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Sometimes I am right in the middle of complete calm and clarity, and utter defeat and sadness, and I CHOOSE to cry for hours because somehow it seems more appealing. What does this mean? Why do I do this? Maybe I'm trying to punish myself? Or I really just like it in some sadistic way. I don't know... Anyone relate?

I've been with my girlfriend for almost four years. She knows I don't feel much like a girl. I feel more gender-neutral, whatever you want to call that. And I've mentioned not liking my chest when I'm all dressed and going out. I don't have deep-seeded issues with my chest, I'm actually fine with it... more that fine with it when we're intimate, I just like to dress more masculine, and people think I'm a guy all the time, but get confused when they see my chest (it's not small). I just feel a lot more comfortable when people don't notice their mistake, and call me whatever they want. And I hate the way my clothes fit. Hate!

Anyway, I've been thinking about buying some kind of binding piece for awhile, but I don't know how to bring it up to my girlfriend. I feel like she's going to think I want to be male, and I don't know how to convince her otherwise. Help?

I'm (technically) a female, and I'm mostly attracted to other females, but am also really attracted to gay men. I'm mistaken for a guy all the time, and I ALWAYS catch gay men checking me out. A guy actually once came up to me and commented that he was so sad I wasn't a man.

I don't feel female, but I don't feel male either, so I have no desire to transition or anything. But are there guys out there who could be attracted to someone who looks like a guy, but will never have the uh... parts?