Danomite

Im so sick and tired of hearing about how great celebrities are. How so many women would leave their boyfriend/husband for a one night stand with their favorite celebrity. Its just made me feel really depressed thinking that a normal guy cant be as good as a celebrity simply because of superficial looks, fame, music, or money.

Im losing faith in humanity. I've looked at many results pending "would you leave your boyfriend/girlfriend for a celebrity" and found that about 99.99% of the results say yes! Its ridiculous! Why do people think this way? I would never leave my girlfriend for anyone, not even to have sex with them once. I think the world of her and no one can come even remotely close.

So why would someone do something like have a stupid fantasy about a celebrity who in all reality is just a normal person? Money shouldn't matter because on principle alone most of them didn't earn all they have, and there is no meaning of a life based on money. Looks shouldn't matter because they are plenty of good looking people with day jobs, and being good-looking is not a complex skill so it shouldn't matter. I have yet to see someone defined as "ugly" unless they are not in decent physical shape. These celebrities have normal personalities, nothing special there. These are imperfect people who don't deserve to be idolized.

My girlfriend talks about how good some singers are which isn't that bad but I still don't like it. It made me feel a little bit sad until she told me that I don't even have to try to keep her.

So what I really mean to ask is: is Hopeless Romanticism dying off? Are there any girls or guys out there that love their partners more than anyone else and wouldn't leave them for anyone famous? Is there hope?

I went to MEPS where I scored an 81 on my ASVAB which from what I understand is a decent score. The problem is that I refused to lie on the questionnaire asking about my past. I rebelled against my recruiter because I pride myself on being a man of integrity, but now I'm stuck here wondering if I'll be disqualified from joining or not; whether the waivers for my conditions are approved.

I wrote down that I had broken my left arm 4 years ago, the Orthopedic Surgeon told me it was fine because I could twist my wrist past a 45 degree angle.

I wrote down that I had taken anti-depressants 3 years ago, which I believe helped majorly in that I deal with my problems in a much more positive way now.

Lastly, I wrote down that I cracked my orbital bone (surrounding my right eye) when I was five years old and that it had healed stronger than it was before.

I didn't want to be qualified for lying, so do you think I'll make it in?

Oh and this is kind of trivial, but is it possible to be as attractive to women as a marine is if you have the same build and personality as them? If I don't make it I want to become a police officer, but getting women is not the main reason for joining.

So long story made short: I went into a mental hospital because of depression. I don't think I was actually going to commit suicide, but for the past year I've felt pretty down (just chemical imbalances and other circumstances). But that's beside the fact; I met a girl in there that I really felt a deep connection with.

She was the only other person that lived in the same town as me, she likes the same music, she has the same wierd personality; she's really nice, funny, smart, quiet, and freaking beautiful without makeup xD. I got out a day before her and just before I left, I was able to get her number - which she gladly gave to me with "Text or Call anytime C:" written on it.

I texted her around 4:00 the next day, to which she texted back immediately after she got out at 5:00. We really hit it off. I made subtle compliments; she did too. I made her laugh; she made me laugh. It just seemed awesome!

The only bad thing is that I found out that she had to go to another institution called Sundance over Thanksgiving break. I don't know how long she is/ was in there for, and I'm afraid that I might creep her out if I send her a text asking when she gets out, and she gets out to find that she has a message that she might be uncomfortable with from me.

I would say that we're friends, but we're not really close friends and I just want to get to know her better to possibly ask her out. Do you think that it would creep her out if I sent her another message a week from the time that we last texted, asking how she was doing?

I don't even know if she can answer it yet because I don't know when she was supposed to get out.

Last night my first girlfriend broke up with me, and now she's doing stupid immature little girl mind games by saying stuff like "Oh, but we can still be friends." and "I feel like **** and I really regret breaking up with you, maybe we can get back together in the future." I still like her, and I don't understand why she broke up with me. She said I was the perfect boyfriend, but she felt like she didn't know me well enough (I felt differently). Now, she's texting me like I'm her little buddy.

I don't want to get stuck in the friend zone and watch as she gets new douche bag boyfriends. Anyways, she's a year older than I am, so she graduates in 11 weeks and goes to Missouri for college. After I realized it's pointless to get her to stay with me because I'd get hurt sooner or later when she left, my depression (which I'm getting treated for with 100 mg of Zoloft) really kicked in and I started to scare myself. I just now started searching up if I could OD on Zoloft and the amount of mg I would have to take in order to get the job done.

It also doesn't help that I was sick for a week from the flu so I missed tons of work, and now I'm stressing even more than I already was to pass my classes. I'm a smart underachiever.

Please give me some advice that I can use for relationship problems, school problems, and maybe some religious problems because I have been doubting/blaming God for about a year now. How do I get out of this slump of depression?

Last night my first girlfriend broke up with me, and now she's doing stupid immature little girl mind games by saying stuff like "Oh, but we can still be friends." and "I feel like **** and I really regret breaking up with you, maybe we can get back together in the future." I still like her, and I don't understand why she broke up with me. She said I was the perfect boyfriend, but she felt like she didn't know me well enough (I felt differently). Now, she's texting me like I'm her little buddy.

I don't want to get stuck in the friend zone and watch as she gets new douche bag boyfriends. Anyways, she's a year older than I am, so she graduates in 11 weeks and goes to Missouri for college. After I realized it's pointless to get her to stay with me because I'd get hurt sooner or later when she left, my depression (which I'm getting treated for with 100 mg of Zoloft) really kicked in and I started to scare myself. I just now started searching up if I could OD on Zoloft and the amount of mg I would have to take in order to get the job done.

It also doesn't help that I was sick for a week from the flu so I missed tons of work, and now I'm stressing even more than I already was to pass my classes. I'm a smart underachiever.

Please give me some advice that I can use for relationship problems, school problems, and maybe some religious problems because I have been doubting/blaming God for about a year now. How do I get out of this slump of depression?

I'm pretty sure this girl in my animation class likes me, and I just want to confirm it.

She has been looking at me really sneakily for the past semester. Almost Every time I look at her she looks away instantly. Only one time has she maintained eye contact for a little while and smiled at me. But today, the teacher decided he would let us switch seats. I was about to go with my friend to sit near the front, but I saw her coming over to sit by where I was, so I stayed.

I've barely talked to her so I don't want to judge too much on these things. Is she interested in me like I think she is?

A few years ago, it seemed like girls avoided me, but now there are like 20 girls that like me (I'm not exaggerating). I'm really shy, so I don't really go up and introduce myself to lots of women, but it seems that I can always see at least one girl looking at me/ showing signs that she likes me out of the corner of my eye.

I think it might be because I got a new hair cut; it's either short and spiky, or medium and kind of messy (going for the kind of punk hair). I also got a little bit stronger, and have been managing my acne better.

So could these be reasons why girls seem interested in me now?

I want to be able to get trolls to comment on my questions... and then trap them! How should I got on about doing this?

I've almost given up on ever getting a girlfriend because I'm way too shy. I am working at getting better, but that's not the point. Right now, it's very hard for me to approach girls, so I figure; why can't they approach me?

I've searched up this question before, and people said stuff like "smile at her" or just plain "stare at her". First of all, that sounds creepy, and second of all, I'm depressed so it's hard for me to fake-smile.

Please do not tell me stupid stuff that I'm not asking for like "you've just got to get courage" or "it's the man's job to initiate the conversation" because that won't help at all. I really just want a way to get a girls attention and possibly for her to talk to me first.

I'm a junior in high school, and right now I don't grow too much facial hair, but it'd be nice to know in advance.

what do most girls like; stubble, shaved, goatee, mustache, full-on-beard...?

I've been looking through the questions on here about insecure guys, and on almost every single one of them, there's a girl saying stupid crap like "man up!". How can you just judge people like that and say that they are wimpy even though you don't know what they've gone through? After all, are you a man??? It seems that those kind of girls don't understand what a man really is, and they think that you HAVE to have confidence, and to brag about yourself or to be a total douche to be "manly".

I'm an insecure guy who's very shy/introverted, and I feel that it's just in my nature to be the way I am. Just because I have a hard time going up to girls, or talking in front of a class, doesn't mean I can't protect people, provide for a family, or just be a bad *** in general xD.

I don't think that girls should automatically turn a guy down just because he doesn't have confidence. That would in fact make him lose confidence, and make it so that he loses more women. And you can still have fun with them because after a while of talking to girls they become more comfortable around them.

So why can't it be both of the genders job to initiate a conversation, or to ask someone out? After all, people are people, and we all have problems on the inside.

So please just answer my questions without making fun of me, or other men like me.

I'm almost 17, and I don't have my license, or my permit. I am so aggravated because my parents won't let me get either one because they think that it will raise their insurance. Does it make girls not want to be with me if I can't drive? I feel so jealous and angry because everyone else just flaunts theirs around =l.

Btw, does it raise your insurance to just have a permit, a license, or do you have to have a car of your own?

Right now I am very depressed because of all the crap I'm going through. I have family issues, school issues, so-called-friends talking behind my back, anxiety issues, and self-esteem issues.

I am in so much pain because I really want to get a girlfriend, but I'm too introverted. For some reason, there are like 10 beautiful girls that are interested in me, BUT I CAN'T TALK TO THEM! I hate it! Even if I think about saying "Hey, your hair looks nice today." or something that I plan out in my head, I always have that irrational fear of rejection. I'm afraid that even if I smile at them, they will either make fun of me with all of their snotty friends, or just scowl at me.

Having this constant fear has made me lose so many good opportunities for talking to girls that I like.

I also have trouble speaking in front of people. My last speech I made, I shook so bad that you could hear it in my voice, and my face turned beat red. This is what my "friends" were talking about when I heard them.

Almost everyone in my family has drama crap that I have to deal with also. My dad has hypochondria, my mom has panic attacks, my brother Loyd is going crazy, and my brother Zach hates me.

I really need someone to just answer my prayers. I have prayed to God, and he has answered every single one of my prayers except for these few.

All I ask is that I can get some good advice that is applicable to my life. I want to be able to calm down, get some self-esteem, and be able to approach girls.

Earlier I asked a question about if a girl was playing hard to get or not, and someone said she probably lost interest in you. I'm starting to believe this because she seems to be barely looking at me any more, and ignoring me on purpose now; when she used to always look at me.

I really like her, but I can't talk to her because I have such low self-esteem. I have tried so many different things, but my heart starts beating so fast when I see her, and I can't control it. I plan the things I'll say to her, but they never come out even when it seems that she wants my attention with how she walks by me really slow while playing with her hair.

How do I get self-esteem fast?

There's a very pretty girl in one of my classes, and I think she's interested in me. But the problem is that she is ignoring me now. It seemed like she was really interested in me for a while because she would:

1. Play with her hair

2. Walk past me a lot

3 Look at me, and when I looked at her she would either blush or look away

but now it seems like she's ignoring me on purpose and still walking by me all the time. Is she playing hard to get?

I've liked this girl in my 8th period class for a while, and I really want to get to know her. I'm really shy, and for some reason I think it would be creepy to just say "hi" and smile at her out of nowhere. I know she likes me too, but is there a way I should lead up to this? Would you be creeped out if someone said hi to you and smiled?

I'm also very shy, so it's hard for me to even look at her when I catch her looking at me.

I absolutely hate my personality. I'm one of the most introverted, self-kept, dreamers that there are. I can't get over my irrational subconscious thinking of me being ugly, looking creepy, trying too hard, smelling bad, or just being plain stupid. This is why I will probably never get a date in my whole entire ******* life. I have already had about 6 years now where I have a crush that I NEVER talk to, and then a different one comes the next year.

The reason why I'm so pissed now though, is because for some reason there are like 20 girls that like me, and I don't have the ******* guts to talk to them. I feel like such a worthless piece of **** when I see stupid jocks able to hit on everything that moves, and I can't even present a project without shaking and embarrassing myself in front of the whole class.

Why can't girls just go talk to guys!?! I sure as hell wouldn't reject a girl, or laugh behind their back like I see so many stupid gossipers doing. I'm so afraid of rejection, and I can't change my thinking over it.

I have prayed for so many things, and God has answered every single one of them except for this one.

How do I change my way of thinking, and get more confidence? Or should I just wait until I find the .000001% of the women in the world that can actually get over themselves and make the first move?

If you answer, please don't say stupid **** like "God isn't real dumb ***", "You just need confidence", or "Man-up because that's the way this stupid world is".

I'm a 16 1/2 year old guy and I really need help with how to talk to a beautiful girl that I think likes me. We've never talked before, but I've looked up body language signals of girls when they like you, and she gives off almost all of them. She also looks at me, and when I look back at her, she looks away. So, everyday in 8th period she walks by my desk, would it be alright if I just said "Hi" to her, or "What's up?"?

Please give me some suggestions on what to say.

I'm really depressed because I can't talk to girls. I am so ******* tired of trying to reassure myself that I won't get rejected, and then getting embarrassed by them just looking at me. It makes me feel like ****, because I feel as though I'll never get a date, because 99.99% of women want men to be the "hunters". Even if I know that a girl likes me, I still can't make a move; which really pisses me off because I always see stupid jocks that are just so full of themselves they can get any girl they want. I am introverted, and I don't think that I'll ever change. Even if I go to counseling, take courses, or have the most beautiful woman in the world walk up to me and try to talk to me, I'll always be the same.

So far, no one's advice has worked because they've all said the same thing: "Duuuude, you've just gotta get some confidence bro." which as it turns out, doesn't help at ALL because I don't know how the **** I'm supposed to get confidence.