mslady

ok my husband and I been off and on for eight years. Four months ago I found out he has some mental issues. He came back from the hospital and he was staying with me and our daughter come to find out he was talking to someone and it hurt of course still I let him stay and took him to work one day I let him take my car to work and he could pick me up from work the next day I see like someone threw paint on my window. I asked him did you take my car over to her house he of course denied it. the next day he decide to pack a bag for the weekend saying he going to give me time to myself now mind you we have a little girl and he has been gone away from her for two weeks already due to his illness. he calls me that sunday and ask me to come and pick him up I said no in fact you need to come get your things. times are hard for me I didn't even know how she was going to get diapers or milk that weekend and he just left. Monday he came and got his thing he is living with this women she has baby herself. about 4 weeks went by he had another melt down and the girl didn't want him there she had his sister come and get him I told her to bring him to my job and that hospital will except him the whole time he was there she never came to see him and I had to calm his sister down so she wouldn't kill the girl. the nurses and doctors said to me why are you here after everything I said I am all he got even if he doesn't realize it. when he realized where he was at and his family and I told him what happen to him. he apologize to me and asked if he could come home I said no. instead of staying with his sister he went back to her. I asked him how could you go back to someone that didn't care enough to come and see you. he wants me to let him take our daughter to her house and I told him no if she didn't care enough about you what makes you think she going to care about my daughter. medical staff told me I shouldn't leave him alone with our daughter. his girlfriend did not care for him for three day before she called his family to come and get him. she even leaves her daughter alone with him knowing that anything can trigger him. I told him no for those reasons. I still love him and I want him to come home so I can make sure he is taking his meds and most of all his daughter loves him so much. yet I am asking myself is it his illness that makes him not make the right decisions should I be like a stern mother tell him to come home and take care of his daughter or should I use this as a golden ticket to get my divorce and full custody of our daughter. what would you do? how would you handle this issue.

im 25 weeks but as i read ahead what goes on in my body i feel im a week more than what they think.should i get a second opion.

I have no desire to have sex with my husband and we always have had great sex life but I just dont want I cant even do the wifey sex. Any one else going this?

One day i went on my husband laptop and looked through his emails and found emails to a woman since 2007 through now. He talked about how he couldn't find and adjective to describe the last time they had seen each other our anniversary was 12/31/08 and wasn't even a week later and he was planning to see her again her husband found out and wanted to hurt my husband . even though her husband know she still wants to see or keep in contact with my husband. he has been so disrespectful to me and my daughters all this time and i never knew why. he has talked about me like a dog to her in these emails do that sound like a man that really loves me? He doesn't know that i know. what should i do?

Yesterday 10/31/07 would have been a year my husband and I would have been seperated. I ask for him to come home and he told me he wanted to try out this new relationship he had with a married woman.I will never forget that day because it happen on halloween and it use to be my favorite thing to do with the kids. All i hear in my ear is i trust her so i want to be with her. Not that I am against different race dating it's just the fact that he was choosing a white married woman who is married to a black man herself over me. It cut me so bad. I felt like here is this woman dangeling to black men like it was a game. Well soon as i realize that he wasn't coming home I was ready to go back back 2 my hometown. Finish school leave his azz alone. He comes to a conclusion that he wants to try. I am giving it a shot. yesterday all i want to do is smack him i can't kiss him w/out seeing her. what should i do?

well lately my husband and i have been having money issues and we were watching tv and the subject how a man takes care of his woman came up and i was agreeing what they were saying and he took as i was saying he was not doing a good job as providing for me and my 2 girls. it exculated so sever that he threw the loveseat it scared me so bad i didn't know what to do. thank god my girls were upstairs but this morning i found that my girls heard how he disrepected me and how angry he got . i couldn't believe his actions. he went from anger to crying to begging me not to leave him. All in one hour. I know that we have been stressing but i don't deserve a man to make me feel like a scared little girl. I am so confused i can't go to family and talk about this because they didn't like the ideal of me marrying him in the first place. I am so confused. what should i do should i leave or should i try to understand that he is stress and got a lot on his mind and just forgive and forget.

i love him. but he is a heavy smoker and i have tried to look over it but i can't anymore. i know what i married into but my gosh it is driving me nuts. the sex part i was really tired and now he is mad because i haven't been in the mood to do so. now he is mad what should i do?

My husband and I have been having problems and we have only been married for six months before he left. We hurt eachother with words to the point that I thought we wouldn't resolve our problems. I had slept with someone from my past that even til this day have a piece of my heart(my first). Yet when i slept with him it was a day before my husband and I decided to go see a shrink. I was still hurt and I really didn't know if I really wanted my husband back. In the event my husband did ask me if I have been with someone else of course I denied it. We were going to the shrink and we were happy again so I didn't want to change anything. Well he read my diary and like a nut I wrote it down. He is hurt which I don't blame him but at the sametime he got what he deserve for reading my diary. All in all I miss my husband and time away from him has made me realize our relationship wasn't bad. We are young and first marriage for both. Should I let go or try ?