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I posted a question a few days ago regarding my ex bf. If you want the full story, read that.

Anyway, we ended up hanging out Saturday night AND Sunday. Last night he was lightly commenting on future plans. Saying he needed to take me to this place that has a lot of cool art and festivals near our hometown since I have never been. He hasn't hinted at future plans since we broke up. He was also talking about how we need to go see a movie he wants to see. And again he paid my tab even when I pulled for my wallet.

His 30th birthday is Saturday, and as I was leaving his house last night I said something about wanting to see him at some point for his birthday as I have a gift for him. He quickly said he didn't have plans yet and didn't know what he was going to do, but that he would be in touch.

It's vague, but then again not. When we are together it doesn't feel vague at all. I am wondering if perhaps writing him a letter might be a good idea. I don't want to pressure him and I enjoy things how they are, but I would at least like to establish that we are taking it slow and dating again.

Any advice?

So I have posted on here twice about my break up. It's been a while since my last post however and I never got much feedback from people on either of those posts. I'm hoping for more responses this time! :)

It's been about 3 months since the initial break up, but since then A LOT has happened. Every time I would try to go without talking to him, one of us would crack and text the other. The longest we've gone without speaking was one week and a few days.

My ex and I are GREAT. I mean when we are together it feels like we haven't been apart. The only thing that makes it feel "awkward" is the fact that we are broken up. We still laugh, flirt, touch, kiss, hug, etc. We have had sex once --- but it was truly passionate and I in no way felt taken advantage of. He got me a Christmas gift as well as his parents. It just feels like it always did except when we aren't physically together. He says things like he "isn't ready to be in a relationship right now" and he "doesn't want to go on 'dates.'" But the other night before I came back to school he took me to dinner and paid like he always does. Is that not a date? The only thing that makes it feel like it's not a relationship is the time we give each other without speaking and the amount of time we have before we see each other again. In my gut I know I need to give it another month with maybe no contact at all. Does that sound smart?

Positive feedback and experiences would be appreciated!

So, I have a rather long story. Almost a week ago my boyfriend and I had that same old argument we've had for a long time, but this time it was too much. That was Friday. We broke up then...but we were both tired and upset so we decided to talk on Sunday to come to a more stable decision. Sunday we talked and he wasn't feeling like working on it. Said he was just emotionally exhausted and that it was time for both of us to take some time apart individually but that he was willing to try a break because he didn't want the relationship to end for good. He just didn't know how else to hit the reset button.

I would like to give a little background to our story. I met my boyfriend 11 months after he had a traumatic accident leaving him paralyzed. It's never been a problem in our relationship, but I definitely think it affects his emotions greatly. He always had trouble communicating. That was the argument we had over and over.

Anyway, I'm in love with this guy and don't want it to end. We've been together for a year and a half and we've never gone more than a couple of days without speaking. We've seen each other every weekend, etc. At this point life is weirder without each other than anything. We decided to give it a 3-4 week break. I'm almost done with week one. I just really need some encouragement and to hear that NC works and is the only way I can salvage my relationship. I don't want to push him away.