TheOne

I am African American and have been growing my hair out for a long time now wearing it natural. Sometimes I would press and curl it.

I went to a local Beauty Salon that specializes in ethnic hair and wanted a professional press n curl. The Hairdresser asked if I wanted my ends trimmed because it would "look" better. I have soft fine curly hair and it looked good to me. I at first said, "NO" and then decided on the TRIM, NOT a hair cut. I even told her just "sweep off the ends" which is less than an actual trim.

Before I went to that Salon my hair was way past my shoulders and now it's just below my ears "near" my shoulders. I DID not ask for that! I told her I wanted to keep my hair past my shoulders. I took $10 off her fee and explained that she did not do what I told her to do. My ends were NOT that dead for crying out loud.

WHY DO HAIRDRESSERS DO THIS TO PEOPLE?

I would especially love to hear from Beauticians, Salon Owners, Hair Stylists, etc. on this one.

I know for me personally I do not believe in divorce but with my current situation I see no other choice.

You see I have been married for a while now and we have a young child together. Our marriage was rocky from the start really and I feel unloved and emotionally drained. I am being emotionally abused and have been told its only a matter of time before he starts being physically abusive.

I am pretty scared because coming from a family whose parents have been together for 60 years, I was raised with the thought of sticking together through thick and thin. I do not have the money to even pay a lawyer on my own but started working again so I can save, but I do not want to wait until I have the money to get a lawyer.

I am so worried about our little one because he told me if I ever left him he would get full custody. I don't want to lose my child and my child is the only reason why I stay with him. I am misreable otherwise.

I am at a loss, does anyone have any advice?

Just wondering....this girl I know from work is marrying one next year and I was just curious.