Ms. L

I just got a speeding ticket for going 78 in a 65 on 85 in Gwinnett county. There's no fine amount on the ticket but a mandatory court date. Does anyone know why I have to go to court for going 13 over? Im 28 years old and my driving record is pretty clean. The last speeding ticket I got was in 2006 in Louisiana which I paid. My license is not and has never been suspended. I know I was speeding and take responsibility for it but for 13 over I thought I would just have to pay a fine. Why the mandatory court appearance when I know so many others that get pulled over going much faster than 13 over and only had to mail in a fine?

And the invitation that was sent to the house was addressed to "The Frausto Family" so I guess that included me also....

I am thinking about starting a pilates program at a local studio but Im a little confused about the benefits of it. I believe from what I have read that the main goal of pilates is to strengthen the core. Is this true? If so, I would love to gain a stronger midsection and back but my main goal is to flatten, tone, and firm up my abs and from what I have read stronger abs doesnt mean flatter abs. I have gained about 30 pounds going from 120 lbs to 150 lbs and Im 5'7" I would like to lose maybe 5-7 pounds but overall I do like the curves the extra weight has given me but I really want to tighten my midsection (right now I have the horrible muffin top). So being that I dont want to lose a whole lot of weight and really want flatter abs and to tone the obliques, would pilates be a good program for me?

My cousin just went to get his driver's liscense but the dmv would not give him one because under gender on his birth certificate it was left blank. This has led to a debate between my aunt and I. She's saying there was a time when they didnt list gender on birth certificates and they just started doing so within the last 20 years. Does anyone know if this is true or have they always listed the gender? (Im sure this is in the wrong section, just dont know where else to post it)

I am getting married in May and my wedding colors are sky blue and yellow. What color should my mother and my mother in law wear? The bridesmaids will be wearing sky blue dresses and the groomsmen will have black tuxes with blue vests. Any suggestions for my mothers?

Im having my ceremony in May and my wedding planner says at most receptions the bride and groom do their first dance right after they are introduced before everyone eats. She says the reason for this is because when we walk in all eyes are on us. Is this the norm? All the weddings I have went to, the bride and groom danced after they ate. I dunno, what do you guys think?

My fiancee and I are trying to decide where we want to do our wedding registry. How many stores do most people register with? What is the appropriate number?

I am soooo sick of school. I do not want to attend another class. I am currently in undergrad majoring in biology. Im really ready to start working and stop staying up all night studying for exams and writing lab reports. Luckily my husband has a really good job and makes a little over $900,000.00 a year so money at this point is not really an issue. And although money isnt a problem, I dont want to be a stay at home mom, I do want to get out and work and feel like I am contributing financially to my family even if its in a very small way. Being that I dont want to do anymore schooling after I get my bs, what kind of job can I get with a bs in biology? Oh, I dont want to teach either.

I'm getting married May 23, and I have already ordered my bridal gown. When I tried on the sample in the store it looked white but the consultant that was working with me said it was ivory. I asked her several times if she was sure and everytime she would say yes, its ivory. So I told her well this looks white but I'll order whatever color this is. BIG MISTAKE! I got a color swatch of my gown today and its waaayyyy too dark and it has a yellow hue to it. I hate it! I should of just ordered white from the start. I immediately called the shop and told them the issue and they said the only thing I can do at this point is order a whole new dress at full price in white. My question is should I just pay and order a whole new dress in white? I could always take the ivory one to a consignment shop or sell it on ebay. I will probably lose some money on it but at least I will be totally happy on my wedding day. I dunno, what do you guys think?

Hmmm.... Im not really sure how to ask this but here it goes. When it comes to sex my fiancee is not very smooth about it. Instead of cuddling or kissing to jump start foreplay, he just walks up to me and grabs my breats and expects me to just drop to the floor and open my legs. Even when I try to lead the way and hug on him, he immediately sticks his hands down my pants. Its starting to become a turn off to me. I just need a little more stimulation I guess. I want him to romance me a little more before sex. How do I get him to do this? Ive talked to him several, several times, and nothing has changed. I believe that he listens to me when I talk to him about this, but that he just doesnt understand. Anyway, what should I do?

Ok, here's the deal. My fiancee and I have set our date for May 23, 2009. May is a special month for us because it was the month of may in which we first met and the 23rd works well because it's Memorial Day weekend and being that 90% of our guest are traveling from out of town, the Monday holiday gives them extra travel time. So we have already booked our venue and put down a deposit of 7g's (which we wont get back) and yesterday we find out that my fiancee's brother's girlfriend is pregnant and she is due in May. Now the brother is asking my fiancee to change the wedding date so he can be at the wedding for sure. My fiancee and his brother are very close, he is supposed to be the best man in the wedding. My question to you guys is should we push back the wedding because of this pregnancy? I really dont want to because we have already invested so much time and money in this that we wont get back but what do you guys think?