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I do daycare, i had a couple contact me about doing childcare for their 7 month old son. This couple is very hard to understand- im going to guess them to be from Somalia so their English is very broken and unclear. The mother breastfeeds so i asked them to bring bottles and milk. They brought two bottles in which they slit the tops of both nipples. When i questioned the dad about this (mom was not here) he claimed he did not know. I asked if the baby has ever been in daycare, answer was no. I asked if hes ever had a bottle- answer was no. I asked if hes ever had formula he said yes. When i asked how they gave him formula he said with a spoon. I went out and bought a few different styles of bottles for this little guy and he does not know how to suck or latch onto the bottle. He refuses to eat anything. Yeasterday the mom and dad both showed up. I handed them 3 bottles all containing his formula and told them to show me how to get him to eat- they could not get him to take the milk. I then asked about the baby food, the mom proceeded to lay the baby flat across her lap, opened his mouth with one hand and spooned the food in with the other hand. She forced him to eat. i cannot do this, first off its dangerous, second of all i will not be liable for choking issues. Not going to happen. I have 6 other full time children all under 4 and one being a 4 month infant. i cannot take 1.5 hours to spoon feed him 4 oz of formula. And even if i attempted to, i would have to force feed him, as the mother did. WHAT do i DO? This little guy should not be in daycare, not until he is comfortable with a bottle. What would you do?

Our sixth grader come home with a letter today from the United States Achievement Academy (USAA) who's who among honor students. They want to publish his name in a book, saying it is a rare chance to have this done. This would also make him elgible for some education grants. My husband claims this is some sort of money maker and that they probably send this out to many students. To publish the childs name it is free, to order a copy of the book it is approx 60$.

I am very proud of him and want to order a book, but my husband just isnt sure about the whole deal. My son brought the envelope home from school today saying the school counsler gave it to him. Any information would be greatly appreciated thanks!!

About 2 weeks ago my husband had flu like symptoms, he wasnt eating, cold, tired, and achy. On monday he went into the doctor. Not having insurance he refused a chest x-ray, the doctor listened to his chest and concluded that he had fluid in his lungs, said he had pneumonia. She told him to rest, gave him a prescription for Zithromax (antibiotic), an inhaler, and cough medicine with codine. She said if he was not better by wednesday to come back in.

He wouldnt go back in, as he is hard headed. He finished his last dose of antibiotics this morning and he is still coughing up fluid-which appears clear (always was clear), and that he also feels short of breath. The inhaler doesnt seem to be helping much at all. Im wondering if perhaps he didnt respond to the antibiotics and should be seen again, or its a viral form and not a bacterial form which would make sense as why he didnt respond to antibiotics, or if he has a much more severe case and needs to be taken to the ER to be seen. I have tried doing some research online but i would really like to hear from anyone that has ever had pneumonia, if this is the normal course of recovery? Thanks so much i really do appreciate it!

We have five little boys, our youngest turned 3 in June. The older boys were all and still are very well behaved. Our youngest is a different story. He has always been advanced for his age, as i believe he has always tried catching up with the older boys. He was walking at 9 months and using complete complex sentences by the time he was 2 years old. He is a very sweet little boy, but when he gets angry he makes sure everyone knows and hears him. When hes frustrated, like if a toy doesnt do what he thinks it should, he will scream and start to kick or throw the toy. Im not understanding what is going on. We treat him just like we treated the others at this age. I try to get to his level and calm him down and try talking but that doesnt even work. Any suggestions on what to try? He totally understands what is acceptable and what is not.

We are wanting to have a basement dug and move a new home onto the basement. We arent sure the difference or pros and cons to wood basement vs. concrete basements. We have heard wood basements have become more costly then concrete. Honestly we arent even sure where to begin! Do we hire a General Contractor? Do we hire someone for the excavating or where do we start?!? We feel like first time homebuyers who are in this blind. Any suggestions or opionions or advice would be GREAT!! THANKS!!

By the way we live in North Dakota. We have very cold winters not sure if this impacts the wood or concrete one way or another...sure it does!

First off i realize that 5 boys is ALOT of work, however i can also tell you that our boys have rules and are very good children. They do their chores and help out as much as they can. They love to help. They very seldom fight with eachother. Usually play very well together! Our home is calm, and under control. I am not stressed because of children, they really have nothing to do with how i feel. In fact the last post on my last message involved "jumping on my husband as soon as he walks in the door" Which is totally false. My husband comes home from work and i never greet him with a problem, a concern, or even a statement. I give him time to unwind, change clothes, do what he needs to do, play with the kids and i address ANY issues i have AFTER the boys are in bed. I do not, i will not and i will NEVER discuss any issues i may have with my husband in front of my children. In fact if my husband stands and pokes and says things that he KNOWS will anger me, and there are kids around i dont speak, i dont comment. I get pissed yes but my job as a parent is to put them first. I do not respond on issues that i dont think are worth discussing and i do not talk about "adult" issues in front of my children, that is NOT fair to them.

When my husband wants to talk, he wants to talk then and there, he is very very good at turning all of my problems into being my fault. He accepts very little blame on ANYTHING and the blame he does accept always has a "but" with it. So if i say im hurt because you said this to me, he will respond with well im sorry i said that BUT if you wouldnt have done this, i wouldnt have said that. I find that absolutly crazy and unfair. I accept blame when i am to blame, i will apologize when i am wrong. I love my husband, i love my children i want it to work. Im just not sure how to make it work after 8 years starting great, and slowly coming to this. My children come first, and i wouldnt put ANYONE before them. I dont know what to do, ive been a stay at home mom for years and ive never felt this way. So really do i think its a case of stay at home mom blues? Um nope because that doesnt seem to be my issue. My issues seem to be with my husband passing blame on everyone but himself, not apologizing for the hurtful things he says, but instead has excuses as to why he says them, not listening when i TRY to talk to him in a civil way, and then accusing my of attacking him when i get angry at him for not listening to me when i talked CIVIL MONTHS before i attack him, For acting as though i am a worthless mother to my children, which hurts me the most. I think he uses the kid/mother attack because he knows i define myself as a mother and i take great pride in that so its a good hurtful jab. Im not sure what to do anymore, i think ive just simply had enough. I really really love my husband, and i love my sons and i would do anything for any of them however i am starting to think that my mental and emotional health is taking a huge plunge and if i want my boys to be happy, and if i want my husband and our relashionship to be happy once again maybe i do need to get away from him, maybe then he will appreciate all that i do to instead of telling me all of the things that i dont do. Like-take care of kids all day every day morning til night, no vacations. Run errands to pay bills, shop for household items with a bunch of children, keep a clean home, always have food ready for him and kids all taken care of so he doesnt have to come from work to do more work, taking my summer and spending 6 hours at ball diamonds doing baseball games for 4 different boys. Putting myself at the BOTTOM of anything. Always putting my husband, my children and even complete strangers first. Stressing myself out just so i can help anyone who might need some help. I just cant do it anymore. Geeze he doesnt even need to do yard work around here, i do that as well! We have a 1/2acre yard that i PUSH mow all of the time. I dont ask for his help because i respect and appreciate the job he does in putting a roof over our heads. I dont ask for that because i know and i want him to have his down time. But for some reason i never get mine and when i try to sneak in 15 mins of just sitting, i feel guilty because he will probably point out something that could have or should have been done when our next fight occurs.

I really need some outside advice and opionions. My husband and i have been together for 8 years, we are a blended family consisting of 5 boys ages 11 down to 2. He had two, i had two and we had one together. We raise them all 100% of the time. I am a stay at home mom and he works full time.

After the birth of our now 2 year old, our relashionship has went downhill. We fight about kids all of the time. He says im not strict enough on our son, which he is not here to know how i handle things. He thinks that a child should be punished for everything-such as opening the fridge to get a sippy cup. I find this very unreasonable.

I feel controlled, and he says those arent his intentions. He tells me i can do things and then gives me stipulations. For example i asked about getting an area rug and a plant for a corner in the living room, he said that was fine, and months later it still hasnt happened, i brought it up again and then i was told how we need to do this and that first. In my head i was given stipulations.

He acts like being a stay at home mom is a simple job and i should have all of the time in the world and everything should be a breeze. He forgets that i stay at home with TWO 2 year olds (one daycare,one ours) and at 3pm the other 4 boys come home and we do school work, spelling words, chores, church verses, vocab words, and i make supper. He doesnt come home to a spotless home, however he does come home to the kids being done with work, supper made, toys cleaned up and a decent organized home. Im at my breaking point, and have no idea what to do. I feel like a stranger in my own home, i feel unappreciated. I feel like a maid, ive been told that our 2 year old would be better in daycare, and that hurts. I adore my son and although i may not do things as my husband would, my son is safe, loved, happy and taken care of. He has his bad days and throws his fits but hes only 2! When he does wrong my husband jumps to spanking, i get a way better response by getting down on his level and telling him what i want him to do. I love this man but i dont think i can take much more. Our sex life has pretty much come to a stop, i feel frustrated all of the time. I want my kids to be happy and that is the most important thing to me. Somedays i wonder if i am simply here because of the kids. Our entire relashionship has taken a turn for the worse, and i miss how things were before. I constantly feel like im a failure in everything from being a mom to a wife to even the way i clean my house. And when i try to talk to my husband he doesnt listen, i try to talk again and then i get frustrated and then he asks why i cant be civil. Ive attemped being civil he just misses those times! When i tell him my thoughts and feelings and tell him that the way he does or says things makes me feel a certain way, he tells me that im negative and need to change MY feelings. How do i change my feelings and thoughts? Im confused and i just feel like leaving at this point. I used to be so happy and loving and fun, and now im just frustrated, angry, resentful, and it all comes out and ends up causing tension between him and i. I dont choose to feel this way, nor do i enjoy feeling like i do. Somedays i dont even feel like waking up, but i couldnt hurt a fly and i couldnt leave my boys. It just hurts so much to love someone so much and have so much pain at the same time. And trust me im not saying that im innocent, im sure ive done my fair share of things.

My cousin and his wife are having their first baby...a litte girl!! She is due in March and having a baby shower next sunday. I need to come up with a gift to give them. What is something not normally thought of that you couldnt be without!!! I want something special, something different! ANY IDEAS WILL BE CONSIDERED!! THANKS!!!!

Alright my husband and i have been together for 8 years and our 2nd year anniversary is December 22nd and i have NO ideas what to get for him. ANY ideas? what is proper? He has all tools known to a woman, he rides motorcycle, LOVES hockey and football, but tickets are out of the picture because my mom got us hockey tickets for january. And these do not remind me of an anniversary. I want to give him something that shows how much i care and love him. We have 5 boys all 11 and under and its very hard to get out together. i would appreciate any ideas given!! THANKS so much

Hi :) Well i have 5 little boys, NO girls and one niece who is 12 LOL. So im looking for some pointers here on what girls like! First off i have a God Daughter who just turned one, i am making her an outfit in "My little pony" i am using appliques, besides the ponies themselves what else goes with "my little pony" like butterflies, hearts, flowers. Im not sure what the entire theme of "My little Pony" is.

Second question my cousin and his wife are having a little girl in March, i want to make the baby something really cute what theme would you use for a baby this young?

Im just not on the whole girl page LOL, i DO know what boys like!!

Thanks so much for ANY input, i really appreciate it!! Have a good day!

Okay, so i have 5 little boys, the oldest 4 are all in school, my youngest is 2 1/2 years old. I use to do daycare for 4 other small kids, after my youngest was born i dropped them all. A family friend of ours asked if i would watch the little girl they adopted, i felt good doing it because i knew their morals and knew it would work out given the fact that i grew up with this lady, her parents and mine are best friends no problem. I started watching their little girl when she was 2 weeks old. The little girl and my son are one month apart. So ive been watching her for over 2 years now. I love this little girl and have become so attached to her, especially means i have all boys and no girls. The problems started with the dad to this little girl. He expects me to be available whenever he chooses. There are times when he takes the day off of work and still brings her by for my to watch. Now keep in mind i am a very busy person. I ALWAYS have errands to run and things to do with so many boys. This little girl recently took a pair of my sons sunglasses home and as the dad is walking by me says "i will bring these back on monday" monday came and i asked the mom (she normally drops and picks her up) She says she would ask. A week later she ends up buying our son another pair, because they are lost. I understand things happen, i did not expect her to buy him another pair, No big deal. However the dad acted as though he was entitled to them, just because he couldnt tell his daughter no. Not only that but he says its pretty much my fault because i should have said no. HAHA, anyways now today he again took the day off of work, and was suppost to drop the little girl off this morning, no call, no show. I waited all morning for him to show, even though i had errands to run and i put them on hold for him, for nothing. Another example: our oldest son was in basketball this year for his school and had a game an hour away. The dad knew of the game and said he would be here before we were to leave, he called from his HOUSE but it was to late i had to go, so i took her with. Myself, my five boys and his daughter. Thats alot of kids for one mom to be responsible for! He worked that day and instead of stopping here to pick her up first, he went home first, and my house is right on his way to his house! I ONLY charge them 1.50 an hour because they are good friends of ours, and i was trying to help them out means her adoption happened so fast. Now i feel so used, im mad, angry, you name it i feel it! Im so frustrated with the way he is acting, taking advantage of me, assuming i will always be here and expecting me to always watch her, I cant do it anymore. I have enough of my own responsiblies and things to do. Heck he even drops her off so he can mow the grass!! HOW pathetic! When i mow i mow when they are napping, and i take a monitor, or i mow in the evening when my hubby gets home from work. Its not about the money at all. But im about ready to say im done, i hate to leave the mom in a bad spot, as i have nothing against her, and i hate to leave the little girl the same way because i am attached to her, my son adores her and shes happy here. What would you do?? Ive talked to the mom about all of this and she has said things to him on how i feel but it just doesnt seem to get through to him. I think he didnt call or show today becuase the mom asked why she couldnt stay with him so i think hes pouting now. I dont have time for these things anymore. What would you do? Stick it out for the sake of the little girl and mom, or say goodbye because of the fathers selfish ways? THANKS SO MUCH i really need opionions here!

I know this doesnt go into this catagory but i know theres always people to answer here!! THANKS SO MUCH IF YOU HAVE EXPERIENCE HERE!!

My husband and myself looked at a home today, and are curious as to how much they over price homes, and what your asking price was and if and what you put an offer in for? THANKS :)

My husband and myself looked at a home today, and are curious as to how much they over price homes, and what your asking price was and if and what you put an offer in for? THANKS :)

Alright i know this is crazy but please listen to this. We have 5 little boys that range in age from 10 to 2. We live in a very private area, and live on a dead end road. For the past 3 weeks this really odd man has been riding his bike by our home starring at our kids. When he gets to the dead end, he gets off his bike, puts his hands behind his back and looks at the highway (away from our house) and as he is doing this he just keeps glancing back, almost like hes trying to lure the kids out to ride bike with him, talk to him, whatever. When the kids are not outside we have watched him just turn around at the end and leave. When they are outside he will just keep coming by the house. We have tried to ask him where he is from and he just says "from around the area" we have called the cops 3 times and get no answers. I dont think they are concerned as long as nothing has happened. What do they wait for something to happen? We also have a neighbor girl who lives about 4 blocks away and her parents are pretty worthless. She is usually here all day and into the evening until we send her home. Anyways one time she was here and she started heading home and as soon as she left this man got on his bike and followed her home, by husband then caught up with her and walked her all the way home to make sure she got home safe. I am terrified of this man as he just stares every time he goes by, the kids have a trampoline on the side of the house and lastnight he went by here and the kids were in bed, and we watched him stop and he was trying to look into the yard from the street and kept looking around, almost like he was looking for them. We do not know what else to do or where to turn. The cops made ONE report out of the 3 times we called, and we never heard back from them, they said they would get into touch with us when they "located" him even though my sister in law followed him to see where he stopped, they were suppost to get back to us and let us know if he was a registered sex offender or if he is safe or what, and no call no stop nothing. Ive tried to call and see what was ever found out, and nothing i do not know what else to do. now tonight we were gone to baseball games and as soon as we got home a truck drove by and stopped at the dead end, another man got out and got into another parked truck on the dead end and started to drive, i was standing at the end of the driveway and he proceeded to stop right infront of me, and started to dig around like he was looking for something, looked at me and then drove off. After this happened i called my sister in law, i didnt say anything except the night you followed the guy on the bike what did the guys on the porch look like (there were two men outside and the guy on the bike was talkin to them) that is ALL i said to her, and she described these two guys exactly as i would describe the two that were out here this evening. what do we do??? We have talked to our children about strangers and to never talk to these guys, to come tell us everytime they see them ect. BUT how many more times do we call the cops? If they arent doing anything about it, im scared it might irritate these guys more and cause bigger problems what do we do??? We have checked our local sex offender web site and it ONLY lists high risk and lifetime offenders, NOT low or moderate offenders!!!!!!

My son was in to the dr. this morning, who claimed he has an ear infection. He will be 2 June 15th and tonight he has a temp of 103.8 in his ear and 103.9 under his arm. I called the doctor on call and she didnt seem concerned at all. Hes had plenty of ear infections and his temp has never gotten this high. I have him some motrin about 1/2 hour ago and still hasnt broke. When is a temp to high and when do you take him to the ER. With all of this swine flu stuff maybe im just paranoid. I dont know but hes just not right tonight. he cant even stay awake. He hasnt hardly ate anything all day. I think he also has a sore throat. Any ideas? THANKS SO MUCH!!!!

Our son will be two in June and he thinks hes 4....HAHA anyways he's mastered getting in and out of his crib with it on the lowest setting, no blankets. He knows what "potty" means as far as when you ask him he takes off running to the bathroom trying to take his stuff off. For the past few weeks we've struggled to keep his diaper on during night time and naps. When he goes poop he likes to go and hide and either take his diaper off and go on the floor (YUCK) or he will go in his diaper and then take it off right away. Are these signs of him being ready to potty train? What are other signs if any? THANKS!!!

Our son is only 8 but his feet are almost as big as mine we need to get him new shoes and sandals and my question is, if i wear a size 8.5 in womans what is that in a youth or a mans size? And what would a size 5 or 6 mans be comparable to? THANKS so much to anyone!!!!!

My son who is almost 2 is allergic to any meds of the amoxicillin family. Does anyone know another option that isnt going to be hard on him. Hes tried Zithromax but that is so tough on his tummy. When he first had amoxicillan he broke out with bumps all over and got sicker. Then this stupid pediatrician argued with me that it was normal and that he was not allergic to it, i told him i didnt want him on anything that was part of the amox family, and he proceeded to give him a knock off amox and he got very sick, vomiting, and such. SO im looking for something that is mild, works, and no part of the amox. He has an appointment this morning. THANKS!!

We have 5 little boys and all of them went through this biting stage and easily broke from it. Our youngest son will be 2 in June and he is biting the older boys and i also have a 22 month old daycare little girl and hes constantly biting her, leaving bruises. Ive tried biting him back, ive tried swatting his mouth, ive put him in time out, ive been calm and showed him where he hurt her and told him that was bad, ive tried everything i can think of. He doesnt bite his father or myself, just the little girl and the older boys. I mean he is biting so hard hes almost drawing blood and hes leaving bruises. It seems like he bites when he is angry. What do i do at this point?!?!?! ANY other options out there to try? Like i said our older 4 boys all went through this stage but it was very brief and they were out of it real fast. His has been going on for a month or two now with no signs of stopping!! THANKS!!!

Im just curious as to how many children you have, ages and male/female and what types of activities you do especially during the summer! I am a stay at home mom of 5 little boys, 10,8,8,6 and 22 months and looking for more to do outdoors, always seems like we are busy with t-ball,baseball, park, zoo and so on. Just need other ideas!!!! Thanks!