Heidi

Please help me. I currently can't drive and whenever I take the bus it's very dangerous for me. I lost so much weight at one time in 6 months I lost 75 lbs and overdid it. I am currently living with my fiancé in a drug neighborhood and I realized that he may be abusive now as well. He ended up throwing me against the wall and I almost have a broken jaw. I've struggled so hard and finally got one but my fiancé takes me to work in the morning. I am scared to drive again because I totaled my car out and I get chased and stocked everywhere in my neighborhood. I don't have any kids but my fiancé and I are living in his uncles basement trying to save money. My fiancé has never hit me before but now I'm terrified. I divorced my x husband because he refused counseling with me because he was abusive as well. I don't have many friends and in some ways I'm scared of my parents because they can also get a little bit abusive. Am I losing my mind? I feel I'm going crazy. Any suggestions? I almost feel there's demons all around. Did something just happen to our world? I'm getting chills all the time here. I also had a girl try to beat the **** out of me on the bus because her boyfriend tried sitting next to me and made her stand. I had to just ignore them.

Last night I thought of killing myself but I did not. I am 29 and I have been through so many temp agencies and jobs over and over. I got a Bachelor's degree in Psychology and Insurance licenses I apply to over 100 jobs per week. I study interviewing tips and have worked so hard to try to get somewhere in life but I am not going anywhere. My x husband used to beat the **** out of me and I am trying to overcome things even though I have been put down and down all over again. I was bullied so much in school and the only thing that is helping me is that I look really pretty and even my last person I had an interview with asked me out on a date. I did not warrant this and I am extremely diplomatic. Please! How can I overcome this depression? I went to counseling before but nothing seems to help.

I put my ad online and got over 450 guys responding to me in the last few months because I was looking for a certain type of relationship. I got these through gmail. How do I go through these messages without looking at each one? I just want to select the best ones and focus on those.

I want to break up with this guy. But I found out he was looking at engagement rings for me. I love him so much but I feel wrong marrying him because he has a 15 year old son and a past with his ex wife. I have been married before with no children. I know we believe in the same family values and share many common interests. My boyfrend is terrified of me meeting a guy my age. But in a sense I feel that this might be right? My boyfriend is like a father figure, best friend, master, lover, and husband to me. We are so passionate for each other. He is so protective and caring, and gentle with me. He treats me with dignity. I promised him I would trust him and have him lead us in most important matters. We are currently renting an apartment together. I have to wait a few months before breaking up with him because I don't want to destroy our lease. How do I stop my boyfriend in his tracks as far as getting ahead of himself and trying to marry me? How do I try to convince him that we are not right for one another when I really do love him?

He is 18 years older than me and has a 15 year old son. I dont' have any children. But yes I was married before. I am 28 years old so you can guess his age. He is the nicest guy I have ever met simply put. But then again my ex husband was very abusive to me. He hit me and called me names. So what do you think is the best thing for someone with my life?

I don't know what to do. I keep going from temp job to temp job just trying to survive. I have a dog and don't want to give it away and I know a lot of move in room-mates who don't accept pets. I feel so a lone! My boyfriend also needs my half of the income to survive. I love my boyfriend but I just don't see anything good for us in the long term. He has a 14 year old son who he supports and he thinks he might not be able to have kids with me in the future even though he wants one. He is eighteen years older. I am 28 and he is 46. He is the nicest guy and I love him so much so it won't be easy to break up. Any advice?

I just divorced my abusive husband a little over a month ago and I have been abused and raped my whole life by different men. I reported most incidents but there was never enough evidence. So if these guys did not go to prison for their acts and they have made me completely suffer where I had even become a chronic alcoholic how can I gain my power back knowing that they are not facing time for the crimes that they committed against me? I am now a recovery alcoholic.

Thank you

I left my abusive husband about a year and a half ago because he refused counseling and kept beating me up mentally and physically. I am only 27 years old and I started a new job that I like but it's a temp job that might turn permanent but I'm not sure. I feel so confused what to do with my life. I have the nicest boyfriend ever who would do absolutely anything for me but he has a son who is 14 and my boyfriend is 46. Which in some ways I am a little worried what might happen if I marry him since he is paying backdated child support. And if I marry him I don't want his ex coming after my money. I can't stand her. My boyfriend doesn't bring a lot of money home but he is very responsible person and he is always extremely considerate of me. I can only name positives about him since he has such a wonderful personality. This man wishes to marry me I don't know what to do. I want to have a family of my own and I don't know if it would be good enough just for him to have his kid. He wants to have kids with me but is worried about the finances and in a few years he said he would be too old. He wants me to just be happy but I don't know if I am happy with this kind of arrangement. Should I break up with him? marry him or just keep dating him? We've been together for a year and a half and I feel we are extremely compatible.

My husband abused me physically and emotionally for seven years he refused counseling and so I divorced him what do you believe are good reasons for divorce? have you ever been divorced? I am curios to hear about other people's experience. Would you say abuse is a good reason for divorce? I'm only 27 thank you.

I feel so confused and sad I ve went through so many temp jobs this year trying to find a permanent job I m a divorced 27 year old I officially got divorced two weeks ago from my abusive husband who refused to change and I had to start my life all over. I had not talked to my sister in a long time and just now the reason why she refused to talk to me was because she was also in an abusive marriage. She refused to talk to anyone her husband does not approve of and he is trying to control her. She called me recently out of the blue and told me she feels unsafe with her husband and everything that's happened. I think he may be dangerous and I love her so much and my cousin is in an abusive relationship as well. I tried living with my cousin before I knew she did drugs and I tried finding an out from my marriage so I moved in with her a year ago and only stayed a couple months. Now I m with a much older man who is very good to me but I m so confused about this relationship as well because of age difference and he has a kid I don t have kids and don't know how to feel about this.

I was raped by six guys in my life. Abused by my husband for 7 years. abused by my father my whole life. I will be officially divorced by my husband in 3 days for his physical and emotional abuse to me. I put myself through college while working full time and my husband beat the **** out of me for not paying enough attention to him while working and going to school full time. no kids involved and even though my x called me stupid over 50 times many people believe I'm beautiful, smart and kind hearted and some even believe educated. I just got a job as a health coach which is a very social job how do I overcome all these things and start looking at others? versus looking away? I'm terrified others can see the rape and abuse in my eyes. Will others judge me for this or believe I'm strong? I am only 27.

Please help me! I am trying to quit drinking so much but I noticed that if I don't drink than some of my traumatic memories come up and I am waiting right now to go on medical Insurance so I can see a counselor that won't cost me a ton of money. I tried to get my husband to go to counseling but he refused and he will be my ex husband in 3 1/2 days. I loved my husband very much but he refused counseling. I felt I had to move on but things have been extremely hard. I took a job as a health coach where I can finally utilize my degree. But I feel kind of bad for taking the job even though I love it because I am not that healthy myself drinking alcohol all the time. Besides AA and counseling are there other programs? Did I make the right decision?

My boyfriend has a 14 year older son I am 27 and he is 46. He is financially responsible and wonderful father however he does not have much money for us because he is paying backdated child support. He told me that he may not have enough money to have a kid with me in the future even though I want one and don t have kids. He wants one as well but said we ll see if we can have them. I don t know if this is good enough for me. What is the benefit of being with a man who has a son but might not be able to have a kid with you in the future?

So I am officially divorced in one month even though I'm only 27. No one has tried more hard than I have tried to get my ex to try to understand how much he is loved and cared for even though he was emotionally and physically abusive I always tried to tell him my feelings and he called me names over 50 times and hit me over 4 times during our marriage. I have been separated from him for a little over a year now because of this and I went to counseling for short time even though he refused. However I still feel like I love him. I know I won't ever go back to him because I'm not the same anymore but I consume so much alcohol to drown myself of the horrors and pain while working temporary jobs (I try so hard to get a permanent jobs) but it's hard out there even though I worked full time to put myself in school to get a B.A. I still have a hard time finding a good job. Well to get the main point I believe what started me to dink was I saw something in my ex that scared me so much... I visited his family and noticed that my ex had learned to shut his emotions and feelings off, had no friends and his dad was very abusive to him. He never felt like he could express himself so he always came out in anger. I cried so much telling him how much I believed in him but he was so stubborn he could not recognize what he was doing. My question is was it possible that my x had no identity? I only heard him say a few words in our relationship,

I feel so alone. When I was younger I was abused and raped my whole life but I still tried to do the right thing even put myself through college and work full time. I worked for any bad company even just to support myself and can never find a good company to work for even though I have a Bachelor's degree. I put myself through school while in an abusive marriage my husband used to hit me and abuse me if dinner was not on time. I am getting a divorce in a month and half been separated for some time but also possibly going through a bad break up once I can find a good job. I'm thinking of breaking up with this much older guy who has a kid and had to pay backdated child support even though he's really nice I don't believe he has the same work ethic as me which is something I consider highly important as well as ambition. So my question is why is it so hard to find like minded individuals? I'm 27 and this has been the most painful experiences ever in my life. I am sorry I am kind of a heavy drinker as well but I can admit and I am working on it.. It's just because life feels so tough.. I thought if I worked hard enough something good would happen. But still nothing.. What's going on?

So I've been in a relationship for a little over a year and I love my boyfriend so much I feel we are very suitable for one another. But there is one dilemma he has a 14 year old kid who will never call me step mom he just sees me as a pretty girl. And my boyfriend is eighteen years older I am 27. So I don't want to base my question upon my own situation but also learn from others if they ever were with a man who had a kid before and had to pay backdated child support. My boyfriend doesn't have a lot of money but he does not live beyond his means. But some of the money I believe that he pays into backdated child support might be used to also pay some of his ex's clothes and nice things for her. I don't know if this is something I should approve of? I simply don't like it and she is a really mean lady. I don't have any children but was married before got out of an abusive marriage and I don't understand how the law works if I marry my boyfriend in the future regarding his ex and I don't know if I should be happy he has a kid because I sort of just feel depressed even though I love his kid I just found all of his extra money goes into paying child support and nothing for our future. Is this a positive thing? Am I crazy for feeling so angry? I also feel upset because I never had kids of my own because I knew I could not financially afford them. Please help! Has this happened to you did you like the fact that he had kids before? Did you enjoy the thought of it?