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So I've had a stomach bug (possibly flu) since last Wednesday. It's in a pattern almost. Every other night, I'll wake up after 2-4 hours of sleep and then get sick but then the next night I'll feel fine. I've never had a stomach bug before so I don't know this works but I think almost a week is long enough.....I don't have a fever so I thought it couldn't be the flu but I am getting the same symptoms one would have with a stomach flu, it's just every other night....I have a choir concert coming up next week....I CANNOT afford to be sick for it nor can I afford to give it to a classmate days before the concert. I can't see a doctor, no health insurance....What can I do to speed up the process? I can eat, but not very much or very quickly. I can't drink coffee (which SUCKS) but my appetite is coming back VERY slowly (like a snail) but even still I feel sick after eating. I woke up last night feeling sick but at least I didn't GET sick this time. (Could be a plus??) What can I do? Please I need to know, I can't afford to miss anymore classes...thanks in advance, I appreciate it

So I'm currently composing my own music, but there's just one problem. I can't think of anything to put for the left hand. (I never can, no matter what type of song I'm composing whether it's pop, musical theater, classical, jazz, blues, etc.) The only thing i know to do with my left hand is to do octaves....not sure why I do that but I do. Unless I'm playing music that's already written down, I don't know what to play in the left hand.....and I never have.....Any tips or suggestions? Thanks in advance

I'm 25 years old and a college student. I get good grades. I help out around the house and give my parents whatever money I can give them (out of grants or taxes) because I can't work while in school (I tried it, it didnt work) So I was talking to my mom about getting a summer job and that I will only work Monday through Friday so I can spend time with my boyfriend (I only see him once a week on the weekends cause that's the only time he's off work. His schedule is crazy. He works overnight shifts.) When I told her this, she's like, "Well gee it must be nice." It's not fair to make me feel guilty for being 25 years old and wanting to spend time with my boyfriend or wanting to have a little time to myself or having a little fun. It's not like I'm bragging about my age in front of her. I help out around the house, with the kids (my parents have custody of my sister's children ages 3 and 5) I juggle the kids, school, chores, and time with my boyfriend. How can I make her understand that spending time with him is important to me and that making me feel guilty isn't right or fair? It just makes me feel like dirt =(

Here's some background (I will try to make it short but it's hard)

My grandmother on my dad's side of the family was crazy and sold her kids to an abusive foster parent. She had a ton of mental illnesses and I think she was a drug addict at one point but I never met her. My sister is 29 years old and hasn't had a real job since 2006. She's been on and off heroin for 3 and a half years. She's stolen from her family, stolen from her friends, and she's even stolen from her own children. My sister is a huge problem just by herself, but there's an even bigger problem. She harasses my mom at work. My mom could get fired and has told her boss what has been going on. Her boss is really easy going and understood (but my mom is old fashioned, just because her boss understands and will put a restraining order against my sister doesn't make the situation any less embarrassing...) My mom just doesn't want to get fired from her job....My mom isn't a strong person and is bullied by my sister. My sister will show up to my mom's work asking to borrow the car, borrow money she never intends on paying back, etc. This is causing a lot of stress on my mom. My mom takes care of my sister's kids, she has custody of them. She's under enough stress as it is and all this stress from the kids, from work, from my sister, it's causing her to have a lot of health problems. My mom doesn't handle stress well. It makes her sick to her stomach at it's worst. My parents should be looking forward to retirement and can't. They had two kids, they don't want anymore. Not saying we don't love them, we love them more than anything, but my parents cannot handle them in their age right now so I help out as much as possible which is hard on me too cause I'm a full time student with a part-time job, hardly any time to myself when I'm not working, doing school work, or helping with the kids. It's even interfering with my romantic relationship....We are all coping with the way life is going but my sister just makes it even more difficult. I bought a brand new doorknob for my bedroom door because she's pawned a bunch of my instruments and electrical equipment, including my laptop. It's hard enough as it is dealing with the addict side....but dealing with the way she harasses us is unbearable and I don't know what to do about it anymore. My mom smashed her phone tonight because she couldn't take the multiple texts my sister sends to her. Nobody can take this anymore and I don't know who to turn to or what to do about it.

Any suggestions please? What would you do in this situation?

I'm not looking for anything for free (obviously cause it's illegal HOWEVER I will point out that there is ultimate-guitar......just sayin....don't see why there shouldn't be something similar for piano....) Anyway yeah I'm not looking for anything for free but I do need like particular songs, nothing I can gain from buying a book. (Not for one song....I don't wanna buy an entire book for ONE song that's filled with other songs I don't know, don't care about, and never heard before.) So if you know of any TRUST WORTHY WEBSITES (not for free) where I can buy and print my own sheet music for good prices, please let me know, I'd appreciate it.

I'm attending community college for two years for music but I want to go to another school afterward, preferably one that specializes in music. I've heard that a bachelor's degree takes 4 years. Does that 2 years in community college apply to a bachelor's degree? Like....I'm not sure how to word this. If I went for 2 years at a community college, would I only have to complete another 2 years at another school to get my bachelor's? Or is it 4 years separate from the 2 year thing? Thanks!

I DONT KNOW WHERE THIS QUESTION IS SUPPOSED TO GO??? (I assume it has something to do with mental health and dealing with stress?) If it's in the wrong section, let me know and I'll post it in another section.

I got a boyfriend in November (first guy I felt a true connection with in 8 years, I love him like crazy) and I started school in January. Things have become a lot more stressful and I've been keeping it together, I have a 4.0 GPA, and things are going really well. I only get to see my boyfriend on the weekends because he works overnight shifts (sleeping patterns are strange...) During the week, I go crazy without him (even pleasing myself just doesn't seem like enough.) On weekends, I don't seem to be "in the mood" and I'm never sure why...I've avoided masturbation all week just so I could be "into it" during the weekend but that doesn't seem to work either. Then, during the week, when I'm stressed out, I'm extremely frustrated and I can't see him at all whatsoever. I have a very high libido normally. (Much higher than his but he's gotten used to mine.) Since I started school, I guess my libido has been....decreased on weekends if that makes any sense...When I can't see my boyfriend during the week, not only am I frustrated but I get really really sad too. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry when he's not here. The stress gets to me, I get really depressed, and to add onto it frustrated...Then on the weekends, yeah seeing him is awesome but my libido practically says, "NOPE!" but then goes crazy during the week....Does this happen to anyone else? What have you done to help it? Why do I get so turned on when I'm stressed but never when I'm relaxed and hanging with my boyfriend? How can I fix it? Thanks for tips in advance =)

So I'm attending school and applied for financial aid which I got. (I currently have a 4.0 GPA) and I bought all my books on amazon with borrowed money. It says on the school website calendar that February 11, 2014 is when grant checks will be dispersed....well I had mine direct deposited and where I live, it is now a little after midnight, maybe five or ten after....and it's STILL not in my bank account. I really need that money to pay my rent...not sure what happened or where it could be or if they're just really slow at it...I applied back in OCTOBER and I got my TAX return back faster....I just think this is ridiculous. Anyone know how long it takes for direct deposit to show up???? Thanks

A little background: My first pregnancy was 3 years ago in Seattle and the very first symptom was that my gums were bleeding when I brushed my teeth but I never related that to pregnancy until after my first positive test. I researched symptoms of pregnancy and mouth problems was one of them. The very first symptom of my gums bleeding happened a few days before my period, not quite a week though.

I'm 25, almost 26 years old and I've never had wisdom teeth. Last week, on Friday to be exact, my wisdom tooth started coming through. (A good family friend or ours is a dentist and said it was definitely a tooth coming in but I didn't tell him about my possibly being pregnant.) So this was on Friday when my tooth started emerging.....a few days to not quite nearly a week before my period.....coincidence? I haven't had a single sign of my period yet. I normally would have horrific cramping, really bad PMS, really bad bloating, etc. I haven't felt a single sign yet. Not even mild cramping. I haven't felt ANY cramping (and my cramps get really bad to the point where I'm debilitated and sick to my stomach) I think I'd notice if I wasn't having a period. I normally get cramps two days before my period but it's two days before my period NOW and I STILL haven't gotten any symptoms of my period yet. No signs, nothing. Just a dull pinch at the back of my mouth. I overheard a conversation at my college between two girls going for dentistry, that they take in a lot of patients who are pregnant and don't realize it yet. They just think they're having "mouth problems." One of the girls said, "Pregnancy hormones cause your gums to swell and if you don't already have your wisdom teeth, the swelling can kind of coax or encourage them to emerge if they haven't done so yet."

Are wisdom teeth at a late age an early and rare sign of pregnancy?? Or am I just worried for nothing? I searched it online and got mixed reviews on it. I came across many many posts of women who said, "I have 4 kids and for each kid came in one wisdom tooth at a time." So I found that weird too. Any opinions on this?

P.S. Don't lecture me about being "safe" because for all you know, I'm TTC (have been actually)

So I have this problem that I've never had before and it's the second time this has happened. I got plenty of sleep last night, probably 8-9 hours, maybe 9 and a half even. I can't function on anything less than 7 hours of sleep so I make sure I get at least 8-9 hours which I always do. I know a lot of people are going to say, "Well it could be too much sleep." No. I know what that feels like. That's more of a tired/lazy feeling and this is.....I feel EXHAUSTED to the point where I start hallucinating. I don't trust myself driving when I feel like this. And it starts a few hours after I wake up. I just gradually get more and more tired like right now I feel like I could pass out. But the moment I go to lay down in my bed, I just lay there STILL tired, STILL exhausted but for some reason my brain won't let me sleep. Everyone keeps suggesting stuff that makes me tired like sleepy time tea or nyquil or even alcohol which I don't feel comfortable doing. It's not that I'm NOT tired. I AM tired. What I wanna know is why I can't sleep! I don't NEED suggestions on getting tired. I don't wanna rely on drugs and alcohol to make me sleep cause then I'll use it as a crutch and I don't wanna do that. This lasts for about two days and then I wake up completely fine. This is the 2nd day so I'm praying that I wake up tomorrow feeling much better. I just started school so I thought maybe stress was the cause of it but then I realized that this happened the week before I started school so maybe it isn't but I don't know. So if you have any information on why this is happening or any tips on what I can do while trying to sleep, I'd really really appreciate it (By the way, I live with two small kids. My niece and nephew but they're always quiet when it's bed time so I know they aren't the ones keeping me up.) Thank you in advance

Okay so I applied for a pell grant which was approved and my tuition is paid for. I know I'm getting back a refund check which I desperately need for books because I'm sinking in quick sand for money to get them (and I will NOT fail over not having a book, no way.) I'm looking at the refund policy on the school's website and this is what it said.

"There is no change to the crediting of Federal Pell Grants which will continue to be credited in one installment on the 30th calendar day of the semester. If the 30th calendar day falls on a weekend, aid will be applied to the account on the previous business day. If a student has a credit balance as a result of the financial aid credit to the account, the policy of the college is to refund the credit to the student according to federal regulations. Credit balances caused by financial aid are refunded only after a careful review of the student's account and eligibility for aid. If a credit balance refund is due the student, the refund is made to the student within 14 days after the financial aid is posted, as mandated by federal law. A refund will be issued only if the student's balance is paid in full."

So does this mean it'll come on January 30? Because I keep looking at their calendar and all I keep seeing about federal grants and refunds in February. WHY it would be in February when college students need money for books NOW is beyond me. I don't really understand this. It says "the 30th calendar day" but then something about "14 days after the financial aid is posted." I registered for classes back in OCTOBER. It's now 3 almost 4 months later and they're telling me it's STILL not posted yet?? I can't get a hold of an actual person, all I can do is check my account. I tried calling the school and there's no answer, no message machine, just an automated voice saying the same thing over and over. All I want to know is WHEN EXACTLY should I expect my refund back. I even got direct deposit to make it faster and EASIER on THEM. Still got nothing and I'm sinking quicker. I'm gonna have to close my bank account soon if they don't send it in, this is just getting ridiculous. If anyone has any tips or suggestions, anything I can do, maybe a number to reach (I live in Pennsylvania) please let me know and I'd really really appreciate it. Thank you =)

I haven't felt this way about a guy in 8 years. Its extremely difficult for me to find a guy who I can connect with on every level and now, I found that. I had a crush on this metal head in high school for the longest time. (And I've never been a fan of metal heads.) I don't know what it was about him that I liked so much. I just knew I liked him a lot and that things would be awesome if we were together. Well now we are together and everything is WAY more awesome than I ever expected. He treats me SO good, like a queen. I couldn't be happier with anyone else. But I have so many insecurities that they are actually causing arguments and they make me feel terrible. It's not him that makes me feel terrible, it's my insecurities. I'm not used to having a boyfriend I can only see on weekends. It makes me feel like he doesn't want to see me at all and everyone keeps telling me that distance makes the heart grow fonder, which is true, but sometimes I wonder if he misses me as much as I miss him. Sometimes I wish I didn't miss him at all so I wouldn't feel sad about not seeing him more often. I sometimes wish I could make him laugh as hard as he makes me laugh and because I don't, it makes me feel like I'm boring. I've never been so insecure with a boyfriend and it's because I love him a lot and I don't want him to get annoyed. How can I get over these before they wreck everything? Me and him have liked each other for years and never knew it. I'd hate to think that this could ruin our relationship =(

I know everyone will say "talk to him," which is what I'd LIKE to do but I don't want to end up crying because he might not understand. One of my biggest fears is confrontation, especially with people I care about so I avoid it at all costs with anyone I love. I don't want him to feel like I'm confronting him about anything. Please help =(

I want to learn French to try something new. I love learning stuff like this but my memory is awful. I am great at pronunciation but I can never seem to remember anything I learn. I want to wear headphones to bed that have French lessons for beginners playing all night and still study it during the daytime. Will this improve my memory? Do subliminal messages actually work if I study for at least 3 hours during the day? If it won't help improve my memory, what will? It's not bad due to a had injury, I've just always had a bad memory. I can't memorize things easily. Please help and thank u in advance!!!

So I've had this guy friend for 7 years (since high school) and we're practically best friends. We know everything about each other and I've developed a crush on him. I know he's attracted to me, he says so. He usually gets really sick around girls he's attracted to but claims he has no romantic emotions for anyone. He's tried and he's had girlfriends but its never worked out because of his lack of emotions in general. I really like him and we're talking about being friends with benefits but he said he doesn't wanna do that if I have feelings for him in fear of me getting hurt which is extremely thoughtful and considerate. He does have feelings but he doesn't ever feel the lovey dovey romantic type of feelings. How can I help him with this?

Ok so I wanted to get tan this summer. I've never been tan before. I tried tanning booths but I'm extremely claustrophobic even with the walk-in booths I freaked out and backed down immediately. I would lay out in the sun except bugs tend to follow me wherever I go and I can't STAND it. I'm just trying to enjoy summer a little more and want to tan for a change but I can't lay out without getting stung to death and I can't go into a tanning booth without freaking out entirely. I'm afraid to use sprays because of the streaks people talk about. Any suggestions?? Tips?? Please??

I am trying to conceive but I don't know if what I'm having is my normal period or implantation....my cycle is about 26 - 28 days. The day before my period usually starts, I spot a little bit which is how I know I got my period but I've also been reading that spotting can mean implantation too so it's difficult for me to decipher between spotting and my regular period. I also always get lower back pain around my period because I have PCOS but all this week and part of last week, I've had intense severe back pain with a tender feeling in my chest. The last I had intercourse was on March 4th and my period is due in two days. Does this sound like my normal period or does this sound like implantation? I can usually tell I'm not pregnant by my cramps getting worse but they're staying as they are just light and simple. My cramps are pretty intense during my period so this is nowhere near as painful as it could be. I could be wrong, they could be worse tomorrow, I don't know but I'm just curious before I take a test, does this sound like my period? or implantation? Cause this has never happened before and I'm a little anxious but excited. I don't want to be let down so any tips or suggestions would be appreciated =)

I've been writing since I was eight years-old and my story/manuscript took a year and a half to write. I just finished editing it myself. I've been reading that literary agents and publicists won't take a new writer seriously if he/she has never been published before so I figured I could submit directly to the publishing companies themselves. I've been looking on Wikipedia for hours scrolling through publishers from A - Z. (It's a VERY long list.) However, I'm only looking for publishing companies that specifically publish drama, fiction, young adult and memoirs. (Memoirs specifically.) I can't seem to dig up any information on publishing houses well-known for memoirs and was hoping someone might point me to the right direction. Any tips and suggestions would be extremely helpful. Thank you.

I'm thinking of taking a trip there very shortly. I've researched the country for years and I've been saving up. I even know mandarin chinese very fluently. How hot does it get over there? I'm just curious cause I can't find the answer to any other website. How often does it rain? And my last question: does it snow at all?

So before I go into my question (this might be a little long) I would appreciate it if you could read it. Its an easy 10 points and I'll even answer any questions of the people who post answers to this question.

I'm highly allergic to any and all condoms from lambskin to sheepskin to female condoms so instead what I do is I get on birth control and I have my boyfriend and I tested for any and all STD's before having intercourse with him. Well, I should have read the directions to my birth control instead of treating it like it's just a handout...it takes 7-10 days for the effects to kick in. We had unprotected sex after our tests came back clean. We did it on Feb. 20 (the day before my period which ended on Feb. 26) and on March 4th, I felt sharp pains in my lower left side closer to my hip. They felt nothing like menstrual cramps and I knew it was too early for ovulation cramps because those don't happen until 14 days before your next period. I also have cysts on my left ovary and on top of that, he pulled out. So I thought with my period around the corner, there was no chance but then I started feeling those weird cramps and wasn't sure. I'm feeling them lightly again today but not as bad as on Monday.

So yes I made a mistake and read the directions to my birth control incorrectly. I assumed my doctor told me everything I had to know in my appointment but apparently she left out the most important part of the birth control. I made an honest mistake and before you tell me to use condoms, not everybody can. If I make a guy use condoms, I can't have sex for weeks afterward because I become sore, blistering, bleeding from my actual vaginal walls, everything just swells up, its awful. I can't stand it. It's an honest allergy, I'm not sure why or where it comes from but condoms just aren't my friend, believe me I wish they were.

So what are these cramps? Someone said something about implantation cramps but I wasn't sure when those happened or how long they lasted. What are the chances of someone like me who only has 12% chances of becoming pregnant after having sex the day before her period AND after her boyfriend pulled out and then feeling cramping a week later? We did have sex again after that but he didn't pull out and it was on one of the days I was most fertile. What would my chances be of getting pregnant? If they weren't implantation cramps and they weren't ovulation or menstrual cramps then what were they?

If it helps, I'm actually trying to become pregnant. Thanks in advance.

My period was from August 2nd until the 7th and I had unprotected sex on the 6th but hardly anything was coming out. (And YES I'm TRYING to get pregnant so before you say "wear a condom" please actually READ the question. Thank you.) And I also know that sperm can live 3-5 days inside a woman. What are the chances of pregnancy?? I'm looking for percentage rates. Its been 2 weeks and one test showed up negative....does that mean my chances of being pregnant are slim to none? Thank you =)