Patience

Me & my ex been together for 1 year 4 months. We broke up 2 days ago. He told me that I was toxic I was the problem when in reality I wasn’t. I told how I felt when he asked what was wrong and I get called toxic and ****. Anyways he told me he was much happier single & that I was a lesson and I was just a character development to him. I’m guessing he just wanted out.. idk what I did tho. But this dream is so vivid it feels so damn real💔 I woke up crying. It all because I saw him post on Twitter saying he missed me before I went to sleep. Then I had the dream. Summary of it. We was both @ the park at night but he on the other side I’m on the other. He posted on Twitter for someone to come see him. 2 girls. 1 girl was from his previous job He worked at when we started dating. Mind you I had a mental / psyche breakdown. & I threw **** at both of them. The girl already tried to ruin our relationship cause she was jealous. But anyways... I told him in my dream “you said you missed me you move on this quick” etc etc. I was crying hurting freaking out. I don’t know why this **** feels so damn real it hurts. I don’t think I’m be able to see him ever again especially with someone else. 

Please help me why do I keep having vivid *** dreams that feel so real about him after 2 days that we been broken up. Why did I have a mental / psyche breakdowns I’m probably going to get called psycho . 

Please don’t be rude 

Hello! 

So my boyfriend who’s 22 and I which I’m 20 bout to be 21. Wants me to stay with him when he moves. Of course his mother made him want to put his name on everything and nothing under mine. I told him apartments require all residents have their name on the lease (besides kids obviously) he don’t understand that. Also his mother & all the woman in his family don’t have their name on anything only the man. I wasn’t raised that way & don’t want to feel like I’m living under him. I told him saving up for my own place & my own car. ‼️ I got bills like my college to pay for and everything. I just feel like he not getting the fact I’m getting my own until we can both agree on having 50/50 . I told him it’s best we wait in a year or 2. We been together for 1 year and 3 months. I’m thinking about it. And more I do I know clearly we are not ready to live together but he doesn’t understand that. I communicated with him and everything. What should I do? 

We been together for 1 year 3 months... and yeah we have planned on moving in together getting a spot together. But here’s a thing that bothers me & ive spoken to him about it. His mother & all the women in his family told him to only have his name on the lease and everything else to. Mind you the apartments where I love require if two people living in the apartment they have to have both names. But all the women in his family already convinced him basically for me to live under him. What if we argue and he kick me out. All the women in his family don’t have they name on nothing they all live under a MAN. I was not raised that way I’m independent. Also he moving like 45/55 min away from my work and from college. And I’ve explained to him we can move somewhere thats it’s half half for both of us I’m not wasting gas and putting mileage on my car. Period. It’s the fact he only went apartment hunting with his mother & never included me. How you want a place with me but yet not include me and make a decision already. I’ve explained to him that I’m just going to get my own & when both leases are up we can get a place together with BOTH names on it and everything if not then what’s the point of having a future. We not in high school we don’t need our mothers permission. I’m 20 gonna be 21 hes 22 finna be 23. Idk I’m dating a ******* mamas boy I’m probably selfish huh

So me and mines have been together for 1 year 3 months. & we have been talking about getting a place together. 50/50 like both of our names on everything. So his mother had convinced him everything will be under his name. He keeps saying that it will be our home and etc. I explained to him that it won’t feel like home because it’s going to feel like I’m living under you and you can kick me out if we get into it. I want to wake up to him every morning and go to sleep with him every night and etc. But like he not understanding the fact that it won’t feel like home. He keep saying “we splitting everything it’s just going to be under my name” like dude I’m sorry but no. I told him “I’m sorry but I can’t. I won’t live in a home where your name is on everything. You dis included me basically. But hopefully in a year or 2 we can come to an agreement and everything be under both of our names. I’m sorry but my mama told me not to ever move with someone if they name is on everything and nothing is on yours”

Am I wrong ? Now he mad at me I tried communicating with him

Last night I went through my boyfriend phone while he was asleep. My gut feeling told me to. He was already being sneaky & he was already hiding his phone from me💔😔 so I did I found stuff I ain’t wanna see but I knew what I was gon see. He cheated on me while we was on bad terms we weren’t even broken up we was just in a heated argument! His two friends are bad influence. I thought he was strong minded & not easily influence they encouraged him to cheat. He stays in the hotel due to personal reasons. But he had another girl there and had sex with her💔 yo like what? I was hurt and damaged. Torn. He said “you went through my phone huh” like mf obviously. On tiktok he liked girls videos of them twerking and half naked ... but if I post **** like that even think bout it he would say I’m looking for attention. He straight up lied to my face... I’m now not as confident I knew some was off cause he called me mami out of no where & it was weird he never calls me that we been together for 1 year and 3 months.‼️ He told me it was a mistake but I told him “it ain’t no mistake it’s a choice” he got on his knees begging me to stay and etc. he got aggressive & etc. he had a mental breakdown. Etc. but it felt like manipulation to me. It’s the fact he blames me for him cheating. Like every relationship I’ve been in only lasted a year and some month then at the end I get cheated on. Used on. 💔 what am I doing wrong?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 3 months. His mama had kicked him out of the house for no absolute reason all he said respect is earned not given. And she just kicked him out. He is now in a hotel with his things. I live with my mama but we working on getting our place. But I am getting mad and irritated that his sister and his cousin is giving him advice on what to do. He not even talking to me about none of this ****. Like. I told him when me and him discuss getting a place together it is between me and him and not his sister and cousin. He doesn't want to tell me the moves but he rather discuss it with his sister and his cousin. I am annoyed at this point is that bad? Lord. He been more distant and it feels like he don't want to talk to me about anything what should I do? Am I a terrible girlfriend thinking that.

Hello, Today my doctor had called me. Told me the results of my tests for and STD's and I was negative for all the STD's. The doctor has told me I was positive for HSV 2. which is herpes. Mind you I was negative for HSV 1. I looked at things on google. But I never slept with somebody outside of my relationship and he hasn't either and I know when he is lying to me. He isn't lying to me. In my gut feeling I feel like it is a false positive. Because how come HSV 1 tested negative but the HSV 2 is tested positive. Do you think it can be a false positive? I also want to say is that I am asking them to take my blood again and test me again just for that. I always check my private parts and nothing. I always take good care of myself. What should I do? Im so hurt right now I don't know how to describe it. Someone help me

Okay so I am putting down a $250 deposit down on the lofts I’m moving into. They suggest money order. They told me to bring to the leasing office my state I’d and all that .. and a money order for $250 . How would I do that? I am going to Quiktrip to get one. But do I purchase a money order 250 or do I have to write a money order out? And if I do write it out do I write out the lofts name or leasing office? 

My boyfriend and his mama got into it. And she kicked him out well trying to when we not able to move to our apartment till September. Anyways the lights are under his name only. And ****. He told her since he’s getting kicked out that he will take his name off and they will have to get their own lights under his name like Power and light. So she said “no your not you aren’t allowed to” and I’m like yes he can because it’s under him and his name. Isn’t he allowed to? The power and lights can’t be under his name if he’s not living there right?

wife, son/daughter , mother, sister/brother 

My boyfriend had chose 

mother , sister/brother, son/daughter, wife

It bothers me because I honestly think in my opinion is that your wife and your child comes first. Period. What you think? 

I’m 20 he’s 21. It’s not my first time having an apartment my lease is up in August. And we plan on getting us a loft downtown. And they require of both names on these lease . Me and him already spoke about it I said “we are a team we 50/50 we splitting everything” and he said “I know they just got a point” 

Like mf if it’s like that then you can get your own and I can find me a new apartment or loft. ‼️ No big deal but I’m order to grow don’t let your family interfere what we got going on. We grown ! 

He mad at me cause I find it disrespectful how he wanna listen to his family and say he can only have his name on the lease. Like tf man idk what to do

I’m using her account that she don’t use.. but anyways she told me she lost herself a little bit & don’t love herself a little bit . I mean yea she been down lately I tried to hype her up. But it’s like she deals with depression she takes anti depressants and I’m guessing she hasn’t been taking them.. when she told me that I said “then that don’t mean you love me, if you don’t love yourself you can’t love someone” and she got mad asf at me. We been together for 9 months.. I don’t see why she even mad at me . 🤦🏽‍♀️ Does anybody know why she want to get mad at me? She started saying “I don’t love you no more” after 30 minutes me trying to explain it. Then said “Is that what you want to hear” and it’s like how can you love me if you don’t love yourself. I don’t get it. Her used to be guy friend told me at the beginning of the relationship is that she sometimes have problems with self love . She’ll be good for couple months then go into a deep hole saying she’s thot and etc. but her friend also said that she loves hard and everything she does for me is out of love. Told me “don’t give up on her when sometimes she gives up on herself sometimes she’ll bounce back”

She told me I made her insecure when I liked some female pictures sometimes in the beginning I don’t no more. Because I don’t want her doing it to me. Beginning she saw I had a Twitter filled with bitches naked and **** porn ****. & I ****** up a month ago talking to someone I used to have feelings for. Wat should I do

I’m using her account that she don’t use.. but anyways she told me she lost herself a little bit & don’t love herself a little bit . I mean yea she been down lately I tried to hype her up. But it’s like she deals with depression she takes anti depressants and I’m guessing she hasn’t been taking them.. when she told me that I said “then that don’t mean you love me, if you don’t love yourself you can’t love someone” and she got mad asf at me. We been together for 9 months.. I don’t see why she even mad at me . 🤦🏽‍♀️ Does anybody know why she want to get mad at me? She started saying “I don’t love you no more” after 30 minutes me trying to explain it. Then said “Is that what you want to hear” and it’s like how can you love me if you don’t love yourself. I don’t get it. Her used to be guy friend told  me at the beginning of the relationship is that she sometimes have problems with self love . She’ll be good for couple months then go into a deep hole saying she’s thot and etc. but her friend also said that she loves hard and everything she does for me is out of love. Told me “don’t give up on her when sometimes she gives up on herself sometimes she’ll bounce back”

She told me I made her insecure when I liked some female pictures sometimes in the beginning I don’t no more. Because I don’t want her doing it to me. Beginning she saw I had a Twitter filled with bitches naked and **** porn ****. & I ****** up a month ago talking to someone I used to have feelings for. Wat should I do

Hey guys. So me and my ex boyfriend had broke up today and we was together for 7 months. I honestly dont even know what we even argued about that lead us to break up. Well i told him that if i wear a cute outfit from fashion nova or in general he would get mad and say i want attention from other men when that is not true i told him that he cant control what i wear. Also we got into it about his ex and why he defending her and **** and respecting her knowing she f***** around on him. Then we got into it about like him showing and giving that idgaf attitude when i come to him when something bothers me. I told him it might be small to him but its big to me. But like now that we both calmed down and stuff. He texted me saying he wants to see me on sunday for lunch, ice cream and walk around at the outlets. For the last time. What do you guys think he would want to see me for the last time?

And also he never posted a shirtless picture when we was in the relationship but now he did on his snap and i have a feeling hella females slid up on it and he entertaining it. But oh well i cant be mad we not together but im hurt and stuff. what should i do?

Hello, I had filed my taxes already and already got my tax returns. I forgot I had work at this one job for 3 months. And I didn't get those till late. What should I do? Can I file them next year?

Hey guys, so I am asking if my boyfriend brother is becoming between us. Im 20 and my boyfriend is 21. His brother is 17. So just 2 months ago well 3 months ago his brother has saw this video of some devil fake **** and traumitize and he been sad and ****. I cared at first. But like he wanted to drop out of school. And sit in the house and do nothing. But when me & my boyfriend go out he always calling him crying and ****. But when my boyfrined with his friends his brother dont bothers him. His brother always on sad **** when im with my boyfriend at the house. It was our lil anniversary thing that we do every month and this the 2nd one he wanted his brother to tag alone because he feels better. Like nothing is special no more. I tried to talk to him but he say "My brother will always comes first and he is my priority" like damn thats something you dont say to your girlfriend who is pregnant & you want to spend the rest of your life with. it just his brother doing this for attention is what i feel like. What should i do? Please help me . It like we never have alone time we never go out by ourselves never had us time. Like damn. His brother only does this when im around. He got mad because i gave my man 10$ to get some from QT because he said "no" to my mans on giving him $10 when he ask my man for everything when he get paid. So what you think help me.

Hey guys. This is my girlfriends account which she really does not use to be honest with you. But anyways my girlfriend is mad at me because I told her my little brother who is 17 about to be 18 is depressed and lonely. Mind you he dropping out of school. The only reason he going through it is because of this video of the devil and what not that isn't true and i keep having long talks about it saying it isnt real and all that. It been happening for 3 months now. I recently told my girlfriend that he comes first and that he is my priority. Mind you she is pregnant and I don't know if it is her hormones. But she said "So me and our child isn't your priority ? We don't come first im not saying not to care for your brother but damn dude this taking a toll on you and it like every time we have alone time or out on our anniversary or on a date some reason he always calls you but when you at work or out with your friends he doesn't call you crying its always when i am around whatever though im not going to stress out you can let me know when you tell me we come first bye" she hasnt spoken to me for like couple hours now and this isnt like her. She reads my message but doesnt respond i dont get why. 

Me and my boyfriend I care & love him with all my heart. ❤️ But like when we hangout with each other I want to have actual conversations & just talk sometimes... but all he wants to do is like be all over me kissing me and always hugging me. And he always be saying “let me eat that kitty tho don’t turn down some head”

But it’s like I’m not ready for that. Like Me & him don’t talk about anything we don’t communicate if something is wrong I try to but he ignores me. Like now ever since he came back from Florida he’s been distant from me. The fact that he cheated once ****** me up enough. But like I gave him another chance because I see the good in him but I made it clear to him if he do some **** like that again karma a *****.😂 but anyways he’s been distant he don’t want to talk about anything he don’t want to hear what’s on my mind. I just want to be respected and be heard out my best friend Devin we don’t talk as much but he checks up on me. I’m not the type to share my business about my relationship but I just asked him why guys be like that because well he’s a guy. He told me “if he’s like that he’s just wanting to get some he doesn’t like to talk about anything but Sex trust me I was in that place once but I changed”

But like what should I do or why he acting this way?