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its long story and nothing to do w infidelity and we were apart 1 1/2 yrs or so, we discussed n squashed past an issue he hadn't then understood so anyhow we have been back together w no serious issues aside from totally normal spats once and a while ever since. I'm not a jealous nor a person who assumes cheating ever.however...I have a very serious gut instinct sumthings off. Remember, nothings happened that I would ever think would cause this n the behavior ect that is leaning me to an assumption of a prob and my guess would b cheating...the typical signs first of all...work late, boredom toward me more than normal couples he can b normal then like a switch will b cold and mean and at times like hes accusing or blaming me for idk wat leading me to think guilty consius he is hot n cold and I suppose its been better this way past wk but maybe for 3 months I had to beg for sex n he wouldn't even hardly get it up aside from *** now its not disfunction on his end bc he would leave the room n masturbate w no prob and was always fine but wen he isnt doing it w me its not.I unintentionally caught him in a few dumb pointless lies like what he did after work just dumb things he knows wouldn't bug me!? I tried many times nicely and every way via verbal and written to talk bout it have not shown anger nor accussed despite my "thoughts" now here's why I'm going w cheating n where I need advice. Works 45 min away...and not even hiding phone n only whereing Cologne n doing hair wen off to the job nobody would do hair for lol..he gets real touchy w topic and recently got a female idk mng I suppose is her position well in training w his current one anyway HE talks about her via shes helpful n awesome ect also described her as ugly for lack of a better term and wen his supervisor we hang w sumtimes fb requested me I knew her name and wen I accepted him I finally saw her on his friends(his main bosses)NOT UGLY lol..the other odd thing bc I'm not sure its her if he is idk how to

I am a 28yr old caucasion female, ive been w my bf my ONLY sexual partner for 4 yrs i recently (2 1/2 ) months ago gave birth c section to ourunfec 3rd daughter. I've never at least to my knowledge ever had a yeast infection, uti'S yea n never any stds my last pap was all clear two wks following my c section.about a Month ago I noticed a semi smelly odor, no other symptoms except I did have a slite pain during intercourse.the pain has been slight and comes and goes since, the odor was only present that one time I figured it was from my bf ejaculation as I also had tubes tied n first time we didn't really need to worry of me getting pregnant.now its a month later I had a horrible odor w watery like discharge no pain, ect but very foul discharge which is carring the odor very very gross I was so mortified I was crying I have no itching or anything I'm wondering wat this could b but more, bc im sure treated easily, but more worries could my partner have been w another woman how long whatever I have would take to deveope or rather, how soon could symptoms of wat this may b occur? No anti biotic taken lately no other sexual partner at least on my end and no ejaculation in past week by my partner inside of me

ok so i have an ex who i was with awhile, n plz don't get me wrong...i am long over him accept made the mistake of being with a few mutual pals one nite and sleeping w him-my point...not only did he give me that std that causes cervical cancer he has cheated lied and slept w MANY MANY people and basically i am trying to find anonymously who these people are so that they at least are warned not only how he is to women but also mainly, to warn them of what he has been transferring to women before they end up getting cervical problems-i cannot let him know my identity he'd flip and again, this may not b the place to post this but if anyone can give me an idea of where i could post this and some info-description name etc w/out being discovered that would be fantastic. Save all the "hater" comments we were done long ago and he sickens me but i wanna stop any person possible from the problems hpv caused me and how i ended up w cancer from what he gave me-surgically removed thanks to early stages i lucked out but it's a serious issue. idk if i can give a description on here i know i can say this though..I DID not sleep w anyone else but him, he lives in Kenosha(south kenosha), wisconsin-31 yrs old, he's italian/mexican/half albanian, albanian double headed eaglet tattoo on his left shoulder, about 5'9-5'10' w slightly muscular shape and arms, works out at Charter Fitness, drives a buell motorcycle and a mini van-tan...if any other info is allowed or any questions or suggestions feel free I'd b greatfull and it may save another girl from ALOT of problems...Thank you for reading this everyone!

After my fiance of 5yrs left i had to move in w a friend ad am trying to finish school-find a job,etc and recently gave birth to my third child from my ex. Getting back on my feet is a whole other topic-lol-but i need any tips, websites, ideas to organize and make the one room we four share look un-zoo like and as much like a room/home can appear. The room we share is very very large, we are living in the basement but it's more like studio apartment size, like three rooms put together-however bathroom and closet any spaces like that are elsewhere-i have a storage bin, holds lots and the bathroom is upstairs id just like ideas on dividing the room for more privacy and possible organizing ideas so if i need an outfit for my kids im not digging through bins in the storage room?! Plz help! I should also add the ages of my children are-8yr old son, 3yr old and 4month old daughters...we all have beds, crib and tv,etc all a normal home would hold, just finding the best way to divide organize etc so to separate and give each of us more personalized space and a place to put clothes and such...THANKS

CONCERNED FOR A FRIEND...ODD HEALTH SYMPTOMS...NO DIAGNOSIS...GETTING WORSE!?

I used all caps bc this is a q that i want to help her with so i consider it of dire importance...my best friend has been seeing tons of doctors who hav either misdiagnosed her or not at all and keep shoving her off to another than another...nobody has found out what it is and shes getting worse as well as wracking up tremendous insurance co pays, PLZ..help me help her...

These are her current symptoms...swollen glands, no periods for months and when they come they are heavy and long...and shes on no birth control?! Craves and never gets enough Water, has had cysts, non-cancerous, but one doc said she has one near her thyroid and i was thinking maybe all these issues were due to thyroid probs, okay, also-depression, super tired but cannot sleep, back pain, anxiety,swollen glands, constant headaches, weight loss or gain...has currently gained 14 lbs in the past 6 months and has a very healthy diet-always has..and low blood pressure as well as high white blood cell counts.

Her history would include scarlet fever as a kid..a stomach bacterial infection about a year ago, and has had tonsils out...aside from scarlet fever the other 3 things were all what were thought to be causing her issues but weren't!

The only medication she is on is a non-stimulant ADHD medication-Focalin and she has been on it about a month w no problems she claims...and no other meds than that, she is a social drinker, does not use drugs nor smoke.

Family history that she knows of is her mother had a hysterectomy and early menopause...aside from that cancer etc-nothing.

If anybody could help or guide me to a website that would be of great assistance where u can list more than one symptom that would be great thank u for taking the time to help!

My ex fiance and i were together a total 5 1/2 yrs...we had a wedding set and a planned daughter on her way about two yrs in...couldn't get married due to economy and new jobs we were forced to get and then me forced to have none at all and to finish school-and another yr, although tough had went by and we still stood strong-then after a lot of issues in that one summer both caused by outside things and led to us treating each other not so well-led to breakup...got back together to work on things i got prego and he left me basically to find a place for me n two kids while still prego-and i had decided adoption as wen he left i had no family and he vanished totally and was lucky to find a great friend to let me move in and help me-and after 4 months of no contact-ex popped in to say he wasn't sure he could live w adoption-i agreed and we had her.we did not get back together-we agreed eventually that a future may not be out of the question but that we would have to take advantage of the help others were giving to help separately to better ourselves financially etc in hopes on the working on us as a family down the road..Now-my ex got real clingy wen he thought i was dating another and this was be4 we had ever thought of working anything out later-i would not let my guard down and he kept begging me to-and when i eventually did -that's wen the "we will c" came in. i agree that to have a chance baby steps are needed however how do i know if this is truly wat he wants-as i feel he may be using me but not to sure how or what for-he does stuff w me-we have slept together-we spend holidays and such together as again-i hav NO family...i told him that i was starting to maybe get be getting a bit to into my emotions so to speak-he said that he was not ready and we needed to slow down-yet whenever we do he moves forward-it's like he ants his cake and to eat it to idk wat he wants really he says that he will not label us as working on things yet but that we have to ease our way and that's just to say that we may MAY then lead to getting our fam back...i guess to sum it up and i am sorta bad at explaining so ask any q's you need and i will give better detail but-he wants me involved and acts like we had 5 yrs ago, but doesn't wanna say that a future shot at trying to make us work is even possible for sure even tho it feels as that is what we already hav been doing and if i try to discuss it w him he shuts down-acts cold hearted and so then i say i don't get wat he wants or expects as this is hard to do considering our long history and kids...i don't know wat the clear signs are in my case that is he being smart and aiming for a future not wanting to ruin it w talk-or is that he is used to me and after months of playing the Field is using me as his shoulder and comfort zone between his down time?! I am not naive although i may sound like it u have to better understand the way he is and i...so ask me if i am not giving enough...or maybe just advice on things that would be reasons it could never or should never work...or Viceversa plz?! I'm lost and after being prego and getting thru all that i did and actually learning to move on w out him and to be ok...i have totally allowed that to disappear and am now although i won't say it like that to him...lost and troubled again w sleepless nites confusion and extreme longing for what we had and can be. i love him and i want to do reguardless..the right thing for all of us, be it together or alone and am not even sure if he has any intention as being able to work on becoming a fam again-he wants to see what happens wen hes got his life and i mine up and running first idk-then at the same time he is like he was when we were together but if i show i am too he steps away-then back then away PLZ HELP!?!

So,i'd Known a guy-a friend i'd met two mths b4 my ex, and had always been only friends, and only had ran into and talked to once in awhile-he was always really nice and had had a gf the time my ex and i were together, and again-never tried or implied anything as far as an interest other than friendship went..well-fate-seriously..day b4 my ex left me i ran in2 him and he had told me about his horrible breakup 7-8 mnths before-she was a gold digger-lack of a better word-and he'd invited both me and my ex to join him and some of his other friends out on a boat ride that wkend and i said sure. I was so in shock and hurt words will never explain what it felt like when my ex did wat he did the next day-i believe it was for the reason i was pregnant but he will never admit it-that wen my friend called to see if i'd talked to my then ex to join the boat ride all i did was answer say i couldn't a hung up-he called back demanding i explain myself and i told him everything-two wks later he had moved me and my 2 kids in w him! He is an angel for what he did-he has a car he lets me use as my car had broke upon moving in...he did more and would take nothing no money at all and i always offered it. i cleaned and he'd yell at me bc i was prego and should rest-things like that..he was always there to talk and never bashed or judged my ex, or situation, and only giv advice on what to me when i'd ask..he told me that i should think b4 giving my child up as it would impact me for life..mnths passed..my ex and i only said hi n bye when he'd pik up our daughter once in awhile-he never asked or told anyone of the unborn girl. A month b4 her my "friend and I" who-helped a lot w my kids, always was there for us, etc...were watching a movie and i blurted that i have feelings for him-how could i not after all he had done! he told me that he was always attracted to me but never said anything bc he didn't wanna make me uncomfortable or ruin our friendship..he said that after i told him, if it was meant to be it would and i was in no state of mind to know if i wanted to b/w anyone or not(one thing-he is 44, and i am 27..not that it ever mattered to me),n after two more wks of us holding back a desire for one another we had slept together. i will say that b4 it got to THAT point he did try to stop me to ask if i was sure-he after said that he was afraid that he didn't wanna jeporidze anything etc...well it continued and one nite my ex called-his fam. had found out and after he cussed me out he later changed his attitude and said he didn't know if he could watch me put her up 4 adoption-i'd told him i already decided not to-i told my roomate and he also supported my choice....the next day my ex stopped by to pik up a modem id had of his-and no..he wasn't in any way trying to get back together...when a started bleeding.we rushed to hospital-had an e.r. c-section bc i was hemmoraging and the baby and i barely made it-she had swallowed alot of blood, i had to have a tranfusion loosing half the blood in my body. i named her, and gave her my 'friends" name as her middle name...my x left me alone to go to a packer game while in hospital...my friend-a principal had taken 2 days off work to help me had been there for everything, took me home from hospital and put her and i in his room as it was the "most spacious room for her and i, w a bathroom in it so i wouldn't have to go up and down stairs so much"-he elected to sleep on the couch..the first nite i had asked him to watch a movie w me and ever since we have been sleeping together up there-he gets up w her-as he did that first night-and treats her as his...my x has only seen or held her maybe 3 or 4 times-her now being 3 mths old....he isn't trying to get back w me, i'm almost sure he knows "sumthing" is going on w roomy and i, and he doesn't care. i am and have been completely over him as well by the way...as far as roomy, my kids adore him-he's great to us all, cooks,always around, n he and i have gone out on "dates" as he said that if we were ever going to be a couple was nessacary. He tells me all the time how amazing i am...(my ex had been very emotionally abusive toward me, and my friend had helped me get my self back, even b4 anything happened w us) The main question is I really wanna tell him that i love him-i wana be with him.i know it may sound silly as it seems that is already the case but we have talked previously a few times only 4 him 2 say that we should go slow at sumthing like that, that i need time, and that he isn't interested or seeing anyone else basically that he dosen't wanna ruin what we have talking about it. although it has been awhile i really don't know if i should say what i am feeling 2 him, if it's mutual, etc and what i am asking is 4 ur takes on it, and if i do tell him-how should i say or do it, and are there any key signs

i got the answer it's spam...however..i signed up for a free profile and got the sites spam junk. .the email he got was emailed from her personal yahoo email and i know for a fact that he has talked to her though yahoo msnger as she is the only contact he has and was on it ALOT. i tried to add her to mine to ask her myself but she declined my request! also, i couldn't find his blackbook profile if he does have one, and i searched a while`n she found him somehow n that sight doesn't allow personal info to b listed like email....lol his cuz is married and listed on there, and he is maried...i don't know wats wrong w people!...is there a free site to search what social networks people belong to by there name or email address?

incident was about 3 months ago, first time inour 51/2 yr relationship. didn't sleep w her but everything else, to me tho cheating is cheating and he met me out right after like nothing had happened.I later found her number,etc...we can't afford counseling right now, i am suspicious wen he goes out now...i keep quiet because i chose to stay and i can't expect him to stay locked up 4ever...maybe som help with this or clear signs he may be doing it again because there has been a few suspicious episodes..

I inquired about the blonde blue eyed sleeze...not that i'd found her in the im, but if he new a brigitte, and he said no.i see that he is iming alot. then he forgot to sign out of his email i went online and of course glances as it was right there.nothing. i then looked in trash and found an email from the girl saying how she loved his profile(not yahoo cuz no pic or info), and that shed b in our town this weekend and wanted to go out.she called him sexy,etc. there was alink to a site for more photos of her..turns out it was basically an online hooker site-blackbook.com "sign up today, get layed tonight" as headline. nice. i searched for his profile-nada.unsure what profile she refered to, if he replied it was deleted...however it's the weekend and my fiance is not home-usually home from work by 6:30pm...i'm not nieve to the fact of infidelity...the truth will b shown,i plan to confront him if he is home much later, my q for you all is if anyone knows anything about this site, any stories, or an suggestions on where she would have found an online profile of him that would have given her his info, email, etc...as it is not that one.Thanks!

okay, so i am in my late 20's..(i posted l8 30's accidentally)...I hav ben engaged 4 the past 4 yrs and w him for 51/2yrs.We have 2 great kids..all was well until about 8 months ago. personal probs w me and great til then..i needed him and he wasn't there...things calmed then he cheated, now i suspect it again.Don't know how to know for sure(could use help w that). I know that i will ineviallably leave..I have no job,stay at home mom, and TRULY, NO family(no siblings,unheard of parents,etc) I am about to finish school but it will take a while...basically i have no feet to stand on...need guidence how to deal until then, if my gut is rite about him, and what should be the best first move, also if our relationship is resolvable...everybody says leave him if he ever cheated...i am confused and unsure how to handel this, he agreed to counseling for us, but w work he is gone til 8pm and never has time...Arg..any insight?

thanks again everyone...just some details that may help get answers...he has admittedly "made-out" w another gurl..no probs in our 5yrs til then, we are both in l8 30's, have two kids...deletes all his phone info, uses yahoo im and has one contact, a blonde i don't know and only contact he has...erases ims...girl won't answer my requests..would not bring anyone to the house, FOR SURE i know that, he works late ALL the time.we live in kenosha, he works in milwaukee (30 miles) away. Ah, I know it sounds like i am nieve...i'm not. i just have to kids and want clad evidence if i am going to leave considering the kids. We really don't fight, n allthough he admitted the make out, he has no contact w her FOR SURE, it was a while ago, i did leave for a couple weeks, he was openly addmitting about who, how where and when..(after i made contact w the gurl who's num. i found), and very appologetic and visually and open about his remorse...negatives to lad me to now-he never displayed any signs when it occured and met up w me later that nite, works late, deletes everything, questions me out of nowhere-and i just have a gut feling like never before..hope that will help and clairify my situation for the right advice...thanks again everybody, your all very helpfull and i am greatful for u all to ake the time to give helping advice...truley!

If you do astology or tarot readings for fun, or are good at it and interested in it like me, and want to amaze me with a free try let me know, i'm lookin for the real thing, not an online gimic that you have to call for 100 buks a min...my birthdate is 11-20-1983, if u need more info and wanna do this....sarangavin24@yahoo.com...and i'll tell u what you need to do it..THANKS everyone!

I believe im a victim of infidelity...i was just wondering if any one knew any tips,tricks,advice,or weird signs that people miss to know for sure...and nothing that costs money, i can't afford expense gps things or whatever...so basically...free ideas or advice? PLEASE...i really need to know for sure so i can do what is right for my children and i if he is cheating...

As above..need ways to pull up deleted txts from my LG us cellular phome...and also for my son's...or a way that is free or not a zillion dollars to monitor his texts by finding his deleted texts or intercepting them as he recieves them?