Mike

So I ve been with my gf for 11 years. Love her a ton and she s a great girl. Loyal, loving, cooks, cleans and very pretty. After 11 years I am bored. She doesn t have good convo or communication skills, so she s boring to be around. She also has no motivation in life. I feel like I have to push her to set even the smallest goals for herself. Past couple years have been rough, and I ve expressed my feeling about wanting to take the next step but asked her to do some self reflecting and maybe try to read more or work on her communication skills. But to no avail. I m sinking into depression and I m not sure if it s something wrong with me but I want my partner to be a positive influence on the relationship and make me a better person which I feel like is not the case. I love her and don t want to throw away 11 years but I want to be happy. Is it wrong to ask her to work on self improvement and strive to be a better person and in turn help our relationship? Oh,and by the way. I bought an engagement ring over a year ago. It s been sitting in my gun safe. Help.