. They hardly ever invite me to go anywhere, and if they do its because I already knew they were going.

- There is only one person that I can actually trust, and I hardly know them since we have spoken in person only once or twice.

- I'm behind on most of my college work and am getting flooded with work that I'm too depressed to do.

- I have never had a girlfriend because every girl I ever like, likes someone else and I'm beginning to get very lonely.

There is just nothing that is going right for me. How am I supposed to get through this?

Just let me know what you think, and if there is anything I should change.

Have you met a person,

That every time you see,

Your day does anything but worsen,

And your heart feels so free?

Because I'm very lucky,

To have found someone like that,

The funny thing about her is,

She wants to eat cookies until she's fat. ;)

But in all seriousness,

She's absolutely amazing,

And her beauty,

Is oh so dazing.

I really don't understand,

How she is so perfect,

So much better than,

Anyone could ever expect.

But the best thing about this girl,

Is the fact that she is you,

The best girl that is out there,

And that's something I always knew.

I know it's my birthday,

But today's not about me,

Because your the special one,

I only want us to be.

I'll just leave you with the thought of me,

And the way I feel,

And that every single feeling,

Is very, very real.

I'm thinking of asking out this girl that I really like. Me and her are good friends, and she tells me how she feels when ever she gets dumped. She said that she wants someone that actually will love her every time, and I want to show her I will love her by doing something special for her. This is what I wrote:

Have you met a person,

That every time you see,

Your day does anything but worsen,

And your heart feels so free?

Because I'm very lucky,

To have found someone like that,

The only problem with her is,

She wants to eat cookies until she's fat. ;)

But in all seriousness,

She's absolutely amazing,

And her beauty,

Is oh so dazing.

I really don't understand,

How she is so perfect,

So much better than,

Anyone could ever expect.

But the best thing about this girl,

Is the fact that she is you,

Other guys seem to bite off,

Much more than they can chew.

But I think I can handle,

What would be in store,

If you really wanted,

Me and you to be more.

I'll just leave you with the thought of me,

And the way I feel,

And that every single feeling,

Is very, very real.

Is it too much? And the cookie part is a running joke between me and her.

And do I ask her out on my birthday, which is in a couple of days away, or leave it a little longer? Not sure if it is the best date to ask, but it's just on a day that she is off for most of the day. (We are in college.)

Thanks for reading this. If you want, I will answer yours.

I'm thinking of asking out this girl that I really like. Me and her are good friends, and she tells me how she feels when ever she gets dumped. She said that she wants someone that actually will love her every time, and I want to show her I will love her by doing something special for her. This is what I wrote:

Have you met a person,

That every time you see,

Your day does anything but worsen,

And your heart feels so free?

Because I'm very lucky,

To have found someone like that,

The only problem with her is,

She wants to eat cookies until she's fat. ;)

But in all seriousness,

She's absolutely amazing,

And her beauty,

Is oh so dazing.

I really don't understand,

How she is so perfect,

So much better than,

Anyone could ever expect.

But the best thing about this girl,

Is the fact that she is you,

Other guys seem to bite off,

Much more than they can chew.

But I think I can handle,

What would be in store,

If you really wanted,

Me and you to be more.

I'll just leave you with the thought of me,

And the way I feel,

And that every single feeling,

Is very, very real.

Is it too much? And the cookie part is a running joke between me and her.

And do I ask her out on my birthday, which is in a couple of days away, or leave it a little longer? Not sure if it is the best date to ask, but it's just on a day that she is off for most of the day. (We are in college.)

Thanks for reading this. If you want, I will answer yours.

There is my best friend and his girlfriend, (which I'm also friends with.) I used to like her back before they got together at all, then I stopped myself from liking her to be a good friend. The thing is, on Monday she told me, and no one else (not even her best friends), that she was going to leave him. Then on Tuesday she did. From that point I started talking to her more (mainly to help my best friend fix things.) Over the time I was talking to her, I started to fall for her again. Then on Friday, he asked her back out and she said yes.

Now I like her, but I can't do anything because she is taken and I've like her much more than I did the first time. And I see them together a lot.

But beside that, some things make me think that she kinda likes me. She walks next to me if possible when in a group, but without being obvious. Compares me to her boyfriend saying I am better. And a few other small things. But she thinks that I like someone else, because I said that I do when she asked since I didn't want to be awkward. She also says things making me think that she still loves my best friend, but always says "don't tell him I said that". And at one point she said she sees him as more of a friend, but then she says that he is the only person she likes.

I honestly can’t get over people normally, I either get over them very quickly but I will hate them afterward, and I don’t want that to happen since we are friends. Or if they know I like them and I am turned down or whatever, I can get over of them in a normal sort of time and still be fine talking to them. (Weird I know.) But I don’t know whether I should say anything or not. What do you think?

And just to make it clear, I wouldn't be making a move if I say anything, just letting her know.

There is my best friend and his girlfriend, (which I'm also friends with.) I used to like her back before they got together at all, then I stopped myself from liking her to be a good friend. The thing is, on Monday she told me, and no one else (not even her best friends), that she was going to leave him. Then on Tuesday she did. From that point I started talking to her more (mainly to help my best friend fix things.) Over the time I was talking to her, I started to fall for her again. Then on Friday, he asked her back out and she said yes.

Now I like her, but I can't do anything because she is taken and I've like her much more than I did the first time. And I see them together a lot.

But beside that, some things make me think that she kinda likes me. She walks next to me if possible when in a group, but without being obvious. Compares me to her boyfriend saying I am better. And a few other small things. But she thinks that I like someone else, because I said that I do when she asked since I didn't want to be awkward. She also says things making me think that she still loves my best friend, but always says "don't tell him I said that". And at one point she said she sees him as more of a friend, but then she says that he is the only person she likes. I can't make sense of it sometimes. What the hell do I do?

There is my best friend and his girlfriend, (which I'm also friends with.) I used to like her back before they got together at all, then I stopped myself from liking her to be a good friend. The thing is, on Monday she told me, and no one else (not even her best friends), that she was going to leave him. Then on Tuesday she did. From that point I started talking to her more (mainly to help my best friend fix things.) Over the time I was talking to her, I started to fall for her again. Then on Friday, he asked her back out and she said yes.

Now I like her, but I can't do anything because she is taken and I've like her much more than I did the first time. And I see them together a lot.

But beside that, some things make me think that she kinda likes me. She walks next to me if possible when in a group, but without being obvious. Compares me to her boyfriend saying I am better. And a few other small things. But she thinks that I like someone else, because I said that I do when she asked since I didn't want to be awkward. She also says things making me think that she still loves my best friend, but always says "don't tell him I said that". And at one point she said she sees him as more of a friend, but then she says that he is the only person she likes. I can't make sense of it sometimes. What the hell do I do?

- A bit of a tough guy.

- Emotionless. As in doesn't seem like he has any emotional side at all.

- A joker. Makes jokes a lot about most things as if he doesn't take life seriously as times.

- Cocky

- A bit like a teacher pet in some classes. (I know it doesn't really match the rest, but still.)

Would you give a guy like that a chance if he asked you out?

If you got to know him and you found out he was like the following, what would you think of him, and would you go out with him now?

- Kind, caring and loving. Will try to cheer up someone if they are upset. Feels extremely guilty about hurting other people.

- Sweet

- Does take life seriously, but just tries to please his friends by joking as if he doesn't.

- Hates teachers treating him like a model student.

- Easy to talk to about problems.

- Mature for age

In case you want to know, I'm 16. I have never had a girlfriend since I keep falling for the people that are taken, and I think it's something to do with what people assume I'm like as well. That's the reason I'm asking this. I feel like I will never be loved in one way since it feels like something will go wrong every time something gets close. And I'm curious as to what people think of me as well.

Thanks for reading, and I will answer yours.

There is this girl that I like. She was in a relationship for 2 years, and then they broke up about a month and a half ago. I knew she would still love him, but after what I had been through, I didn't want to wait too long. I told her that I like her in a really sweet way (I wrote her a poem) on Sunday. She said it was lovely and that she appreciated it.

Then yesterday, she posted "Why cant things be less complicated?" on facebook. I messaged her asking if it was to do with me. She replied with,

"Look I'm in love with ___ and I just want him back."

I sent her

"I know, and I don't expect you to like me and forget him. I want you to be happy, and it doesn't matter who does that. I just wanted you to know how I felt, and if you never feel the same towards me I will be happy as friends. The only reason I said anything was because after what happens to me every time I like someone, I don't want to miss the opportunity if it is there. But now I have realized that no matter what I do, I always make the person I like feel bad if I say something. So sorry about making things complicated for you, and I hope this helps things."

I had no reply.

Thing is, I doubt that her ex will take her back. I think he likes someone else now and that is why he left her. I hope that he does take her back because I really do just want her to be happy, and he is the only one that does that right now. And just in case that happens, I want to suppress my feelings for her so I don't get more hurt if I don't stand a chance of getting her. But I still want to like her so that if she gets over him and she realizes that she likes me or something, I don't want to say no and make it worse. But that's not the only reason I want to keep liking her.

So how to I suppress my feeling enough not to get hurt too much, but not enough to get over her completely? And also be able to jump into just being friends if I cant have her? I know I can go from liking someone I cant have to just friends, I have done it a few times. And I know that it isn't an easy thing to do, but I want to protect myself from more heartbreak. So what do I do?

Firstly, I'm a 16 year old guy. I see myself as a nice guy. I have been called attractive and very sweet. Girls have said they wish they had a guy like me on here when I have asked questions. I get on well with people. I am one of the smarter people in my school, but I'm not a nerd. I am fairly athletic, but I'm not a jock. Just an all- rounder.

I'm not perfect, I do have a few flaws that I don't really want to say. But I don't let anyone see those. I keep anything that people wouldn't like hidden. There are a few things personality wise that people see, but that's it. Things like the fact that I can be quite arrogant at times, but not very often. And only in front of friends.

Thing is, I'm not all that confident. I can be when I need to, but otherwise I'm quite shy. People don't know how shy I am, because I will overcome it. But they don't know how hard I find it. This shyness prevents me from talking to girls. I always end up liking someone, don't tell them, and when I finally go to beat my shyness, someone else gets them. And recently I told someone I liked them when they were single, but they said that they still want their ex back. So again, something when wrong.

No girls ever show interest in me, and it puts me down a little. I hear that I am amazing from people online and my friends and family. But absolutely no signs from anyone else. It makes me feel that much worse about myself. It feels like its my fault when people don't show interest because if I'm so good, why don't they like me? I know I'm not perfect, not even close, but my friends make me feel like I should be doing better. And then I feel like I'm underachieving. Even when I put my all into it.

I have never had a relationship or a kiss. The most I had was a hug from the girl that I recently told I liked for being so sweet. That did kind of cheer me up, but now she has said there is no chance, I'm down yet again. I'm just so lonely and feel like I will be forever alone. I know you will say "you're only 16," and I know that. And I know that I probably will find someone. But it still feels like I won't.

Why do I always have to fall for the wrong people? The ones I can't get?

Why does no one show interest in me? Is there something wrong with me?

How to get people to start liking me?

And please cheer me up? Shouldn't take much, I'm normally a happy person. Just not right now.

Firstly, I'm a 16 year old guy. I see myself as a nice guy. I have been called attractive and very sweet. Girls have said they wish they had a guy like me on here when I have asked questions. I get on well with people. I am one of the smarter people in my school, but I'm not a nerd. I am fairly athletic, but I'm not a jock. Just an all- rounder.

I'm not perfect, I do have a few flaws that I don't really want to say. But I don't let anyone see those. I keep anything that people wouldn't like hidden. There are a few things personality wise that people see, but that's it. Things like the fact that I can be quite arrogant at times, but not very often. And only in front of friends.

Thing is, I'm not all that confident. I can be when I need to, but otherwise I'm quite shy. People don't know how shy I am, because I will overcome it. But they don't know how hard I find it. This shyness prevents me from talking to girls. I always end up liking someone, don't tell them, and when I finally go to beat my shyness, someone else gets them. And recently I told someone I liked them when they were single, but they said that they still want their ex back. So again, something when wrong.

No girls ever show interest in me, and it puts me down a little. I hear that I am amazing from people online and my friends and family. But absolutely no signs from anyone else. It makes me feel that much worse about myself. It feels like its my fault when people don't show interest because if I'm so good, why don't they like me? I know I'm not perfect, not even close, but my friends make me feel like I should be doing better. And then I feel like I'm underachieving. Even when I put my all into it.

I have never had a relationship or a kiss. The most I had was a hug from the girl that I recently told I liked for being so sweet. That did kind of cheer me up, but now she has said there is no chance, I'm down yet again. I'm just so lonely and feel like I will be forever alone. I know you will say "you're only 16," and I know that. And I know that I probably will find someone. But it still feels like I won't.

Why do I always have to fall for the wrong people? The ones I can't get?

Why does no one show interest in me? Is there something wrong with me?

How to get people to start liking me?

And please cheer me up? Shouldn't take much, I'm normally a happy person. Just not right now.

There is this girl that I like. I told her on Sunday and I am not sure, but I think she likes me back. The problem is that her ex broke her heart and I think she is scared of being hurt again. She knows I'm not like him, or a lot of other guys. But I don't blame her for being scared.

I want to ask her to do something with me so we can get to know each other more, and for me to show that I won't hurt her. But I don't know what to ask her to do. We are both 16 and I'm not entirely sure what we could do that she would enjoy. Any ideas?

There is this girl that I have liked for a few weeks now. She was in a relationship just before I started to like her. But her boyfriend was ignoring her and not really caring for her, and in the end he left her. She still loved him when he ended it and I don't think she is near over him.

Starting from about 2 weeks ago, I gave her a few hints. Basic things and very subtle, but hints nonetheless. Then for her birthday (yesterday) I made her a card and wrote a poem to tell her. My original plan was to put the poem in the card and watch her open it. But she had people over when I was going to take it to her, so I posted the card (no poem) through the letterbox and left.

Today, I went back to her house to give her the poem. I knocked the door and when she opened it and saw me, she smiled and said "alright?". Normally she wouldn't smile like that, it was since she got the card. I did make the card myself, so it does mean a bit more. It had a picture of her on the front saying "Happy Birthday" and then "Have A Great Day" inside. So she probably didn't really know how I felt, but may have guessed from the thought. She said that the card was "lovely" with a big smile on her face. Then she told me about how when she saw it, she ran to the door to see if I was still there, but I had already gone. At this point I was thinking that my chances are good. So I said "This was supposed to be in your card" and went to hand her the poem. And I dropped it. Not purposely, but it did make her laugh so its all good. Then I picked it up and handed it to her. She opened it, read it and at the end she smiled and said "Thank you. Its lovely." She looked around a little, rubbing her eyes and said "Sorry, I'm just really tired. Its lovely though." Then she opened her arms for a hug. So I hugged her. She smiled and just said "I'll see you... whenever." I smiled and said alright. Then she went back in and I walked off.

In the 10 min walk I had home, I was thinking about what the hell actually happened. I don't know if that was a 'I'd like to see you again' kind of thing. Or whether she saw it as me just being a good friend and showing her someone cares, unlike her ex. Or if she didn't get what the poem was actually saying because she was tired. Or whether it was a subtle rejection. I honestly have no idea. Her body language says that she likes me and did understand it. But what she said and did makes me think that she just didn't quite get it. So what do you guys think? And what should I do?

Here is the poem: http://www.flickr.com/photos/78911798@N04/73891348...

(The blob at the bottom was a pic of her, I just blacked it out for this.)

There is this girl that I like. She is a friend of mine. We aren't good friends but we talk often. Just over a fortnight ago, she broke up with her ex after a 2 year relationship. She is coping fairly well and they are still friends. I have had problems getting into a relationship, and it makes me want to tell her sooner rather than wait (Even though it is probably best to wait.). I was thinking of saying it in person. But, when I was bored earlier I thought I would write a poem to say it. I was thinking of putting it with her birthday card in about a months time. I just want to know if you were in her situation how would you feel about the poem. And what do you think of the poem in general? I'm not completely satisfied with it, so I would like some feedback.

I wrote the poem and put it on an image. Just to say, the black blob at the bottom is a picture of her. (I just blanked it out.)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/78911798@N04/72560768...

There is this girl that I like. She is a friend of mine. We aren't good friends but we talk often. Just over a fortnight ago, she broke up with her ex after a 2 year relationship. She is coping fairly well and they are still friends. I have had problems getting into a relationship, and it makes me want to tell her sooner rather than wait (Even though it is probably best to wait.). I was thinking of saying it in person. But, when I was bored earlier I thought I would write a poem to say it. I just want to know if you were in her situation how would you feel about the poem. And what do you think of the poem in general? I'm not completely satisfied with it, so I would like some feedback.

I wrote the poem and put it on an image. Just to say, the black blob at the bottom is a picture of her. (I just blanked it out.)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/78911798@N04/72518085...

If you were in a relationship for 2 years with a guy, then you break up and only 12 days later a friend of your says this to you, how would you take it? It would be in person by the way.

I know this may be kind of weird but, umm. Yesterday I was reading this article and it made me think. Thing is, umm, I think I'm falling for you. I mean, I see you as a friend but I have noticed that I have done a few things that say otherwise. Like if I ever look around, I always glance at you without thinking. If I have a choice of where to sit, like in IT or science, I sit near you or opposite you without thinking. I put more trust in you than my best friend. I hate when people are upset, and when you are I feel like I have to help and and feel bad if I don't. I hate when people put themselves down, but I cant stand when you do. If you say something, I generally remember it.

I think of you as a friend and nothing more, but I do those things without noticing, and I just think I am beginning to like you. I'm only telling you because I feel that you should know. I want to just stay as friends but I want to get this off my chest.

I never thought that I liked this girl, I just saw her a a friend. But recently I noticed I may have liked her for a while, but never noticed. Put it this way:

- I put more trust in her than my best friend, even though we aren't really close friends.

- If I want to look behind me I will turn to look past her (if she is around), without meaning to.

- If I am in the same class and I have a choice of where to sit, I will go to sit on the same table as, or close to her without thinking about it.

- If she is upset, I hate it. With other people I do care but not as much.

- I hate when she puts herself down. e.g. "I'm ugly."

- I generally remember what people say, but I pick up on all the little things that she says.

How often do people like someone without knowing it?

And do you think I should mention this to her?

She came out of a relationship that she was in for 2 years about 10 days ago, and she is still friends with the guy. I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable but I don't want to miss out again. Every time I like someone, they end up going out with someone else before I tell them, and if I do like her I don't want to leave it. But I don't want it to effect or friendship. What do I do?

I generally hear girls say they want someone with a great personality. But generally I see them going for the good looking guys without thinking about their personality, and they normally end up getting hurt. Then all of the 'nice guys' are left on their own and are lonely. It's not exactly fair now is it? Guys, do you agree with what I am saying here? Have you noticed the same thing? I would guess it is because the girls see the guys looks and go for it, but if they are ugly they don't consider that the person could be really nice. Not all girls do it, but a lot do.

And I have been told I am the perfect guy in terms on personality, and that I am attractive. But no one shows any interest in me. Any idea as to why? I'm not insecure about it or anything, just curious as to why it could be.

And girls, which of these guys would you say is the best? Which do you think you would actually chase if they all were in the same place at the same time?

For looks; 1 is ugliest possible guy and 5 is best looking guy ever.

For personality, 1 is a prick that would be happy to cheat on you, 5 is the perfect guy that will always make you happy.

1) Looks: 1/5 Personality: 5/5

2) Looks: 2/5 Personality: 4/5

3) Looks: 3/5 Personality: 3/5

4) Looks: 4/5 Personality: 2/5

5) Looks: 5/5 Personality: 1/5

This is probably going to get long, but if you take the time to answer, I will answer yours.

So, I'm 16 and there was this girl that I liked (16). I didn't tell her and she started going out with this other guy (17). I sent her a message on facebook telling her:

I liked her and I just wanted her to know. I understood that she had a boyfriend and I didn't want to come between them, I just wanted to get it off my chest.

It annoyed her a bit. When I tried to make it up to her, I was an idiot and ended up annoying her more. I know she doesn't have any feelings for me at all, and I understand if she never will. But I still like her.

Today was my last proper school day, we had our yearbooks and an assembly. It made me think about my time in the school and when I liked her. Since she is in the yearbook a fair bit, I am going to think of her every time I see it. I don't want to go the rest of my life regretting not telling her sooner and making her feel the way she did. There are two ways I can think of to stop thinking of it. Firstly there is getting her out of my life completely. But she is going to the same college in september and I am going to see her there and the yearbook is a constant reminder. The other is to make friends with her. Sure it will make it worse to start off, but it will be better in the long run. I think the second option is better, but how the hell do I get her to be my friend after what happened?

I am going to see her on monday so I could talk to her, but I don't think I will get the chance. I could always just send her a message on facebook but that is the last thing I want to do. So how do I go about this, and what do I say? I am normally good with coming up with things to say like this, but I keep over-analysing anything I think of and find flaws.

Just to point out, I don't want people saying to find someone else, it doesn't work. And I do want to at least be friends with her, so what do I do?

When I first started in the school I am going to now, there was this girl in my form class. I liked her, but it was only year 7 so it wasn't exactly strong feelings. When we started year 9 I still had some feelings for her, but they still weren't strong. At one point, everyone in our form was teasing one of my friends saying that he liked this girl, when I know he didn't. They made it seem like a really bad thing liking her. It kind of put me off her and I didn't really her anymore.

For year 10, our form classes changed and she was no longer there. And with our new time tables, we weren't in any of the same classes. Since I never saw her around or anything, I never thought of her. Then halfway through the year, my ICT teacher was ill and my class had to join another class (the one she was in.) From then on I began liking her again and my feelings got stronger and stronger as time went on.

At the very start of year 11 I was just too shy to say anything. I built my confidence and was going to ask her out before the Christmas holidays. I planned on asking her the day before last. Problem is, I never saw her and on the last day, she wasn't in. Through the entire holiday I was thinking of her. I was going to tell her as soon as school started again. The day before school started, I was on facebook and I noticed she was in a relationship with someone else. I got really depressed because it wasn't the first time. During the time I didn't like her I did like other girls, but they started getting boyfriends as soon as I started to like them. It is so annoying.

About a week later, a told a mutual friend about this. She though that I should still tell her but say that I don't want to ruin the relationship. So I did. I don't want to go through all the details but I annoyed her a bit and gave her an excuse to call me a creep. I don't blame her, I was an idiot. For the next few weeks I tried to get over her and I did, but it wasn't easy.

I was able to look at her and not think about anything that happened. Thing is, when I see her now I can see why I liked her. And in a way I want to like her again. Just because of how I felt when I did like her. But then again I don't because it would just be awkward. Besides that, I think the only thing that would make me like her again, is if she asked me out, but that's not going be happening.

I just want to say, we are quite different and I don't think she would ever like me (even if she didn't have a boyfriend.) Besides, I don't even think that she would be right for me.

Firstly, is it normal to want to like someone like this without any feelings being there?

Secondly, do you think there may be some other reason for me wanting to like her again?

Finally, do you think I should talk to her about any of this? (not that I have a reason to, just asking.)

And I don't want any answers saying to "go for it" or "fight for her" or anything like that. I have done enough as it is.