laura

I ve been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I love him so much. Everything has been great until 3 weeks ago. I was supposed to move in with him so I gave up my condo. He backed out at the last minute because he was worried about his kids. They are being raised religious and have been taught that it s wrong to live together if not married. He thought he can talk to the kids but said now he needs more time. Lucky for me I got my place back. I asked if he still loves me. He said he does he just needs more time. I was never insecure before but I am now. I m overanalyzing everything He does. I m miserable. He doesn t say I love u as much anymore as he used to. How do I tell if he still loves me. So scared of losing him?

My boyfriend of 9 months and I were supposed to move in together. He is the one that brought it up but was struggling with if we should do it yet or not. His family is religious and his 3 kids were taught that it's a sin to live together without being married. I am not religious but I sort of get it. He decided it would be OK to let me move in so I did not renew my lease at my duplex. The night before we were supposed to move me in to his place he backed out saying he needs more time because of the kids but he still loves and wants to be with me. That gave me less then 2 weeks to find a new place. Luckily I worked out being able to stay at my duplex. I want to forgive him but I still feel so hurt. He put me through crazy stress and I was looking forward to our relationship progressing. Should I just forgive and forget?

Please no rude or mean answers!

I had a nervous breakdown tonight. Cried for hours and my face hurts. I am so incredibly lonely I want to kill myself. I cant believe that a beautiful 31 year old woman cannot find a boyfriend in 4 years. I honestly cant fathom. I must be a bad person or clearly something is wrong with me. Every guy I date abandons me. THe ones that do stick around only want sex. I have no self esteem so I give in. I am in total disconnect with the world. I have few friends and no family I am close with. I am a bartender at a strip club and the only socialization I get are with customers. Of course none of them are suitable life partners. Ive tried online dating and everything else. Nothing works. Believe me I have the looks so it cant be that. I must just be a vile unworthy person. Anyway Ive decided I cant live without love. If I cant have that I just wont go on. Ive lost the will to live and am just extisting in a dark, horrible reality that is my life. I have a knife in front of me and am thinking about just one deep cut and it will be all over. What should I do?

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I have and insane crush on a guy I met through facebook. We have gone out on 5 dates so far once a week because he is busy. He is an accountant and goes to school for mba and coaches softball. The problem is he never texts me between dates. He only does to make plans. We have little to no contact unless I text him, then he always responds. I asked him to hang out this week and he said he has too many baseball games and cant. I have decided hes not interested and not to text him anymore. However last night I posted a pic of myself on facebook looking hot. He liked it and commented that I looked hot but he cant pick up the damn phone and call or text. So I decided Im over these games so I updated my online dating profile. Well to my surprise this morning I got a wink from him on my dating site. I cant believe hes on there. This is bad. Now he knows Im shopping around when I have been seeing him. Im also kind of mad that hes going on there too. Im confused on what to do. Should I return his wink? Should I stop contact with him to see if he gets in touch? Why is he playing these games?

I have a huge crush on this guy. We have been seeing each other for the last month and a half. I have been so frustrated though because he only wants to see me once a week. We usually have a nice date and then I sleep over at his house. He is a really busy guy. He is an accountant and goes to school online for his MBA. He also coaches softball which leaves him not so much time to see me. However, I am the one initiating most of the dates. He always texts me back and says yes to my dates. It drives me nuts that he goes days without texting me unless I text him first. He apologized and said hes not a big texter but he will try to text me more. He only likes texting to make plans but not to chit chat. It has been over a week since Ive seen him and he said hes been swamped with coaching baseball games and school last week. I texted him today asking if he has time to see me this week and he said too busy with baseball but things will slow down soon with a ;(. I don't get it because he tells me how much he likes me and loves spending time with me when were together. I only feel insecure when I leave not knowing when Ill hear from him. I feel like hes not putting much effort but always accepts when I ask him to go out. I know he is super busy but I feel like he could make time if he really wanted. Is too busy an excuse? Should I end things because hes just not that into me or give him the benefit of the doubt?

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Ive been dating a guy I have a huge crush on for the past 5 weeks. We have been seeing each other once a week because he is extremely busy. He works in accounting and goes to school and coaches softball. We have a great time together and are very attracted to each other but he only texts me to make plans and sometimes I go days without hearing from him unless I text him first. I talked to him about this and he said he was sorry and will try to text me more and hes glad I said something. However, I feel like I have been initiating most of the dates. He seems really glad to hear from me when I do contact him but I wish hed ask me out for once. Tomorrow will be our fifth date and I want to talk to him but Im scared he will be scared away. I just would really like to see him more and hear from him but don't know if that's what he wants. I don't want to be just a casual fling. How do I bring this up to him without freaking him out? Am I being needy?

I really like the guy Ive been seeing for the last 5 weeks. Things are going well. We have great conversation and a lot of fun. We are both very attracted to each other and have been sleeping together. I have a problem though. He goes MIA between dates. He never texts me unless I text him. Then he will always respond like hes happy to hear from me with smiley faces but almost never initiates. He only texts to make plans and never sends flirty or miss you texts. Sometimes I go days without hearing from him. He is a busy guy with work, school and sports coaching so I try to give him space and not seem needy. I talked to him about it on our last date and he apologized and said hes not a texter but he will try to step it up for me and is glad Im concerned because It shows I like him. Well since then it has been 5 days and he did text me once to say hi but didn't ask me out for this week. (we have been going out once a week.) When we are together I feel good about him liking me but then when I leave I feel insecure and am not sure when I will hear from him. Since I already asked him how do I fix this problem without seeming like a nag? It is honestly driving me crazy!

Ive been dating a guy once a week for the last month. He is busy with work, school and coaching so I try not to ask for more then that. We have a great time together and he says he likes me a lot. However, he is very bad with communicating on the phone. He only texts me to make dates, never just to say hi. I talked to him about this and he said he was sorry and not a big texter. He said he will make more of an effort. I will go days without hearing from him sometimes but he will like my facebook statuses. We have been sleeping together so Ive grown attached. I feel like Ive been initiating most of the dates. He texted me the other day just small talk. I was hoping he would ask me out for this week but he didn't. Im confused. I feel like he said he would make more effort but I feel like its lame and inconsistent. Should I just move on and not see him? Is he not interested in me?