Kat

My friend has been with this guy for about a year now. He moved into her apartment about 2 weeks after they started dating. By the way she's only 19 and he's 21. Way to young to be living with someone in my opinion but whatever its her life. She owns the place and he pays NOTHING to live there. And he's just a straight up jerk in my opinion. He has his friends over when ever he wants, he calls it his house, and he just treats my friend with such disrespect. She even caught him texting his ex gf when she went to Florida for a week. She's so blinded by it because this is the first time she's ever been "in love" and since she started dating him I seriously never see her anymore. They fight all the time and today she asked me to comeover to her house and she was crying because her and her boy friend got into a fight. After i was there for about one hour he showed back up and like freaked out that I was over. I know she loves him but is it really wrong of me that I want them to break up? I feel like I lost her as a friend and she is just so wrapped around his finger and I really want my friend back.... Am I being selfish? I know she would be really hurt if they broke up but I feel like it almost would be a better thing. She's only 19 and I feel like she's waisting her time on him. And its not like he's a great guy.. he's kind of an *** to her and I know she defiantly could find someone who would treat her so much better. Let me know if I'm just a bad friend.

Me and my boy friend broke up a few days ago. We have been arguing a lot and we both never thought we were wrong so when fights would end we never really got over them because we didn't find that common ground to resolve the issue. Now looking back on it, the arguments were over stupid non-important things and now that we are over I feel so sad and wished I could have just apologized or something else to avoid the fight. We broke up and two days later my aunt passes away. He told me he would be there for me if i really needed him. I said that yes, I would very much like him to be there for me when I got home from taking her off life support. The morning of, he texts me and says that he changed his mind and couldnt be there for me. I was so hurt and at the end of the day when I was home alone crying I gave him a call. I just wanted someone I loved to be there for me during this hard time. He practically hung the phone up on me and blocked me. I can't even describe how much that hurt me. I know I need to move on and I just want to know to anyone who was ever every much hurt by someone you love. By the way he wants this break up more than me, but now after what he did on the day my aunt died I still love him but I know that this break up is for the better. It still doesn't take away the fact that I'm hurt. Any advise? I really don't want to cry myself to sleep every night. Oh and before anyone might say "go out with your friends". I tried. They are too busy.

I have grown up with one of my friends and we use to be like sisters. Ever since senior year in high school, she has distanced herself away. She goes into these relationships with guys and she will cut out everyone else in her life. I will only hear from her when she is in a break up and needs me to help her get through it. I love her as a friend and I really miss the person she use to be. She talked to one guy about a month ago and they were only talking for 3 weeks and when he cut it off she told me how worthless she felt and cried for days and went to a doctor. I am really concerned about her. She cannot go longer then 2 weeks without getting involved with someone. She will hang out with a guy for one day and be madly in love with them. Its getting to the point where its really sad to see. I try to tell her that she needs to be happy with herself and knowing how to be alone. She will agree with me but a week later I won't get a text back anymore because she will be with him every hour of everyday. I have no idea how to help her and I need her to see that she does not need a guy in her life to be complete.

I found someone who I am interested in, but he's only going to be around for the summer then he's going back to school. I want to believe that it could work, but I also have some doubts. Should I get out of this before its too late?