Naomi

I m a 17 year old girl who is generally pleased by her looks. I think I have a pretty face and a decent body (slim, but kind of flat). I only wear make up on special occasions and am still seen as pretty and I have blue eyes, brown hair and olive skin - which isn t really the most common combination around where I live.

However, even though I am quite pleased by my looks, I still feel a lot of jealousy around blondes. I always have the feeling that most white girls with that hair color will always have more attention than I do, especially from non-white boys and men. And with "most of them" I don t even mean like the gorgeous ones, just the average looking ones who actually need more make up to look than me what this society considers "decent". I also notice a lot that those kind of girls sometimes seem kind of jealous of me too...

Do you think this is at least a bit justified? Do guys really like blondes that much or is it just an idea in my head or just my ego, who desperately wants to have all the attention and doesn t want any other girl to have it?

Are people being hypocrite or are mediocre and normal truly two different things (in your opinion)?

I have always been an outsider and I'm glad I am, because I don't think that being popular would fit me. I still wonder what it's really like though. People always either say that popular people have the time of their lives or that popular people are just really unhappy, but I doubt that either one of them is true.

So yes, I would like to hear some stories from people who have ever been part of the popular crowd in school or something.

I know that there are a lot of girls who see themselves as way uglier as they are, or at least claim that they do. Instead of looking at the great picture they pick out all the flaws they have. I was wondering whether some or even a lot of guys deal with the same issues, but just don't admit it since it would be unmanly or something. Or do you genuinely not think much about your looks, because being good looking isn't as important to guys as it is to girls?

I'm blessed with a pretty face and a decent body (slim, but flat), but I feel like my looks are the only attractive part of me. I'm not really charming or talented or anything like that. I am a bit different than others, because I don't really try to fit in and I know that some people find that attractive and I know that I'm not that unattractive, but still.. Just wondering if someone else ever feels this way.

I know that it's illegal to date grown men when you're under 18 years old, but come on. Aren't some people being a bit hypocrite about this?

(Btw: I don't care about how big the age gap is between partners. I have no experience with dating someone who is way older or younger than I am, so I can't really judge about that.)

Hi, I'm really into a guy at this moment. He is really funny and sweet and I've tried to let him know that I like him, tried to talk to him and even tried to ask him out. But because I appear to be more confident than him, I'm a lot better looking than him and I can be a bit too straightforward, it just doesn't seem to work.

Idk, I really need some advice on this.

Just want to know if I'm not the only one.

I've had fear of failure for the greatest part of my life and because of that I've never been good or even decent at anything, except for the fact that I get decent grades and that I used to be quite good in the things I liked to do: acting, singing and writing.

However, I've had a couple of years in which I've basically wasted my life on the internet because I was lonely, insecure and perhaps a bit depressed. Now I'm trying to get back into those things, but I notice that I'm not good at it for my age anymore. And suddenly I don't feel like doing those things at much as I used to.

What do you think? Is it because I've just changed and should try to do other things or that it is because of my insecurities and fear of failure?

What are your favorite girl bands? I prefer girl bands like TLC and En Vogue, but I'm really open for anything as long as it isn't stuff like the Saturdays or Fifth Harmony.

I know some girls with really great personalities that like guys who are just like them not good-looking, but still have a great personality. But even though they always go for guys in their league and are really nice and talented they haven't got any luck when it comes down to dating! The nice but ugly guys they like always like prettier girls, even when they have worse personalities than them, and keep sighing about the fact that no girl likes them when the perfect girl for them is right there for them. I hate how people always feel sorry for ugly, nice guys but always forget about nice, ugly GIRLS, because beauty is way more important for girls than it is for guys, isn't it?

Ofcourse every female and male has their preferences and I respect that. It doesn't matter whether the man or woman is more dominant in a relationship.

I'm just wondering what's your view on this. Do you think it's better for a dominant female to date a less-dominant male, or to date someone that's even more dominant than she is? And why?

Sometimes curvy girls complain about their figure and say that they would rather have my looks but I just don't get it. I don't have the worst body ever, honestly. I'm slim and quite lean so I have a decent figure, but I barely have boobs and litteraly no *** at all. Because of that I'm terribly jealous of curvier girls, especially since it seems like every prefers them and absolutely hates flat asses.

Why would they want to trade their beautiful body for a skinny one?

Me and this really sweet, insecure, nice guy like each other for quite a while, but nothing has happened between us yet. It's kind of hard because we barely know each other and he doesn't dare to talk to me.

I've tried to make something happen by saying "hi" to him, giving obvious signals (staring at hinm, smiling etc) and even telling him that I like him, but he just won't respond.

I don't know whether to give him space or to try harder?

My social life is pretty dead at the moment and this doesn't have much to do with the fact that I'm unsocial. I can have fun at school, at my job, with my only friend that I have at the moment and her friends.. Pretty much anywhere. I just don't know how to take the relationship that I have with some people that I connect with to the level of frienship. Can you know when you can do that or is this just really about taking a chance and hoping that it'll work?