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We have been married 5 years and have a 2yo and a 5yo ( 2 kids ) My husband works and paid the bills (he's a cop)( he makes about 60 thousand a year). I have not worked in 2 years I have been home with the baby.I have a nursing degree but as a new graduate I had a difficult time finding a job,it's been 2 years ..especially because my husband works nights on a rotating shift and refused to Switch to days. (there is no one to watch the kids) His mother ownes out house and pays the mortgage we just moved in 6 months ago........Well now he's been being emotionally absent ,emotionally abusive, disrespectful and just plain nasty to me I put up with it for 6 months but I just could not be his door mat anymore. He refused to communicate and does not love me anymore (he at least admitted that). I packed the kids and left because I was so unhappy with the disrespect. I am back in the house and he's staying at a friends ( I have no rights to the house) I have the kids and I got a job in a daycare center getting free childcare. I am not making much money at all maybe 1300 a month tops . He agreed to give me 1,000 a month for the kids. I am moving out of his moms house into an apartment. We are getting a separation I don't deserve this nor do my children. What am I entitled to financially from him ? Does he have to help out with my rent ? Am I entitled to alimony ? I am scared and I am lost ,my heart is broken and I just don't know how we are going to survive . I cannot stay in the house he is moving back in and me and the kids are moving out

My husband of 4 years is being emotionally abusive. He said he does not love me i feel like he is basically staying in the marrage and just playing the part . He's aloof , disrespectful, won't admit what's wrong ,un affectionate ......He's just plain mean to me and I could not take it anymore. I think he is having an affair. His mom owns our house and pays the mortgage and she is controlling and tells him what to do. I don't work I care for two young children. I have been trying to make this marrage work but I am the only one trying and he won't tell me why he is so cold or even admit how nasty he is to me . He says everything is ok when it clearly isn't. He is always working ...goes out and stays out over night ...I think he's cheeting ...........I tried to talk to him and he avoids the conversation of why he is being this way to me and says I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY TO YOU as rude as can be !!!! I try to discuss the way he disiplines our kid and he looks and says ARE YOU DONE YET!!! he has no respect for me!!!! I packed my kids and left I am staying at my moms in a 1br apartment with two kids.. Where do I stand from a legal stand point ? I have no money , we are in dept as a couple .I am lost what do I do

I live in NY and I'm not working my husband'sa cop in NYC. We have 2 kids 1 and 5. My mother is law owns our house and she is a very controlling person she controls my husband with her money .he is financially dependent on her to help pay the bills . My husband started acting very nasty ,disrespectful, disconected and aloof a year ago. He told me he was not in love anymore. His mother convinced us to try to stay together and make it work. I bacisally was nothing but nice,affectionate for a year trying to make him love me . Now again he's been being nasty ,disrespectful ,unaffectionate ,gone all the time over night he stays out (says he is working ) does not want sex , I ask what's wrong and he pretends he's ok, he gets nervous he ignores the subject at all costs . I think he's having an affair. I let him go out because I want him to be happy but this is getting rediculous. He's taking his family for granted I finally got fed up packed my kids and went to my mothers he's being emotionally abusive he thinks he is better than me and I am sick of being the only one trying to make this work . It was getting depressing to be around him, he ignores me ....He acts like he wants to be somewhere else. His mom owns our house and is looking out for him so I can't ask him to leave his moms house. I felt trapped so I left with my kids a week ago. He has seen the kids since then and he knows where his family is .He refuses to talk all he said is that he is happier now that I am not in the house ...(that hurt) ...... were on my moms couch when he is in a 4 br home that his kids belong in..................Some one told me that me leaving is abandonment is that true ? can we live seperatly without a legal seperation? I have had no job becaus I am with the kids and as a family were broke..................I got a job ,figured out childcare and can stay at my Cousions house until I get on my feet . Where do I stand from a legal point ? I can't afford a lawyer someone please help me I feel so trapped

We are going on 7 day cruise to the caribbean with my husbands family and our 2 kids 18 mos and 5 years. My Mother In Law in a nosey controlling pain in the *** that does not mind her own damn business and likes to lecture me on how to raise my Kids. I originally wanted to bring my Peg Perego P3 stroller for the baby 1 because it reclines so she can nap or she will scream (as us moms know how that goes) 2 it has a great sun canopy 3 plenty of storage .The ship is small but the islands are not. I have an umbrella stroller that is smaller but the sun canopy is small and it does not recline well so she wont sleep in it. His family is basically harassing me and nagging me telling me not to bring the bigger stroller the ship is to small. I don't want to bring the umbrella the baby will get cranky in it . I get that the bigger one is bulky and that may get annoying... But a cranky sunburned baby is worse than a bigger stroller and I am the one who has to deal with a cranky kid . I am the mom it should not even be up for discussion but they are being obnoxious and rude. My husband is a mama's boy and agreeing with his family because he won't stand up to his mommy uug. I should not have to deal with this crap it's ridiculous but they gang up on me. Am I wrong here . have you been on a cruise ? Is a mid sized stroller just to big ? What would you do ?

My husband is a cop in NYC he works nights and sleeps days. I am home with a 1yo and a 4yo. I am an RN (new grad) but I can't find work especially with the 2 kids and Daddy's hours. My husband makes the money and handles the bills and finances. In a way it seems like he feels like it's his $ and not ours. I want to work but its hard with the 2 kids. I am beginning to feel resentful twords him. He works and Sleeps and then on his days off it's almost like he does not want to be with us. He wants to be out with his friends. He will spend time with us but he would rather be out with his friends. He works with a lot of single guys and He's NOT A BACHELOR , Single life and Married life are different. He asked me if I minds if he goes to Atlantic city with the guys for the weekend he will give me some money to let him go (I'm not a babysitter I'm his wife) .....I feel like I am a single Mom . I understand needing to be with friends sometimes and I don't want to tell him who to be friends with. But It's starting to feel like he wants the best of both worlds and it's unfair to his family. I'm exhausted from raising the kids. He told me about a year ago that he did not love me anymore and I left him I said NO WAY am I staying with someone that does not treasure me . He was hysterical and begged for me to come back. He said that he was just down and did not know why and it was not me . Now I am starting to wonder if he's having an affair or what ? We are just starting to feel like room mates. We don't have a sitter or family to help with the kids so we never have alone time . Any advice ?

I posted this stroller on craigs list for 350 $ and someone responded that they were out of town and wanted to buy the stroller. They wanted my home address and my phone # to make the arrangements to purchase the stroller . He offered to send me a check for the stroller and then when he is back in town after the check clears he will come and get the stroller. He is gone about a month . here are my concerns (1) I am not giving my address or phone # to a complete stranger (2) what if the check is a fake and I don't find out until after he takes the stroller ? (3) It seems very strange that he would offer the money without any guarantee that I am going to be back in contact with him .I could take the money and run. What do you think ? Am I being paranoid or does this seem fishy to you ?

I posted this stroller on craigs list for 350 $ and someone responded that they were out of town and wanted to buy the stroller. They wanted my home address and my phone # to make the arrangements to purchase the stroller . He offered to send me a check for the stroller and then when he is back in town after the check clears he will come and get the stroller. He is gone about a month . here are my concerns (1) I am not giving my address or phone # to a complete stranger (2) what if the check is a fake and I don't find out until after he takes the stroller ? (3) It seems very strange that he would offer the money without any guarantee that I am going to be back in contact with him .I could take the money and run. What do you think ? Am I being paranoid or does this seem fishy to you ?

My dad thinks he this chosen One like a Buddha or a Jesus or something. He thinks that people know about him and he is famous and only certain people know of him and they follow him (he's paranoid ) He believes they (these people) do things out in public to show him he's not important. Then he becomes angry and depressed that they are screwing with his head . For example if someone does not hold the door for him he says it's them screwing with his head to try to show him they don't care about his gift . He thinks he can go into these enlightened states and effect everyone in the room . He thinks the song ONE and WIDE AWAKE by U2 are about him . He complains to me about it constantly and asks for my opinion but if I dare tell him that he's wrong and mistaken he becomes angry and flips out crying and throwing a fit like a two year old because I don't believe in his powers. Then he will spend hours trying to convince me that he is rite and try to make me feel guilty for not believing in him he just won't let it go he won't let you disagree with him he will harp you and corner you until you just agree to shut him the hell up . He has been put in the hospital before when he goes into one of his rages and flips out but he lies to all of the therapists so they let him out. He would never dare talk to them like he does to me because they would think he's crazy....guess what he is crazy. I am sick and tired of listening to him complain about these delusions he's obsessed and I'm fed up with biting my tongue just to avoid a fight. How do I deal with him ? Have you ever has to deal with something like this ? I try to talk about something else but he always comes back to this subject. If i allow him to talk he thinks I agree and won't shut up. And if I tell him I think he is mistaken then he throws a fit and becomes depressed then again wont shut up trying to convince me he's rite. I feel like a prisoner to his nonsense I have had it he has been believing in this crap for 30 years he even convinced me of it when I was younger.

My dad thinks he this chosen One like a Buddah or a Jesus or something. He thinks that people know about him and he is famous and only certain people know of him and they follow him (he's paranoid ) He believes they (these people) do things out in public to show him he's not important. Then he becomes angry and depressed that they are screwing with his head . For example if someone does not hold the door for him he says it's them screwing with his head to try to show him they don't care about his gift . He thinks he can go into these enlightened states and effect everyone in the room . He thinks the song ONE and WIDE AWAKE by U2 are about him . He complains to me about it constantly and asks for my opinion but if I dare tell him that he's wrong and mistaken he becomes angry and flips out crying and throwing a fit like a two year old because I don't believe in his powers. Then he will spend hours trying to convince me that he is rite and try to make me feel guilty for not believing in him he just won't let it go he won't let you disagree with him he will harp you and corner you until you just agree to shut him the hell up . He has been put in the hospital before when he goes into one of his rages and flips out but he lies to all of the therapists so they let him out. He would never dare talk to them like he does to me because they would think he's crazy....guess what he is crazy. I am sick and tired of listening to him complain about these delusions he's obsessed and I'm fed up with biting my toungue just to avoid a fight. How do I deal with him ? Have you ever has to deal with something like this ?

I developed a UTI about 3 days ago and I tried to flush it out with the water and the cranberry pills and it did not really work. Yesterday I started to feel uncomfortable in my bladder (achy almost) and I still had the burning when I peed and the itching and felt like I had to go every 5 minutes. MY doc was closed yesterday and today as well . I peed yesterday and at the end of urination I started to see a small amount of blood....just a little but it happened again 3 more times when I peed so I went to the ER concerned about my kidneys I did not want to wait for my doctor to open in 48 hours. No fever and no pain in my back . They confirmed it was a UTI and gave me an antibiotic and My urinary symptoms seem to be much better ........BUT I am still seeing blood when I pee almost every time just a little but there is some blood at the end of urination ...... Is this normal ? Is this just the infection flushing out ? I still have no fever or back pain ......And its not my period

She is a bit of a handful to begin with. But since she started the steroids she has been pure evil. Could it be the steroids

My child's behavior is getting out of control. She is very sneaky in the way that she breaks the rules. It's dangerous what she does ..ex puts her baby sister 1y on the couch. She does not listen to what I tell her to do she thinks she runs the show . She has this sense of entailment and thinks I am a slave to her . She was the only child in the family for 4 years and she was the center of attention ......now there are new babies and I think she feels like she is not important anymore. We spend alone quality time with her all of the time but to much with her is not enough . When she misbehaves I give her 1 warning then time out. When I sit her down she becomes extremely angry because she wants to be in control. She will hit me ,kick me and scream. I ignore because she is in time out it but sometimes it's hard to she is so disrespectful and nasty . She screamed the other day I f ing hare you I don't want a mom anymore I hope you never come home( She said her friends at school say that word) ......that's hard to ignore. We take things away ....We have done sticker charts for good behavior where she earns privilages ...As soon as she gets what she wants she starts misbehaving again. She is so angry and I don't know why. I am thinking of speaking to a therapist or having her speak to one. She is in preschool and has been in many schools .....She is an angel their she only does this with Me and her Dad so I know she CAN behave ......She chooses not to . I spoke to her DR and She says she does not think there is any ADHD or anything with her she said she is a brilliant kid and it's behavioral. Any suggestions I love my daughter and I want to help her ? And this behavior MUST stop

My children both have asthma but no allergies their asthma is always triggered by an infection. here is the problem. Their asthma can become very severe when they are ill landing them in the hospital because the rescue meds are not enough once they are sick the asthma is terrible. Now the doctor put them on Pulmicort 2x/a day to help with the inflammation so when they get sick the wheezing can be controlled. However since they have been on the pulmicort they are sick with fevers every week . In the last 6 weeks they have both had Rosella ,influenza ,bronchitis, croup and 2 viral infections high fevers sick in bed every time . My kids are in daycare and I think the steroid is lowering their immunity too much . Is that possible ? Now with all these infections their asthma attacks are horrible once again because infections is the trigger for the attacks . Any advice ?

My 4 year old daughter is sick she went to the doctor and she has croup and is on a steroid for the inflammation. She is a very active child and never sits still. She has a fever rite now 101.1 which is a fever...... but it's not that high. I usually give her the motrin at this point to bring the fever down and make her more comfortable. But when I do this she won't rest she runs around, is active and plays like she is not sick when really she is sick and should be taking it easy. What she really needs is rest and if I give her the motrin she won't however I do not want her to be too uncomfortable. her body is telling her to slow down and the fever is trying to kill the pathogen so I really don't want her to feel better rite now. I am giving her fluids and monitoring her temp if it goes very high I will give her something to avoid any serious complications but for now I just don't want her to have it her body needs to rest. Am I being selfish for not giving it to her ? Do any other parents do this in this situation ? Any advice would be appreciated Thanks

I will be the first to admit that my 4 year old is no angel she can really be a brat sometimes and I know that. I have a friend whom has a little girl that comes over with her sometimes and our kids play together. Her daughter is a screamer and a whiner. It has become quite often that her daughter throws a fit because she wants what my daughter has toy ,marker ect. My friend SCREAMS at my daughter because she is aggravated with her child for whining and complaining and it really pisses me off. It's one thing to quietly correct her behavior but she SCREAMS at her . If my child does something wrong I will discipline her NOT SOMEONE ELSE. Because her child whines and becomes annoying she expects my kid to give up her toy which her child usually winds up breaking .She thinks her child is such an angel she needs a reality check her child is not prefect just like mine . Moms do you ever run into this problem ? I am at the point where I do not want to spend time with her she can be really mean to my daughter and it's not rite. How do you feel about someone else screaming at your kid ?

My husband works nights and he works a lot of hours. I am a stay at home Mom to a 1 and a 4 year old. M-F I take care of the kids and the house while the hubby works. I am completely exhausted by the weekends. My kids are not good sleepers and I am constantly sleep deprived because they double team me one is up at night and the other one in the morning. I do love my husband very much and I do want to be intimate with him but when he's finally home at night to help out with the kids I am so tired that the last thing I want to do at bedtime is have sex. He feels like I am rejecting him and I know he gets insulted but the honest truth is I am just to tired to have sex after the kids are in bed at night every time he's home. We only wind up being intimate once or twice a week. Do other moms feel like this? am I alone here or is this common when a married couple have young kids in the house?

My kids are 15 mos and 4 years. My older child is hyperactive and it helps to get her out of the house and engaged in activities so that she can get her energy out in a positive way which also helps her to sleep better at night. It's cold out and her asthma acts up in this weather so I try to do indoor fun with the kids. Museums, jumping gyms, indoor play areas ect. My husband works at night and he works alot of hours so I am by myself when I go out with the kids. When I go out with them places are usually crowded. My concern is the two of them go in opposite directions at times and I cannot find the older one. I turn my head and she is gone. I don't mind chasing around after them but I am so afraid that she could get kidnapped or something "God forbid". I notice many parents just let the kids run off but to do that scares me the world is "not safe" and I need to know where she is in a crowded place.

I explain to her not to do this and I do punish her but when she gets excited she becomes very, very active almost like she's manic at times and she gets wild and can't calm down. At a park in the summer there is so much space and I can at least see where they both are these indoor places scare me. So what to do ? Do you take your kids out alone ? Do you just let them go off and play? Am I just being over protective ? Any advice

I started taking Augmentin for bronchitis. I must say it did wonders for the infection but I think there are some strange side effects that I am not ok with. I am Paranoid , Anxious and Down for 6 hours after I take the med and it's 2x a day .I feel like people are following me and I feel like I am going to have a panic attack. I can deal with feeling Down and having an upset Belly but Paranoia is pushing it I just don't feel comfortable in my own skin . I am never like this it must be the Antibiotic. Did Anyone experience this while taking Augmentin ?

As a kid I always had coughing fits at night especially when I was ill. No matter what cough medicine my mother gave they would not stop. I am an adult now , and I have two little kids of my own whom were diagnosed with bronciolitis every time I brought them to the pediatrician which was my pediatrician as a child too .They cough at night like I did when I was sick . In nursing school I started putting the pieces together and thought I may have asthma .I am a new RN now and I have enough Sense to know the pediatricians were missing something with my kids as they did with me . I switched doctors about 3 months ago their new pediatrician saw them 4 times for random illnesses coughing and wheezing from any kind of infection. My 4yo had a spider bite on her foot which was infected this actually made her wheeze and cough. He sat me down with their charts and said MOM these children have severe asthma that is being triggered by any kind of a pathogen. He said " I believe that every time that their charts said "bronciolitious" they were having an asthma attack . He put them on asthma medications and they are 100% better. I have the flu now and I could not stop coughing last night. My chest hurt and felt tight I really could not stop coughing. I got up and but my daughters Xenopex in the nubulizer and gave my self a treatment . The coughing ,trouble breathing ,stinging in my chest stopped immediately never in my life could I get those coughing fits to stop . This has to be an asthma attack rite ? If there was no bronco constriction then a bronco dilator would have not have made the coughing stop. I think my airways are so tight that I am coughing and not wheezing

My kids had roseola last week with really high temps and they were quite ill. Now I have a high fever and I feel like I have the flu ,very weak .lithargic, chills, pain in my throat and chest .Is it possable for an adult to get Roseola? have you ever had it as an adult ? Is this how you felt ? any feedback would be appreciated thanks