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Well I thought that it might have ended (please refer to my other question in this little series) if you can still find it. Anyway I thought that the internet chat was over between the 2 of them, but it started up again this morning. And here is for more explanation as to why it hurts so much...my partner chats with other guys all the time at this site, sexually explicit, yes, hurtful to me, yes at times, but he is also a very big flirt and for him at least he says is "fantasy". But with the guy in Australia it goes so much further, he has taken his picture to show at work (lied and hid it from me), the chat focus on how much I love you, how much I want you, how soon can we be together and what we will do together once we are together. There is more than idle chat here and it really hurts me. So anyway I am looking for a answer to the following question:Should I log into this site, get a user name and send the aussie an email telling him about P. and my relationship, etc.? or ?

I am in a gay "monagamous" relationship; I used quotes because from my question you can figure my question here are more details. We have been together for almost 6 years and over those last 6 years my partner repeatedly chats with other guys on line; lately it has come to the point of an obsession with a guy in Australia. He is up at 6 in the morning so that he can chat with for 2-3 hours, and their conversations are very graphic and there has been no mention of me or our relationship in these conversations. How do I know well I installed a viewer to check on the pages visited etc. He knows about this and still persists on doing this chatting, even after I told him how much it hurts me and makes me feel which is like crap. So do you consider this kind of behaviour cheating? Has anybody else experienced this and what did you do about it? Just wanting to work this out, not sure if I will be able to take much more of it. Thanks for you responses and have any questions just ask.....