Alicia

I sell somewhat frequently on eBay, and I recently had a buyer file an “Item Not Received” dispute against me. The item in question was dropped off at the post office within 24 hours of their payment and the delivery confirmation number backs this up. For some reason, it took 14 days to arrive, but it DID arrive. The buyer is completely uncooperative; they sent me one email on May 17th asking (very rudely) where their item was, and then another on the 18th telling me “u r big joke 2 eBay.” I was online early on the 17th, before they sent their first message, and I didn’t get online on the 18th because it was my birthday and I went out with my family. I replied to them on the 19th with no reply, and found that they had already filed the dispute. (And left negative feedback.) I provided tracking (which showed then that the item was still in transit) and gave a brief summary of events. The buyer then decided to escalate it and contacted customer support.

That’s where I need some advice. The dispute was escalated on May 19th. The item was delivered on May 24th, dropped off at the post office on May 10th. eBay specifies that they will reach a decision within 72 hours. It has been nearly two weeks. What do I do? The item was delivered, and the buyer is not even responding to me.

Would you ever consider wearing your mother's wedding dress, or any other family member's? Why or why not? If you are, what alterations did you have to make to it?

I'm looking at getting my first tattoo next month, (either lower back or upper back, haven't decided which yet), and the artist is a really good friend of mine. I'm not worried about the pain or anything like that, just what the heck I can do to keep myself focused on something else aside from the discomfort and the potentially awkward silence. I have friends that recommended listening to an iPOD, has anyone done that?

For a year now, I have not been speaking to my father's immediate family. In a nutshell, my grandfather has emotional problems (of the negative variety), and my grandmother is rude, judgmental, and generally treats my mother and I like dirt. This year, for my 20th birthday, they sent me a card with $30 in it signed with their made-up nicknames. Should I send a thank you note? If so, what should I say, what should I address them as, and how should I send it? (They live 3 doors down the road.)

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This font is from Exclusively Weddings. All I know about it is that they call it "AFF", and it's very similar to Dobkin. It may be by Scriptorium, but I'm not sure. I want this EXACT font, and don't care if I have to buy it. If you can help, I'd be very grateful. Thanks!

If you were a bridesmaid, which would you prefer: A reasonably-priced one-piece dress, or slightly more expensive skirt and top seperates?

Is it traditional to eat the cake at the reception, or take it home? I keep getting conflicting answers.

If you've never heard of this before, it's a reception where the only meal served is dessert. It's considered socially acceptable as long as it isn't during a standard meal time.

Our wedding ceremony will be at 6 in the evening, and there will be half an hour between the ceremony's end (around 6:45-7) and the beginning of the reception. We figure this is a little late to serve a full dinner.

The reception will be formal, we'll be serving wedding cake, cheesecake, and sorbet. There will be dancing, it will have assigned seating. We haven't decided on what alcohol we'll serve, but we'll have a hot cocoa and cider bar. (It will be December)

Would you attend this kind of event? Any suggestions for letting people know we won't be serving dinner? Any other thoughts or ideas? Thanks!