Kailey

Please answer honestly! What do you think when you see a black man with a white woman? My friend and I get stared at and people whisper as we walk by, everytime we are together! It is frustrating! I realize that many people are ignorant, but I am curious as to what goes through their minds. It is typically older people (50+), but younger people do it too sometimes. I would much rather they just speak their minds, or keep their judgements to themselves all together!

So, I want to know if anyone of you have an issue with inter-racial relationships and if so, why?

I have four boys. My oldest turned 18 in November. He is a senior in high school and will be going to college in the fall. He is a good kid for the most part, but since he turned 18 I am forever hearing "I'm 18, I can do what I want". I am about to lose it! I have tried the "not while you live under my roof" bit and he says "fine, I'll move out". I don't want him to do that because I fear he will mess up his future. I have tried to explain to him that I love him and I worry about him, but he continues with the attitude! He has this tough guy attitude and is constantly being a jerk to me and his younger brothers.

I guess my question is......what do I do? He is paying for his own car, so I can't take that! I just want him to understand that he has his entire future ahead of him and one stupid decision could ruin it! I keep praying he will snap out of this, but in the meantime I'm losing my mind and sleep!!!

Advice from people with older children would be appreciated!

I will try to make this short. I am in the middle of a divorce. I have not been looking to date, nor even interested right now. About 3 weeks ago a man walked into my office and totally caught me off guard - he was gorgeous!! He asked me out to dinner and I declined. I told him my situation and just explained that I wasn't ready to even consider dating. We had a short conversation. He told me he was divorced, no children and not dating anyone, etc.... He took a business card and called me a few times, but I continued to reject his advances. About a week later, he came back to my office. Ask me out again! I agreed to a least talk to him, as friends, and see where things went. And then.......I started to get this really bad feeling in my gut. This guy is great! He is very good looking, intelligent, motivated, etc..... But, every evening, his cell phone would be turned off.

When I make Sofrito, should I take the seeds out of the ajies dulce, or leave them in??

I am going to file for divorce - I think! I have been maried for 15 years (together for 20). I have tried absolutely everything I know to try to work it out. We have gone to counceling several times throughout the relationship. It seems to work temporarily, but things always go back to the way they were. Our communication is terrible, if not non-existent. We have no intamacy at all! We haven't had sex since February and before that it was over a year. He is addicted to television. He never goes to bed with me because he has to stay up to watch TV. On the rare occasion that he does go to bed at the same time, he turnes on the TV and ignores me completely. I know I could probably beg him for sex and get it more often, but that is so degrading. I want him to at least pretend like I am important to him. I want to be happy! Religiously, I am struggling with the idea of divorce! Any advice would help! Thanks!

My husband is terrbile with money! He nickel and dimes us to death, and it is killing us financially. He wants to be responsible for the bills, but he doesn't pay them on time. I work full-time as well, so I am contributing a large amount of income to our household. I feel like I have tried everything! He won't give me his checks so I can pay the bills, we have tried sitting down together twice a month to go over the bills, but we end up fighting because he has spent so much. I'm just hoping for some suggestions on how to make this work? Is there anyone else dealing with this issue?

I used to work with a guy who I became really good friends with. He was single, lived alone. I was married and going through a hard time with my husband. I confided in him with things that I probably shouldn't have, and maybe gave him the wrong impression. I discovered later that he wanted more than a friendship with me, so I slowly stopped talking to him. I cared about him as a friend, but because I was married, the relationship could never go any further than friends. Because I was well aware that he wanted more, I thought that breaking it off all together was the best thing to do.

It's been about 6 months since I last spoke to him. He used to work around the corner from me, and I would see him driving. Lately I haven't seen him, and he no longer lives at the same address. I still have his cell #, but I don't know if I should call him. I'm worried and I need to know if he is ok, but I am afraid of starting another "friendship" with him. Any suggestions?

I've never had sex with this guy! In fact he lives 200 miles away, and I have only known him since July. I thought we were just friends. He called me the other night, but I was out with some friends. He got soooo mad, and sent me a text message that said "so, you are already someone else's booty call, that was quick". I have basically avoided him ever since, because I don't appreciate being referred to as a "booty call". Am I over reacting?? Does anyone agree that he is making me out to be a whore??

A friend of mine is back on the dating scene, and very self-concience about her stretch marks. She is absolutely beautiful, thin, and in great shape, but because of 2 pregnancies, she has stretch marks on her lower stomach. Would that turn you off?

I have been married for 14 years. I have 4 children. My husband and I don't fight and scream at each other, in fact we don't talk much at all. There has been a lot of things happen that have made me unable to depend on him or even trust him. I filed for divorce about 4 months ago, but decided not to go through with it. I am sooo scared that my children will be angry at me, and the fear of them possibly choosing to live with their dad scares me to death. Because the two oldest are 14 and 17, they would get to decide for themselves where they live. It is so hard!! I am not happy, but I would rather be unhappy than cause my children unhappiness. Has anyone else been through this? Any advice? We are in counceling, and I am honestly trying, but the feelings just aren't there anymore.

I am 36 years old, newly divorced, and not looking for a serious relationship. I recently met a man who is only 24. He calls me everyday and wants me to go out with him. Part of me says "go for it" and the other part of me says"stay away". Has anyone been in this situation, and if so, what should I do?