Questioning wife.....

He went out with a friend of his whom as far as I know, is quite a good guy. There was a bit of a mix up and my husband had to wait for this friend at his home for about 4 hours, in the company of a male cousin whom I heard speaking in the back ground... fast forward a bit.

My hubby comes home at 2am in the morning. I believe he did not consume any alcohol at all. I started to complain about his being so late, and he was appologising. Out of interest I got up and went to the car to see the entries in the navigator and see if he was being honest about his comings and goings that night. Then I saw it. A condom wrapper - vanilla scented FRESH because it was still wet and open and smelling - placed near the drink holders in the car, near the glove box.

I hit the roof.. and demanded where it came from. He was ... almost defensive about it. In the end, his conclusion was 'someone must have flicked it in my car as it was parked outside my friends house'. He is sticking to that story.

God help me. We had such a big fight, that I was outside on the porch with my phone, just incase he would try to slap me I could yell for the neighbours.

Opinions. And no, I will not divorce. I think I need to wait and catch him in the act... monitor his cell phone bills... etc. I have all the account passwords as far as bank accounts and email goes.

That night, he also began to cry telling me that he DID love me, and if I wanted to I could humiliate him and ring his mother and tell her what was happening, which I still plan on doing but in private without his knowledge (for personal reasons... she is a mother in law from hell and it is time for her to realise her son is not an angel, and everytime she does she acts so much nicer to me)

later after our big 5 hour brawl - we had .. i cant describe .. explosive s*e*x.

THe only reason i am tempted to believe him is because i just cant imagine him exploding like that and already have had sex a few hours before.

so give me your opinions.

and wish me luck.

well, with all this tough times and the economy the way it is, it isunderstandable that we all need to save money.

so i am only changing him when he does number twos not ones.

i mean- is it ok>? the cave people never even had nappes they just crapped everywhere

i really dont have any friends and need to drink coffee with other people, and stuck at home i think the baby has to be the coffee buddy. how many serves is ok for a 9 week old? i usually find myself up and hyperactive for 24 hour periods because of how much coffee i drink and would that hurt the baby?

also, can i put carrot juice in its milk?

my mum did for me and i turned out fine

also, do guinea pig poos carry any bacteria, as we have our guinea pigs living on the floor in the lounge room

I just wanna know how many guys are guilty of that after being married. There is never any flirting between you and that female friend? And I mean NEVER like it doest even cross your mind?

ok. I got these two baby budgies all feathered etc.

The youngest is not very active and was taken from its nest yesterday...i noticed it was trying to expell some poo for a long time and it wasjust sitting there pushing.

What could be wrong with him. He does not move much....

Perhaps they are still a bit scared.

well im sad. very sad.

I'll start from the beginning. I had a horrible childhood and teen years, so I take insults very hard. I promised myself I would not allow anyone to treat me nasty ever again.

Fast forward - my mother in law is a complete b*tch to me. She lives in another country, is sweet to me on the phone, and then sends me presents with $1 prices attached... used items,.... broken things... and she is NOT POOR.

I will get a lot of 'well she doesnt owe you anything.'

I agree now - because my vision of a big family has been destroyed, because I know on the inside that she will never change... my husband is adamant that we will all live together as one big family still.

After I cried my heart out after her first present, my husband said something to her like, 'you cant send garbage...'

but that is all, and never anything again to defend me.

I have even gone as far as to say i want nothing to do with them - and he brushes it off.

I just cannot express my anger, hurt and humiliation at having to 'put up' with evil behavior after the horrible life I lived...

Now to the ring and food story.......

We (me , hubby and two friends of his went clubbing all together) went to grab a kebab at about 3am after clubbing. His mother rings on his mobile, saying she had just rang the home phone and we were not home. Then she says 'tell your wife i love her'

Can i just say something about that before you jump in, what a sweet lady? She sent me a used pair of plastic clip on earrings inside a dirty plastic bag and before i got it, she was constantly ringing each day telling me she loved me and if i had gotten the present....

i really hate games... :o(

So - drunk as i was ( 1 botte of wine and two cruisers) said loudly 'haha tell her to get f*ked!'

Hubby started to yell at me that I was bad and his mother is being nice (which he has admitted on and off depending on his mood that she does treat me bad) and i was being a b*tch. Well, i got upset. i didnt eat and took of my rings and tossed them on the floor... (which we could not find again after that...)

Well... hubby has an anger problem and literally opened up his kebab and threw it all over my face full force. Let me just say, he was very drunk too.

We kept on fighting in the street outside the car.

When we got home, I told him to decide if he was going to stay or go.

Who am I kidding if I tell myself, oh this is only a drunk problem, not an everyday problem that will make my life hell in 5 years after we have kids. He said he was leaving in the morning. I wouldnt let him sleep because I hate having to sleep over arguements. He had sex with me - rough, dominating - and then rolled over to sleep.

I was so hurt. I still am.. I shook him and told him that he cannot act like that, just sleep, he has to make up with me or at least make the effort to cuddle.

He is such a b*astard he would not listen, and ended up slapping me hard in the face and telling me to go to bed.

Please note - Im not interested if you think that part is bad or not.

He is a good person. HE IS. But gets very angry when he is angry.

MY QUESTION IS - GENERAL ADVICE TO MAKE THE SITUATION BETTER.

I already plan on asking him to take me to the shopping centre and buy a second ring set. :o(

If we stay together - which if he lets people treat me like crap, order me what religion I must be (surprise, MIL is muslim and ive gotten my orders and orders for all my non existant children too)

I doubt it can be that way.

You can feel free to make general comments about the whole thing too

well im sad. very sad.

I'll start from the beginning. I had a horrible childhood and teen years, so I take insults very hard. I promised myself I would not allow anyone to treat me nasty ever again.

Fast forward - my mother in law is a complete b*tch to me. She lives in another country, is sweet to me on the phone, and then sends me presents with $1 prices attached... used items,.... broken things... and she is NOT POOR.

I will get a lot of 'well she doesnt owe you anything.'

I agree now - because my vision of a big family has been destroyed, because I know on the inside that she will never change... my husband is adamant that we will all live together as one big family still.

After I cried my heart out after her first present, my husband said something to her like, 'you cant send garbage...'

but that is all, and never anything again to defend me.

I have even gone as far as to say i want nothing to do with them - and he brushes it off.

I just cannot express my anger, hurt and humiliation at having to 'put up' with evil behavior after the horrible life I lived...

Now to the ring and food story.......

We (me , hubby and two friends of his went clubbing all together) went to grab a kebab at about 3am after clubbing. His mother rings on his mobile, saying she had just rang the home phone and we were not home. Then she says 'tell your wife i love her'

Can i just say something about that before you jump in, what a sweet lady? She sent me a used pair of plastic clip on earrings inside a dirty plastic bag and before i got it, she was constantly ringing each day telling me she loved me and if i had gotten the present....

i really hate games... :o(

So - drunk as i was ( 1 botte of wine and two cruisers) said loudly 'haha tell her to get f*ked!'

Hubby started to yell at me that I was bad and his mother is being nice (which he has admitted on and off depending on his mood that she does treat me bad) and i was being a b*tch. Well, i got upset. i didnt eat and took of my rings and tossed them on the floor... (which we could not find again after that...)

Well... hubby has an anger problem and literally opened up his kebab and threw it all over my face full force. Let me just say, he was very drunk too.

We kept on fighting in the street outside the car.

When we got home, I told him to decide if he was going to stay or go.

Who am I kidding if I tell myself, oh this is only a drunk problem, not an everyday problem that will make my life hell in 5 years after we have kids. He said he was leaving in the morning. I wouldnt let him sleep because I hate having to sleep over arguements. He had sex with me - rough, dominating - and then rolled over to sleep.

I was so hurt. I still am.. I shook him and told him that he cannot act like that, just sleep, he has to make up with me or at least make the effort to cuddle.

He is such a b*astard he would not listen, and ended up slapping me hard in the face and telling me to go to bed.

Please note - Im not interested if you think that part is bad or not.

He is a good person. HE IS. But gets very angry when he is angry.

MY QUESTION IS - GENERAL ADVICE TO MAKE THE SITUATION BETTER.

I already plan on asking him to take me to the shopping centre and buy a second ring set. :o(

If we stay together - which if he lets people treat me like crap, order me what religion I must be (surprise, MIL is muslim and ive gotten my orders and orders for all my non existant children too)

I doubt it can be that way.

You can feel free to make general comments about the whole thing too.

Thanks.

Hey, just wondering

what was your family life like?

tell me your experience.

My husband and i are thinking about it for him.

i have a 30 percent peroxide solution with the bleach powder in my hair. the hair lady who sold it to me said to not put it on my scalp and use it only for foils because it may burn me.

i dont have a 20 solution, so i have to use this to colour my whole head TODAY. Ive started.

How long in intervals can i leave it on for before i get burnt>?

I come from Australia, and almost no boys are ever circumcised... people rave on about infections etc. Why havent I ever heard about any problems with 8 little boy cousins?

And I do hear about the usual 'oh he has discovered it now' stages, so my aunts do speak openly.

Ok. Married 7 months... and hubby is immature and wreakless, which I did know before we got married, but it seemed that stage was behind him. So far I have caught him with a lavalife account (which he did manage to come up with a good explanation for, but still nags me at the back of my mind), can see him looking at other women when we are in public checking them out etc.

I added up the total of his car smashing, insurance claims (the other peoples insurance chasing US) and other things like gambling. It totalled about 4500.

just a month ago he confessed to me that whilst he was with some friends on a boys night out, they wanted to go to a brothel. This brothel is 10 min walk from my house. Of course he went with them... and claims to have waited in the waiting room.

But everytime I ask him to tell me the story it changes - first it was him waiting alone in the waiting room. Then supposedly he was never alone, his friends went in one by one. THEN only two of his friends went into the rooms with the prostitutes, and one friend was always with him. Then he claims he cannot remember properly.

Even if he did not have sex with anyone.... i am so heart broken that he stayed with them in that brothel (which i have been inside) and did not just walk home. He also admitted he was involved in group conversations with the prostitutes.

Girls please help me.

I went and checked the price list of the brothel.... it was so cheap. He could have paid for a 10 min blow and I would never notice the money missing.

God help me. Im in hell.

hi,

please tell me what cosimo changed about the political system in florence. Also, what Lorenzo changed and what stayed the same for both.

Thanks.

i know it sounds horribly pathetic. but i really need someone to tell me that it will be ok. i feel like crap.

i just feel so tired at work right now - i just want to sit and cuddle with my husband.... who is also at work now and i wont be seeing until 10.30 tonight...

:O(

Just wondering how you girls would feel and handle it?

He left at about 8pm and I rang him at 11 to see where he was. He responded 'Yeah - hi - im at so and sos house. Not at a strip club or anything.'

Before he went I reminded him not to drink too much. He said that he was planning on having one beer or two. Now I get a phone call from his mate - who says that they have him on the couch, so drunk he passed out a few times and he cannot walk or talk.

How do I handle this... i do feel upset. His friends reassured me that he didnt 'do' anything. They claim - because they are gay, my husband not included - that they went to a gay club.

However - is it fair to say my husband cannot be trusted....

:o(

My husband and I have been married since january. Just recently, his ex who has been in an arranged marriage for a year (now living in Dallas with her hubby) starts speaking to him on the internet. She tells him that she cannot forget him, says his name accidentally to her husband while they are doing it... etc. But then she went on to say that she does love her husband - just CANT get over my husband.

Well - of course my baby told me all about it the next day.

I wrote her a beautiful email.... giving her relationship advice to improve her relationship with her husband. Then I threatened to distroy her life by messaging every person on her facebook contacts and telling them everything she had said (including her husband and parents - who are in India... BIG deal over in that culture).

Who thinks I DID A GREAT JOB!

The email was about 800 words. She wrote back and said she would delete my husband from all her contacts. But there is something I dont understand.....

I saw her online on facebook when I was signed in as my husband. And what does it mean with the latest msn messenger when a contact's little square is red?

hahahah... any suggestions as to what i should do now?

Please help,

such as - australia should become a republic

or something else that has been recent -

PLEASE HELP

i was debating doing that excessively skinny models should be banned from worldwide catwalks.

please more ideas

sigh.

My husbands religion is not the problem at all. He is a perfectly normal guy, grew up in america. Eats pork, does not pray. Not religious. I married him 4 months ago. Things are good. Apart from ONE DAMN THING.

I have not met his parents yet, and only spoken to them on the phone. They speak english, but can NEVER understand what I am saying... which is strange because I can understand them most of the time. Other things - like the quality of gifts hint that that woman really hates me.

My MIL - who is coming to meet me soon from Pakistan, has in the past gotten on the phone to my husband and started making demands.

HER grandchildren are to attend Islamic night school. She wants ME to be a muslim. etc etc.

Her words were she wants 'all her children' to be that way.

wtf. WHO the hell does she think she is?

My husband loves her a lot. She was a great mother to him. He does want to please her. But I have told him that in MY family, we do things best for us - respectful as possible towards others - but OUR wants and wishes come first. Meaning mine before hers.

Could someone please tell me what to do in this situation - how to show her her place, whether rude or not?

I am thinking of having a coffee alone just me and her and asking her honestly why she says things like that, and kindly telling her that she does not have to worry. Then bringing everything out in the open so we understand each other.

Just for everyone who will give me that 'oh shes over there, not in your country, why worry' attitude

she will be LIVING WITH US in our country in the next 5 years, because pakistan is a hole.

so I am just really worried because I grew up in living hell, I cant bear the thought of the rest of my life being troubled because someone is trying to tell me what to do with my life and my kids.

I have spoken to hubby about it and he has said he does not want to hurt her. But each time i bring it up I can tell i am gaining ground.... advice from mommies please!

this woman lived in the states for 15 years, she KNOWS our ways.

sigh.

My husbands religion is not the problem at all. He is a perfectly normal guy, grew up in america. Eats pork, does not pray. Not religious. I married him 4 months ago. Things are good. Apart from ONE DAMN THING.

I have not met his parents yet, and only spoken to them on the phone. They speak english, but can NEVER understand what I am saying... which is strange because I can understand them most of the time. Other things - like the quality of gifts hint that that woman really hates me.

My MIL - who is coming to meet me soon from Pakistan, has in the past gotten on the phone to my husband and started making demands.

HER grandchildren are to attend Islamic night school. She wants ME to be a muslim. etc etc.

Her words were she wants 'all her children' to be that way.

wtf. WHO the hell does she think she is?

My husband loves her a lot. She was a great mother to him. He does want to please her. But I have told him that in MY family, we do things best for us - respectful as possible towards others - but OUR wants and wishes come first. Meaning mine before hers.

Could someone please tell me what to do in this situation - how to show her her place, whether rude or not?

I am thinking of having a coffee alone just me and her and asking her honestly why she says things like that, and kindly telling her that she does not have to worry. Then bringing everything out in the open so we understand each other.

Just for everyone who will give me that 'oh shes over there, not in your country, why worry' attitude

she will be LIVING WITH US in our country in the next 5 years, because pakistan is a hole.

so I am just really worried because I grew up in living hell, I cant bear the thought of the rest of my life being troubled because someone is trying to tell me what to do with my life and my kids.

sigh.

My husbands religion is not the problem at all. He is a perfectly normal guy, grew up in america. Eats pork, does not pray. Not religious. I married him 4 months ago. Things are good. Apart from ONE DAMN THING.

I have not met his parents yet, and only spoken to them on the phone. They speak english, but can NEVER understand what I am saying... which is strange because I can understand them most of the time. Other things - like the quality of gifts hint that that woman really hates me.

My MIL - who is coming to meet me soon from Pakistan, has in the past gotten on the phone to my husband and started making demands.

HER grandchildren are to attend Islamic night school. She wants ME to be a muslim. etc etc.

Her words were she wants 'all her children' to be that way.

wtf. WHO the hell does she think she is?

My husband loves her a lot. She was a great mother to him. He does want to please her. But I have told him that in MY family, we do things best for us - respectful as possible towards others - but OUR wants and wishes come first. Meaning mine before hers.

Could someone please tell me what to do in this situation - how to show her her place, whether rude or not?

I am thinking of having a coffee alone just me and her and asking her honestly why she says things like that, and kindly telling her that she does not have to worry. Then bringing everything out in the open so we understand each other.

Just for everyone who will give me that 'oh shes over there, not in your country, why worry' attitude

she will be LIVING WITH US in our country in the next 5 years, because pakistan is a hole.

so I am just really worried because I grew up in living hell, I cant bear the thought of the rest of my life being troubled because someone is trying to tell me what to do with my life and my kids.

Hi everyone. Want to laugh? Reckon this story is funny?

Well -

The other day my husband is sitting on the lounge room table (dont ask..he says he concentrates better) playing Xbox. He starts urgently calling me. 'Hey come here! quick! quick!'

I thought he was calling me to check out him playing and so took my time. Then he calls out 'Quick! you gotta smell this fart i did!'

When I actually did go and stand next to him - i managed to run behind the living room wall before i fell to my knees and almost pissed myself laughing. It stank like an actual piece of sh*t.

I was pretty shocked.

This is a repeat story now.. - I'll tell it so it is funnier.

THe other day we went to sit beside a river in the city eating ice cream. There was me, my father and husband all sitting on the same bench. I feel the seat vibrating, and turn to look at my husband accusingly. When i see he is not reaching for his cell phone to check this supposed message - i demand to see it jokingly. He just smiles and half ignores me (Meanwhile my father is talking bad about Jews.....sigh.... no offense meant to anyone, nothing wrong with them)

Well - by now I start to get work up. I hiss under my breath why the f*ck wont he check his messages - has he got something to hide.

He just smiles and goes ' I farted. '

Then my father thinks we are both laughing at his racist comments.

LOL