fairypelican

Why do so many people - mainly seemingly younger women- get on here saying that because they have had either a courthouse or similar ceremony that they have not had a real wedding ???

Do they really not realise that the act of getting married is what constitutes their wedding?

I am not knocking anyone who wants to have a further celebration - just saying call it what it is - vow renewal.

For whatever reasons they made their choice as to how they actually got married.

having just read a question from a relativley new bride ; stating that after only a few months she wants out of the marriage & had felt strongly about this before the wedding ; but went ahead cos she didn't want to disappoint parents.a few weeks before the wedding of my brother his then fiancee told me in tears that she didn;t want to get married & my advice to her was ** he may be my brother ;but if that is how you feel ; then DON'T** she went ahead with it & 2 years later they parted. had a similar story with a woman I once worked with- her excuse was * we had all these people coming from o/s**

I tell young people - if in doubt then DONT; it is NOT too late until you sign the papers.

if any one has been through this ; then WHY did you go ahead with the ceremony?

do they invite all these people because they feel it is expected by parents etc; to impress others; are they business associates; friends of parents?

On the day how many of the guests do the couple actually manage to speak to personally?

I am NOT knocking couples who do this; so long as it is what they themselves want fot their day.