MarineWife0341

My mother seems to keep ending up with abusive men. She has left 3 for good after going back to them repeatedly after beatings. She lost her job and moved in with the man she is with now. He is extremely verbally abusive and has hit her on multiple occasions, the last time breaking her nose. My husband told me he would pay for her flight down to stay with me, while he is away with the military for the next couple months. When I offered her this option, telling her she could stay here, by the beach, find a job and get on her feet again, away from teh situation, she says she really wants to but that she just cant. She says she is afraid, shes never done anything that big before. I feel that there is more to it than that, its clear that she has no self-confidence/self-respect aside from her loud mouth cover up. She also an alcoholic which is another important aspect of her relationships. She doesnt ever seem to want to quit drinking despite recognizing it as an issue. I really want to figure out a way to help my mother take the steps to change but it is said that you cant make someone change who doesnt want to. I really cant stand seeing so many solutions to her problem and her not being willing to take the steps to make her life better. I want to commit her or something extreme, I know she needs counseling and I REALLY feel that would help but she obviously cant afford it and undoubtably wouldn't seek it out. Any suggestions? Thank you.