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I have my own business but due to a disability I can only work a short time and then must rest and recover from the exertion.

The city I do business in is saying that I am not allowed to even sleep in my building.

I find it much easier to stay here during the week to get my work done which sometimes may involve 20 total hours per day. I then go to my house for the weekend.

My business is in Garden Grove, Ca.

She also has another child from another "father" from 10 years ago.

She now wants me to "walk her down the aisle". I really do not want to. It goes against my grain and what I believe in.

I gave her $1500 and told her the best thing to do was go to Las Vegas or to the Justice of the Peace to get married.

Here is the situation: She got pregnant by a guy 10 years ago. I was furious about this because of all the precautions that are available these days and I have seen way to many times what happens to the child that comes from this kind of circumstance. After the guy ran out of his money from an accident settlement she left him.

She then found another guy, who was 17 and still in school, she was 20 at the time, and got pregnant by this guy. (This guy had an inheritance from his father dieing tragically)

He has stood by her for the last 8 years and now they are to wed.

She was raised by her mother since she was 3 though I did have visitation every 2 weeks or so.

She was told by her mother that she did not have to do anything I said because I was strict. (I am a father that cares!) She has defied me her whole life! I have tried to help in many ways but she has always came back at me saying how "I have never helped her with anything, I have always been a lousy father".

I really am ashamed of her and her "morals". I did not teach this to her!

I am now being criticized by friend (mostly woman and my other two daughters) for not wanting to "walk her down the aisle". I feel that she has walked herself down "that aisle" twice already in a very deceitful way.

I am told that I may regret this for the rest of my life but I do not want to endorse this kind of behavior.

I feel that this "new acceptance of society is what is helping to tear this society apart.

I have very mixed emotions about this and would really appreciate others opinions on my dilemma.

P.S. My other two daughters are older and do not live there lives in this manner. One got married even before living with him(I raised her), the other has been living with him for a couple of years(no children and she appreciates me as father ) and are planning on getting married next May. (I have no objections against living with one another first, I think it is a good idea!)