Lindsey

First off I love my step daughters. They really are two of the best girls I have ever been around. but I have a small problem with the younger girl. Its like almost every time I tell her to do something she doesn't do it. We get the girls every other weekend and a month in the summer plus spring break

Example:Her and her sister where standing in front of me and i said when y'all change out of y'alls clothes put the back up..when I walked into their room her clothes were laying on the floor. I asked her why she didn't put the back up she said she didn't hear me, but her sister did and they weren't two feet from me.

I don't make either of the girls do much, you know besides picking up their rooms and putting their clothes up...I don't really have problems with that but if i tell both girls to pick up the living room she won't do it. She'll say I didn't hear you.

She is 8 and I am at my wits end. I have tried to explain to her that I when I talk to her she needs to listen. I don't spank the girls, because I don't feel like I have that right. But I don't know what to do...

Like I said she is a great little girl except for this one little thing. She's polite and just as sweet as can be...

Please help me.....I am just really frustrated and I don't want to make it a big problem with her i just wanted to her listen....

Ok here's my problem. My husband has two daughters, both of the girls live with their mom. The oldest girl wants to live with her dad.

He got separated December 2006. The divorce went through in August 2008 (it took so long because in NC you have to be separated for one year and then his ex wouldn't get the divorce taken care of).

Before the divorce got finalized the oldest girl told him that she wanted to live with him so he told his ex. She had no problem with it. Then out of the blue she she filed and Ex parte order. Well they took the oldest girl back but they through out the order. His lawyer said that since the girl was only 10 the judge didn't think she was mature enough to decided which parent she wanted to stay with. But the lawyer said that when she turns 12 that there is a very good chance that he would be able to get her. He does have joint custody with his ex.

Ok thats the background. The oldest girl still wants to stay with us. My question is this past year her grades have dropped. She made a D and a C on her report card. My husband asked her why she made those grades and she is smart enough to say why. She is a very smart girl and she shouldn't be making those kind of grades.

Would my husband be able to use her grades dropping as a reason for her to move in with us? I mean the oldest girl sat there and told me why she didn't do good in those classes (no one checking her homework, no one making her turn her tv off and do it). She also knows that she wouldn't make those grades if she stayed with us.

But I keep wondering if the ex's lawyer would use the divorce as the reason for her grades. By the way the youngest girl makes straight A's. So I don't know if they could use that. I'm sorry so long I just wanted everyone to completely understand the situation. Thanks for the help

My dog has peed on the floor in my closet. I have a steam cleaner and i have cleaned it repeatedly. I cleaned it two-days in a row and it still smells. The dog hasn't been in there in a long time but i cant get the smell out.

My brother-in-law has never liked me. My husband and I have gone out of our way to help him. He never thanked me or acknowledged that I helped him in anyway. He even acts like I have no right to be left alone with my two stepdaughters.

I'm eight months pregnant and my husband and I are moving back to the area where my brother-in-law lives. I don't wish anything bad for him, but I do not like him.(there was a phsyical altercation between us about a year ago.) I don't want to be around him.

My question is how do I deal with him seeing his neice, my daughter, when we move back there? I don't want to deny him seeing her, but like i said I just don't really care to be around him.

My husband recieved some land when his grandmother died. He owns the land in North Carolina, but his mother has life time rights to the land. I'm not from NC so I don't completely understand this. My husband says that she can come onto the land at any time with no type of repercussions, is that true?