Sylvia

I'm 25 years old and decided to come to Mexico this winter break to visit my grandparents. They live in a small town. Everyday my parents are forcing me to go out and talk to people they grew up with. However, I can never relate to anything they are talking with these people because they only talk about gossip of the town or they reminisce on stuff that happened when they were younger. 

It's such a small town that whenever they get out of my grandparents house, they have at least 3 mini conversations with people, and a simple trip to the grocery store that would take 30 minutes to complete lasts about 4 hours.

I don't know these people and only say hi my name is so and so because the rest of the conversation goes to the past. For the next hour or so, I just stand there listening while my parents talk.

I told my parents today that no I wouldn't go visit my second uncle because I don't think he would really care if I showed up. I told him that all I do is sit there for three hours since all they talk about is themselves and people from town.

Dad called me antisocial, said I would end up in a retirement home when I got older, that he knew my ex-boyfriend and I wouldn't last because he was antisocial (false) and immature (true), too, and stormed off.

He's going to give me the silent treatment for the remaining two weeks I'm here.

What's going on here? I am allowed to say no, right: Am I in the wrong?

I'm a 20 year old female, and i'm not afraid to express my opinions. However, when I voice them, I never try to shove them down anyone's throat or tell them that they are stupid for not agreeing with me. I understand that there are people out there that will not agree with everything I say and I won't believe everything they say, and I respect all of that. Yet, when people state what they believe, I always try to probe them--to see why they believe what they believe and how they came to those conclusions. I ask these questions with curiosity and not with judgement.

However, sometimes when I ask these questions, some people always seem to get irritated or angry as to why i ask them the reason behind their answers. If you have an answer for a question, shouldn't you also have reasons to back them?

I especially see this with people who see themselves as authoritative figures.

Also, I tend to speak honestly. I don't see the point of sugar coding things nor using harmful language. I believe in constructive criticism. If I see that someone is doing something wrong i'll let them know. blunt.

Not afraid of debate.

Prefer deep conversations

Speak confidently

Will not be disrespected or allow others to be.

Recently, some of my friends and family have told me that i have a strong personality and that I am bossy and stubborn. When they say these comments, they always have negative connotations and seem hesitant. Why not instead: knows who she is, assertive, relentless?

Im a biology major attending a community college, and therefore need to take chemistry. The university that I am transferring to requires me to take chem b1a (first part of chemistry) and chemb1b (second part). I have already completed chemb1a. The professor that teaches chemb1b does not teach at all, and merely covers the material in class with the majority of the time talking about his life in montana and other off topic subjects not relevant whatsoever to the test. I was thinking of going to another close community college and taking that course there instead. Is it possible to do that? Or do I have to finish the whole Chem b1 series at my current college?

Thank you so much for answering.

I'm an 18-year-old girl. I find women's bodies physically more attractive than men. however, i am straight. does anybody else have that? is it normal?