Ellen

My partner sometimes tries kiss me early morning. Neither of us have brushed. I thinks irs disgusting. It stinks. Does any one else do this?

This happened a few months ago but i m just curious to know.

I was talking to a man i met a few times for official purposes and accidentally i revealed part of my legs once. This man went really red (almost like black) and started moving his hips towards me like he was having sex staring at me. he was also talking while he was doing it.

Previous occasions i have noticed him staring at my breasts.

I was quite alarmed. we didn't touch. there were some other people also in the room but i don't think they saw. this happened for a few seconds and he abruptly went away soon.

i later met him and i thought he looked embarrassed but we didn't say anything. our meeting are over now.

I just want to know if he had an erection? or was he just exited.

my husband used to have a habit of picking and dropping people before we married. girls and guys.

now we are married it has reduced alot (because they are married too ) but still one or two who come from abroad bother me.

once when i was abroad he had taken this gorl out for dinner and droped her athome. she is actually older to us but single and i know he did it out of friendship and all but i was really mad. he knew i wont like it so he told me afterwards. i thought it was so cheeky.

later he agreed not to do stuff like that which he didn't. (i never went abroad without him after that)

this one good friend of his who is married with two kids came on holiday. usually i too accompany him when he picks and drops these occasional girls.

this time i am pregnant and didnt want to travel. we discussed we ll tell her to take a taxi after we took this friend and her two kids out to dinner. later minute my husband got the urge to drop her and then my husband was so upset he "couldn't drop her", leaving me at home. she stays far and it was night. she eventually took a taxi.

this particular girl is over friendly and i dont like her much. shes came after 4 years and i know there is nothing gong on but knowing i dislike this i feel alot of disrespect. my husband says the two kids were there so its OK, but thats negligible. they are 8 and 10 and small. it s more or less like going with her alone i think.

when my husband does something that upsets me and i tell my husband that he has done that, it usually doesn't go well. he just gets annoyed and confuses the facts.

sometimes he just shouts and walks off. he never sees my point and doesnt see what the problem is in the first place. so sometimes i cry and sometimes i shout back and its soo crazy.

then the next day my husband has forgotten the incident. i m still smarting. if i bring it up again and if he is in a good mood he may talk about for 5 mts and then the cycle starts again.

again the next day he has forgotten and is the loving kind husband.

so i have many unresolved issues with him and feel emotionally disconnected.

there is no cheating or anything but once in a way he does things that make me very sad. i just need to clarify his view and mine so that we can learn through our mistakes.

what are your views.

my husband behaves 'funny' sometimes and has a temper and is very impulsive and reactive. he is also hyperactive person who cant wait in one place. his work table is disorganised.

'funny' means socially unacceptable behaviour like telling off a waiter in a hotel at friends wedding where they have organised it and we are guests , talking loudly in public, getting overly exited and anxious when an old friend whom he likes alot calls in from abroad etc

he is infatuated by some old friends and relatives whom he likes alot to the extent that he may even (impulsively i think) lie to me to do them a special favour but doesn't get it that it was a wrong thing to do how ever much i try to explain.. he did it once but i know there is a probability he may do it again but i think its very unlikely.

i checked the internet and most of his behaviours looks like ADHD.

but he is very kind, gentele and does alot of house work. i read that ADHD people dont do house work though.

My husband likes to escort and chaperone friends home. he doesnt usually do it much but like it.

i dont like it especilly if they are female.

am i right?

My husband of 7 years lied and pretended to me over a small financial misunderstanding we had. It involved a third person who was linked to my husband in the past ( a personal friend whose son and my husbands brother died together). so my husband lied to me in order to save face with this person. the small financial issue started because we wanted to purchase something from this person and i suddenly backed off the deal the last minute and my husband wanted to forgo the small advance payment and i didn’t want to. this happened 2 years ago and at that time itself the lie came out when my husband couldn’t answer all my questions so he told me what he did.

after alot of argument between us over it we still cant see eye to eye on one point.

My husband blames me of 'holding him on gun point' and pressurizing him on this money matter with this other person, that he 'had no choice' but to lie and pretend to me. He compares him self with ‘people who suddenly murder because of self defense;. in other words my husband blames me for 'starting it'. sometimes he gets emotional and says 'sorry' but his quite firm with the point that he was 'helpless' and does not feel any guilt. he says that he didn’t 'technically ' lie to me too based on certain facts.

Its drives me crazy. he did something behind my back and lied. my point is that my husband needs to take more responsibility. he needs to understand that he was wrong and he should feel more guilty. he cant simply ’ Blame’ me and behave that there was no problem. previously once or twice he didn't lie but he covered up some information to protect friends. it was a long time ago but he was apologetic then and had more remorse. this time because i backed off the deal and 'started ' the problem and also because i think it involved a person who he is very emotional with , he seems to think that he is excused and that I have to more mature!!

I think my husband has a emotional/behavioral problems where he lies and pretends when under pressure or if it involves a friend. My husband is generally very emotional and gets angry very quickly. when i talk about it when it comes to this point my husband yells at me and walks away. i want to talk about it and have an understanding about this whole thing.

Please help. who is right?

how do you forgive your husband ? forget that incident that happened?

for breaking you trust (not infidelity but a money related issue. the money isn't a big amount but it hurt) whom you love when you know that in your heart that he just behaved stupid and immature and didn't mean to hurt you

and you are sure they wont do it again unless they lost their mind or something?

I hate my childhood home.

unfortunately after 7 years of living away after marriage, i had to come back at live next door to my childhood home with my husband. because of financial constrains we cannot move from this house.Iit was given to me as a gift buy my mum). my mum lives in my childhood home next door. i see her, hear her when she sneezes. i feel her even though i cant see her and I HATE HER. she used to verbally abuse me alot when i was a child. she makes me puke. living in her gifted house makes me puke more.

i feel this is affecting my ability to be calm and relaxed. i feel frustrated and angry. i also feel angry with my husband because he is the one who decided we should come here. i didnt say much because we dont have much money and so... on. i feel fed up with life and depressed too. i feel i cant cope with other issues i have in my life because of this.

am i normal to feel this way? what would you do? i hate it.

I hate my childhood home.

unfortunately after 7 years of living away after marriage, i had to come back at live next door to my childhood home with my husband. because of financial constrains we cannot move from this house.Iit was given to me as a gift buy my mum). my mum lives in my childhood home next door. i see her, hear her when she sneezes. i feel her even though i cant see her and I HATE HER. she used to verbally abuse me alot when i was a child. she makes me ouke. living in her gifted house makes me puke more.

i feel this is affecting my ability to be calm and relaxed. i feel frustrated and angry. i also feel angry with my husband because he is the one who decided we should come here. i didnt say much because we dont have much money and so... on. i feel fed up with life and depressed too. i feel i cant cope with other issues i have in my life because of this.

am i normal to feel this way? what would you do? i hate it.

hi

i have been married for 7 years. my husband has infertility issues. now we are both going to be 37 years this year. i see that are chances are low for having our kids now.i feel old and my dream of being a stay at home mom is no more. we are not ready for adoption for personal reasons. so that's out for the moment. as i see it we ll be childless not by choice for the rest of our lives unless a miracle happens.

any one been here? how did you move on with life? how did you accept that you will be childless not by choice? what did you do to compensate to this empty feeling i have? my husband finds work to keep him self occupied? i am more of a stay at home person who works part time with a few friends? what life style changes would you suggest? Please tell me. Please help me with some ideas. i am not much of a hobby person either. nor a sports person or a movie person. just want to be a biological mum so much.

If your husband lied to you and when you understand that certain circumstance led him to do it, how do you cope with the fact that he lied to you?

I don’t mean a big issue like cheating. i mean something like a money matter. not a big amount though.

i have forgiven him because after 10 years of marriage it is the first time he did something like this and i was partly to be blamed because i was nagging him alot about the money and he got frustrated and panicky. but still i was hurt when i found out he was disloyal and i think he should have been more mature and wiser. We have discussed about this and he says he accepts him mistake but also says stuff like 'you made me do it'. etc.

i would like to know your opinion.

Who was Miss Universe in 1994? can some one tell me. Was it Aishwarya Rai or Sushmita Sen? The internet sometimes says both which is confusing. there can be only one right?

recently my husband and i made a mistake in a purchase and lost some money because the salesman refused the refund. i felt i was not happy with the purchase but did not tell my husband who was in a hurry and paid the money. now i know i ll never see the money and i feel the tension stuck in my left side like hand and neck. it hurts. previously too when this sort of thing happens i undo the mistake and the tension goes. i was always lucky. in this case i cannot undo the mistake and the pain wont go away. pls help. how do i heal?

in a recent encounter with fellow human with arrogance and attitude, i fell in to a unexpected unfortunate situation where he had the last laugh! i.e. he told me off. because of his arrogance i lost a bit of money which i feel i deserve and not him (i think he thinks he deserves it). i am in no position to get even with this this matter with him.

so i beleive he had the last laugh!! and NOT ME and i am FROTHING MAD. thank you. i feel helpless with my emotions of anger, regret for even knowing such a person etc etc.

how would you deal with a situation like this?

in a recent encounter with fellow human with arrogance and attitude, i fell in to a unexpected unfortunate situation where he had the last laugh! i.e. he told me off. because of his arrogance i lost a bit of money which i feel i deserve and not him (i think he thinks he deserves it). i am in no position to get even with this this matter with him.

so i beleive he had the last laugh!! and NOT ME and i am FROTHING MAD. thank you. i feel helpless with my emotions of anger, regret for even knowing such a person etc etc.

how would you deal with a situation like this?

i let down my husband by changing plans suddnly. i know we had communication issues and we discussed about it but still i was the one who SUDDNLLY went crazy and cancelled a deal. because of this we lost a bit of money. now i'm hurting inside because i feel it was not all worth it. at that moment i thought i was right but now i feel i shouldnt have let him (us??) down like this. anyone else has gone trhough a situation like this? i'd like to know so it wont make me feel alone.

i let down my husband by changing plans suddnly. i know we had communication issues and we discussed about it but still i was the one who SUDDNLLY went crazy and cancelled a deal. because of this we lost a bit of money. now i'm hurting inside because i feel it was not all worth it. at that moment i thought i was right but now i feel i shouldnt have let him (us??) down like this. anyone else has gone trhough a situation like this? i'd like to know so it wont make me feel alone.

married for 7 years. i wanted to be a stay at home mom so much. unfortunately my husband has ferility issues. we are still trying but i feel i'm getting old. i was working full time but now i'm not. i dont like to work full time.i just completed a course of study. i dont want to study anymore. i am a family oriented person. i dont like to adopt. unfortunately. not ready yet. so now i am working part time, helping in an orphanage. but sometimes coping with life is hard. i wake up in the morning with a feeling of emptiness. why me? why isnt my dreams coming true. i find it hard to find another objective in my life? i dont have much hobbies. i like to read. what? i wanted a family with kids. i wanted not to do all the mistakes my mum did with me. pls. help me with giving some advice. how do i find another objective in life? any experience any one?

married for 7 years. i wanted to be a stay at home mom so much. unfortunately my husband has ferility issues. we are still trying but i feel i'm getting old. i was working full time but now i'm not. i dont like to work full time.i just completed a course of study. i dont want to study anymore. i am a family oriented person. i dont like to adopt. unfortunately. not ready yet. so now i am working part time, helping in an orphanage. but sometimes coping with life is hard. i wake up in the morning with a feeling of emptiness. why me? why isnt my dreams coming true. i find it hard to find another objective in my life? i dont have much hobbies. i like to read. what? i wanted a family with kids. i wanted not to do all the mistakes my mum did with me. pls. help me with giving some advice. how do i find another objective in life? any experience any one?