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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

About this system, how does pansexuality, asexulity, and demisexuality work in this?

Or would this question simply be proof that sexuality isn'r black and white (or in this case blue and white if you look at the picture)

The term demisexual confused me at first, but I think I may be one, which I have no problem with! I would actually like to identify as one, but I want some opinions on it first.

I know I'm gay, but I never seem to be able to look at a guy and say I'd have sex with him, but I can still tell that they're hot. I have a friend, and when I met him I thought nothing of it, but now that I've learned more about him I'm sexually attracted to him (not going into details about that for the innocent out there). And my last boyfriend, I was liking him before I had even seen him, just talked to him over the phone and by text!

So does this sound like a demisexual? Feel free to ask further questions if you need to in order to answer. I just really want to know!

All my friends who've been in a relationship say they have "Breakup music" to listen to for a while until they feel better or until they get someone new.

I recently went through my first breakup and I'm mainly listening to these songs (Links if you don't know them and want to hear them)

So What- P!nk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUvYR2ZYjVY

Unforgiven- Blood on the Dance Floor

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wPJ_AnmB9Yg

What the Hell- Avril Lavigne

(Warning, this one has an advertizement) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQmEd_UeeIk

So what's your "Breakup Music"?

My parents are kinda creepy and watching a live feed from there and say people are acting weird (Duh, it's New Orleans).

They told me to ask here... anyone know?

I got dumped last night (No sorrys, I saw it coming and think it was for the best), and not very effected.

Anyway, now I'm watching my friend's wording, he's 19 (I'm 15), he's gay and admits to liking me once upon a time. He was talking to me about it last night and here's the exact wording:

Me:hey

Him:What do you want you sexy gorgeous man

Me:it wasnt bullcrap

Him:What happened?

Me:he met a guy tonight and thinks hes better with him

Him:*hugs you* What a dick

Me:its fine, (Name)... What do you think about all this?

Him:about what?

Me: about (ex) and i breaking up?

Him:**** happens. You'll kiss frogs but eventually find your prince

Me:Ok... Anything else you wanna say?

Him:Nope. Why

Me:Just... Wondering, what with... You know, the things we've said over skype...

Him:I've already said enough.

You like me don't you?

Me:Yeah...

Him:I'm to old for you. I am sorry. Your parents would never approve of this.

Aren't you 14?

Me:They didnt approve of nick either, 15

Him:How old was nick?

Me:16

Him:HES ONLY A YEAR OLDER!!!!!! WTF

Me:Ya

Him:WHY THE **** MARE THEY NOT APPROVING OF HIM ARE THEY JUDGEMENTAL OR SOMETHING?!?! GFD! I AM SO SICK OF JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE.

Me:Not even, he was born in april and me in october, so half a year

Cuz they dont like him personally

Him:I am sick of bullshit parents.

Me:Ikr

Besides, they shouldnt have an issue with age gaps, my mother is 5 years older!

From then on it's about dating people that are older, the only thing I think would make a difference would be him saying: If you chose to wait till you 18 to date me that would be three years. I would be 22

I want opinions, please help! Comment about any part of this, breakup, ex, this guy, the age gap, anything!

I would like some comments on his wording, I noticed he never said no, just that my parents wouldn't approve (I don't give a sh*t what they think, so oh well).

I just learned that in either 2009 or 2010 (my informant couldn't rememebr which) a student tried to start a GSA at my school, but was denied!

Now I'm even more determined to start one! I'm going to start a petition for 1, it has 2 paragraphs

Paragraph 1:

In 2009, student Timothy Cox attempted to start a GSA here at DCHS, but the school board denied him this. Students have a right to start any club as long as it is not harmful. How would a GSA be harmful? Exactly, it’s not. Timothy was denied one of the few rights as a student. By signing this petition, you are showing more than just respect for the LGBT community, you are fighting for student rights and freedom of expression!

Paragraph 2:

Having a GSA at DCHS will open many doors for the school, students, and staff alike. It will also let us avoid many negative points. It will long-term reduce bullying, thus reducing self-harm and suicides. It will also lower violence rates, and help avoid problems like the recent stun gun incident at Arsenal Technical High School, where Darnell “Dynasty” Young stunned some attackers who were tormenting the openly gay student. He was expelled for his self-defense. It will also help in the future to avoid something similar to the Rutgers case, where a student was secretly recorded by his roommate, kissing another male student. He committed suicide days later by jumping off New York's George Washington Bridge.

What do you all think of this situation? Could I maybe get some advice or legal information on this topic? What does your school say about GSA's and other LGBT groups? If you're out of school: What did your school think about it when you were in school?

Background: I'm 15 and recently came out as gay. My father isn't very accepting of same-sex romance, and said he's disappointed.

Today, both my parents got drunk (still are as I type this) and when I walked into the living room he stopped me. "I'm sorry I gave you my messed up mind. But at least you know who you are, I seem to change my mind every week. So maybe you got your mom's mind, oh well." He's always been a truthful, spill your guts kind of drunk, so he was speaking his mind!

I'm just confused on how to take this, I've never met anyone who thought a teen could know themselves (including other teens and myself) so why would he think this? Do you think has to do with me coming out? Or maybe that ever since I've had no doubts about telling the truth?

Have you ever met an adult who thought this about a teen? Or a teen who heard something similar from an adult? I can really use someone with some sort of experience with a similar situation!

I'm very skinny, 5'10" and about 100lbs, so my ribs and hip bones are easily visible, I can even reach under my ribs and touch what I think is a lung

I have a high metabolism and I'm hypoglycemic, so I can eat a lot and sustain weight, instead I eat normally and so I'm losing weight.

A lot of my friends say they want my metabolism, and still do after I explain that due to my hypoglycemia, if I miss 1 meal I could end up in a coma. They still say they want this metabolism!

So, tell me, would you like this? Why or why not?

I have a friend who claimed to be a lesbian, but she admits that she'd be fine having sex with a guy, but not a relationship.

It sounds like bi-curios to me, but in reverse to the general definition, so is that the best description for it or is there an actual term for this?

FYI All 3 guys (me, my bf, and the graduate) are all gay

I went to my friend's graduation party Saturday night, long story short: We kissed and had to run around in our underwear. My boyfriend didn't exactly like that.

He knows I do have feelings for this other guy, but not as strong feelings as I have for him!

Today we were talking and started asking some deep questions, he told me that he's still in love with his late exboyfriend. (dead for 4.5 years)

I know he might be gone, but I know dating someone caught up on an ex is never good. And the fact we hardly see each other face-to-face doesn't help.

We're both a bit mad about the conversation. I've told the graduate that if I was single I'd go to him, but now that I think about it, he's graduated and I'm going to be a sophomore! How the hell would that work?

So, I Dare you to tell me your honest opinion, WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!

PS. My parents are aware of my orientation and hate my bf, but they already trust the graduate. Both of them have been cheated on before, but this is my 1st relationship. The graduate and I are virgins, but my bf isn't. The graduate and I are out, but my bf isn't to his family. My bf and I have both have self-harm scars and the graduate has never self-harmed. My bf and I don't want any kids, but the graduate wants 3 surrogate mothers.

Today in gym these guys almost fought, but I got the teacher and stopped them. Later on people were saying "It figures the homo would snitch."

I'm a pacifist, so what?

Also, later on the guy who was starting the fight said he'd be willing to fight me. The other guy (one of my friends) then said "You'd hit a gay guy?"

Later on we were talking and we said that if I did get my @$$ handed to me by him I'd be an LGBT martyr, since headlines in Indiana would later read "Steroid Rager Punches Out Gay Student" for a while and that I could sue.

So how is it sexuality became such an issue here?!?! I wasn't even in the initial fight!

Or some type of LGBT group!

I've been doing research about what to do, what to discuss, how to get people, and all of that, but there are a few things I'll need help with.

Info: Our mascot is the Hawk. Our colors are Blue and Gold. It is a public high school. Indiana.

What to call it? Calling them LGBT club, or a GSA sometimes scare people away since the words Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transexual are right in the title. So what else could we call it?

A slogan? Same things as the above kind of apply.

Be creative, don't give me something that's been used time and time again.

ok, I was talking to one of my friends on Skype. We're both gay btw, I'm 15 and he's 19

He said "Fvck you"

I said "Ok"

"Sheesh, nothing effects you huh?"

"Nope!"

He thinks for a second, "I stick a dildo up my @$$ everyday!"

"Good for you!"

"I try on lubricated condoms everyday! They are slimy!"

"Might as well get comfy!"

"I want to become a woman!"

"Dude, earlier today my friend said she wants to be a man, come on now!"

But was he serious! o.O I'm pretty sure he was serious about the first 2 (don't ask why), but idk about the last part...

He hates the discrimination at our school, and fears them the rest of his life, so could he be for real?

This is what I said:

I'm done hiding. I've been lying now for a while and I'm done. I'm ready to tell the truth and show the real me!

The real me:

I'm depressed, I have my moments when I want the world to end.

I'm gay, I am and it's a natural thing that many people are ok with, so why aren't some?

I'm in love! I have a boyfriend, and I love him with everything in me!

I'm an entertainer! I put my thoughts into images and describe them to entertain!

I'm all of this and so much more! And anyone who doesn't like anything I said in this post, unfriend me now and get out of my life.

If you want to talk to me about any of this, DON'T MESSAGE, CHAT, OR TEXT ME ABOUT IT! Talk to me FACE-TO-FACE or at least over Skype or the phone.

So far I have 4 likes, all girls, one lesbian, all knew it already.

My mom just got home and didn't say a thing to me, but I don't think she's seen it! She called my dad and still nothing! I'm going to be on edge all day now until they talk to me about it. Please help!

I also changed my relationship status.

Now for the questions:

Have any of you done something like this?

How were the reactions?

Do you regret not coming out a different way?

Any more tips?

There's a senior at my school who likes me, he admits to it but says he hasn't tried anything because he doesn't wanna fvck up my relationship. He said he's liked me ever since he saw me in the lunch line the day we met.

But here's the question, how could he like me from a look when he's into the physical opposite of me?

He says he likes tan or Hispanic guys, but I'm so pale people call me a vampire. He says he likes them about his height or shorter and with muscle tone, but I'm 2 inches taller than him and have noodle arms. He says he likes short light hair, usually up with some kind of product (yes, he was specific), but I have long dark brown hair that I let fall where ever. So how could he have liked me with a look?

A lot of couples debate on who looks better in the relationship, but my boyfriend and I FIGHT about it. Not the way people do to be sweet, but for real fighting!

So can you people tell us who it is that looks better?

He's the one with shorter hair: http://www.flickr.com/photos/78985592@N06/72340396...

He says I look better and I say he looks better. We go all out calling ourselves ugly and pointing things out about ourselves. He always mentions the scars on his thighs, but I say that pink lines on pale skin look better than the thick purple marks all around my waist. He points out that he wears glasses, so I point out that I like glasses and that my bad skin is worse. He points out his slight alcohol gut (which is going away) and so I point out that people can see my ribs and hip bones without my trying (and I'm getting skinnier somehow!). My hair usually looks better than in the picture above, its usually thicker and fluffier but we were dancing before the picture was taken so the hair was sticking to my forehead.

The picture is from January, please tell me who you think looks better (factor in the picture and the facts we state when we fight). Be honest.

I plan on coming out to my family over facebook because I don't have the spine to tell them to their face, but I seem to be able to type it fine.

I want them to know, but I can't seem to say it to their faces, so would it be the best option? I've been close to telling them in real life before, but they always seem to suddenly say something homophobic right before I do and so I shrivel up and can't.

Most of my friends at school know, it's just for family really. I know my parents are homophobic, and my grandparents are strong christians (and they're your stereotype old people who hate anything they aren't)

Has anyone here ever done this? If so, how was the aftermath? What did you say?

Describe these with song titles, please include the artist

1. Your life at school/work?

2. Your day so far?

3. Your relationship with your parents?

4. The last time you spoke to your crush/romance?

5. The last food item you ate?

6. How you slept last night?

7. Something about you that you're insecure about?

8. Something about you that you love?

9. Your best date?

10. Your dream date?

I'll add my own answers ASAP

I only met him about a month ago, but I have strong evidence that he is attracted to me.

The first time we spoke he was nervous, especially after learning that I'm gay too, as soon as he found out he looked down at the ground, shot his hand out for me to shake his hand, and said "Hey, I'm (his name) and I'm gay." When he found out I have a boyfriend he didn't talk to me directly for a week.

He's having a graduation party soon, and he invited me before he invited the person who he wants to sing with him to his guests. So before his 'co-star' if you will.

Today I went up to talk to him and he ran over, grabbed me by the arm and pulled me over to his friend saying "This is Chase. He's my gay friend, my best gay friend. HUG ME!" then he forced me to hug him, and after the hug he wouldn't let go of my arm and broke into a cold sweat.

The biggest piece of evidence is that he's asked a mutual friend of ours if I'm single yet 3 times since we met.

I know for a fact he is gay, he told me when we met.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks he's crushing on me, but give me your true thoughts.

FYI:

I may be in a relationship, but I admit that if I were single I would ask him out. I am a freshman and he is a senior. But we both want different things future wise, he wants a surrogate mother and to live in the suburbs. I don't want kids in any way and want to live in the city. He knows this. Whenever he's near me he pokes me and laughs at my jump when he does. He's told me some pretty big secrets that most wouldn't tell someone they met a month ago (of course those secrets aren't going in the question details). Also, when he broke up with his last boyfriend he went to me for help and at the end of the conversation asked how my relationship was, and asks every time we talk.

and I need some tips on how to restart this friendship!

He's a year younger than me and his brother is a year older then me, we lost contact when our parents stopped talking (I don't know why they stopped, and I don't ask about them)

Now he's found me on FB and I want to try to get to know him again, but a few things...

on FB it says he's Christian, so I'm wondering how he'd take the fact that a long lost friend has realized that he's homosexual.

I haven't friended his brother yet

It says they both went to my school, but I haven't seen either one at school (at least didn't register it) and the younger one wouldn't even be in high school yet!

Please help!